30+ year olds, GTFIH

[Gengar]

I recommend solo travel. It's an enriching experience for those of us who don't mind being by ourselves.

I'm too poor, lol.

 

[JohnDoe]

Mechanical engineering and I only make £40k a year with a masters degree and half a decade of experience and it will never get better.

Only 40k? Brutal. I know the job market is bad but that seems really low for 5y exp @SecularIslamist shouldn't he be around 55 - 60k?

 

[BadLuck7892]

And what qualities would these be, lack of looks? Because I can assure you that when I was 15, girls weren't as superficial as they are now after 20.

No, looks aren't my problem (and I'd guess looks aren't the problem for a lot of members on this forum)

Autism is the main factor holding me back. Most on this forum are either autists or autism-adjacent.

 

[zemult]

If you were able to time travel into your early 20s, what would you do differently?

 

[JohnDoe]

I live in a big city. Foids galore in my city. Yet I'm an incel. Proximity doesn't mean shit.

Proximity doesn't mean simply living in a city lol, you need to be in close proximity to foids through work, college/uni etc. Dating apps are hard mode and IRL is easier if you work with them. So many subhumans/average guys find girls through their job.

 

[softman]

You raise a valid point, it's a two-way street. Am I open to it, or do I not want it at all? We'll see how it goes. What about you, what's your current situation like?

Last relationship I was in ended badly tbh. Got cheated on, which explains my cynical statement on relationships not being all that, lol
and it's been a couple years since it happened, but I haven't pursued any new relationships, as I haven't felt genuine attraction towards any woman, and even if I did, I'm not in the best place in my life as of now, I have to get everything in order before I pursue anything tbh

 

[BadLuck7892]

If you were able to time travel into your early 20s, what would you do differently?

That's a tough question to answer.

I suppose the first thing I'd do is tell my early 20s self that Craigslist won't even be an option to get laid a decade later.

As for what I'd do differently if I could be in my early 20s again, it would be in my best interest to learn alternate methods to get cooch. But that's easier said than done.

 

[BadLuck7892]

Proximity doesn't mean simply living in a city lol, you need to be in close proximity to foids through work, college/uni etc. Dating apps are hard mode and IRL is easier if you work with them. So many subhumans/average guys find girls through their job.

I have lots of contact with foids through work as well as living in a big building.

 

[Gengar]

No, looks aren't my problem (and I'd guess looks aren't the problem for a lot of members on this forum)

Autism is the main factor holding me back. Most on this forum are either autists or autism-adjacent.

For me, sadly, it's looks holding me back the most.

 

[Gengar]

Last relationship I was in ended badly tbh. Got cheated on, which explains my cynical statement on relationships not being all that, lol
and it's been a couple years since it happened, but I haven't pursued any new relationships, as I haven't felt genuine attraction towards any woman, and even if I did, I'm not in the best place in my life as of now, I have to get everything in order before I pursue anything tbh

Dang, man. That sucks to hear about your last relationship. You remind me of me, in a way. Last time I tried was at around the start of this decade, and after getting rejected, I've not been interested in anyone else after that. Maybe it's also a mental trauma that's holding me back, who knows. And like you, I am not in the best place in my life as of now.

 

[softman]

not in the best place in my life as of now.

We'll make it through

 

[Gengar]

We'll make it through

Correction: You'll make it through. I'm not sure what I'm gonna do.

 

[SecularIslamist]

Only 40k? Brutal. I know the job market is bad but that seems really low for 5y exp @SecularIslamist shouldn't he be around 55 - 60k?

London yes that's low for mech eng with 5 years exp but not unheard of. It's okay for up north.

UK wages are just shit. Everyone's wages should be at least 50% higher from 15 years ago. But they are like 10% higher.

 

[trashbinxoxo]

Yeah definitely. I was incel until 23, had 6-7 years of slaying, once again I am incel. Being this catastrophically unsuccessful financially and career wise is a hard one to take though.

Adults always glazed me as a kid for high IQ and perfect grades but the reality of what will make you money is extremely different.

Six sevvveeeen

 

[trashbinxoxo]

Correction: You'll make it through. I'm not sure what I'm gonna do.

Don't rope

 

[BadLuck7892]

For me, sadly, it's looks holding me back the most.

I've said before that (in a way) I wish looks were my problem. At least then my plight would be a lot easier to accept.

What's extra frustrating for me is to think of what could have been for a dude with my looks if I wasn't an autist.

 

[BadLuck7892]

Dang, man. That sucks to hear about your last relationship. You remind me of me, in a way. Last time I tried was at around the start of this decade, and after getting rejected, I've not been interested in anyone else after that. Maybe it's also a mental trauma that's holding me back, who knows. And like you, I am not in the best place in my life as of now.

In high school, I was viewed as the freaky creep no girl would possibly want.

My counselor said it's totally normal for something like that (being told constantly for 4 years straight no girl would ever want me) to still impact me today (more than 15 years after graduating high school)

 

[BadLuck7892]

Funny story about Indian men American companies hire for cheap labor.

Some Indian man who was here on a temp visa (STEM job) roped me into hanging out with him one weekend. He then had me act as his wingman when he spotted a foid he liked the looks of. His strategy backfired on him. The foid ended up preferring me. The foid gave him a ride home (and insisted on having me accompany her on the ride, so as to make sure the Indian didn't rape her). She then went out to dinner with me.

I never fucked her though (and the foid ended up hating me less than a week later)

I was glad when his visa ran out (and he had to go back to India)

I have an unfortunate update, however. I just got a call from him (I didn't answer). He left a voicemail. He told me he's back in my city. Fuuuuccccckkkkkkkkk!!!