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Summary: Guy loses his virginity to escort at 29, has a "now what" and "that's it?" reaction.
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"There's So Much More To Life Than Sex"
This is a common phrase thrown at incels who are bitter about striking out in the dating world. No surprise, it's said by people who have sex. Just like how rich people say money isn't everything, first world citizens say food isn't everything, etc. You get the point. I made a rant thread on this.
Actual intercourse is ideal between 7-13 minutes. Source. Add in foreplay (the uglier you are, the more you need to foreplay
) and the whole process is like __ minutes maybe (I'm a virgin I don't know these things. Someone let me know how long it is from entering the bedroom to getting dressed again.)
Sex isn't a big deal. It's a natural activity, and you should be having it starting from your teen years.
The problem with LDAR lifestyle incels is that they let their failure in one aspect of life (sex) affect their other aspects of life, which are important too. This is why OP in the thread is feeling the "that's it?" reaction. Because life isn't only about sex. It's about family, friends, career, personal goals, health, hobbies, sex. Sex is literally 1/7th of what life's about. So when you finally get laid but are missing the other 6/7 important aspects of life, you'll still feel like shit.
Nonetheless, incels' giving up behavior is understandable and can be considered justified. Because human affection and acceptance is the first and most important piece of that 7 piece pie. Without it, everything else can become worthless.
Moral of the Story
If you're an incel but have those other 6/7 pieces of the pie, getting laid will be good for you. If you're an incel who has given up on every aspect of life because you can't get laid, see an escort. It might give you the clarity of mind needed to get the rest of your life in order, and then when you finally do have sex, you'll realize sex isn't a big deal and won't be disappointed about it because you got other things you enjoy/pursue in life.
After almost two months of nofap (by far the longest of my life), I finally took the courage to visit an escort.
29, short, slightly chubby girl, fine tits.
I paid for one hour, but the whole thing lasted for 30 minutes. Still, I didn't mind.
Not that it was bad, because it's not true. But it was not that good either. A little bit artificial. It was hard for me to cum, much harder than I thought it would be.
She was nice, (she was willing to French kiss me and gave me a raw blowjob, swallowed my cum and never humiliated me, even though I wasn't very good at all) but you know, after 28 years of inceldom I expected a sensation that will forever change my life.
Well, I left with the feeling, "Is that it? Is this the source of human life and the basically the primary motivator of everything in this world? It's overhyped"
It feels good physically (but not as good as I expected), but now I feel like.....I don't know. I feel like nothing has changed at all. I mean, I was with a girl, but I don't feel like I've changed at all. The only thing that's not the same compared to 3 hours ago, is that now I'm no longer a virgin, but now suddenly, it doesn't feel like an accomplishment. I just don't care.
The earth shattering revelation or epiphany that I expected before tonight (oh yeah, this is what life and everything is all about), didn't come. And I believe this is what many incels would want to get from this experience and generally, sex and validation from women. But it's just sex, no mystery, no secret, just two bodies. It was incredibly easy to throw off my clothes, just as she did it.
It's hard for me to tell you how exactly I feel. But after tonight, I think I won't be able to care about a lot of things that I did before. I still have inferiority complex towards 95% of the world, I'm ugly, I'm a loser, but I fell like it just doesn't matter. Life doesn't matter. Don't get me wrong, I don't feel suicidal at the moment, although this would still be the optimal solution for me, if I had the courage.
I don't feel like visiting an escort again in the near future. (Maybe if I find two bi girls, but even that fantasy might turn out to be somewhat of a disappointment in reality). I definitely won't marry a woman, nor enter in a relationship. I mean, it was impossible anyway, but now I can truly say that I want none of that. And right now, I don't even want to watch porn. I did watch a lot between short periods of nofap, but now I feel it just doesn't mean anything to me. I don't care about fantasy or desires, I experienced the real thing and....it's good, but not fantastic.
I still know that Chad and Stacy have a better life (and almost certainly better sex) than I just did, but now I don't feel the kind of frustration that I did before.
I'm empty.
I would like stay with this community, because it gave me more than any other in my life, but I don't know how I will belong here. I might turn into a fucking volcel, and suddenly, the thought doesn't fill me with rage. Maybe it will.
I encourage all incels who haven't tried it yet (and have the possibility to do so) to visit an escort. Just find someone, and get this over with. It's not worth the years or decades of frustration.
29, short, slightly chubby girl, fine tits.
I paid for one hour, but the whole thing lasted for 30 minutes. Still, I didn't mind.
Not that it was bad, because it's not true. But it was not that good either. A little bit artificial. It was hard for me to cum, much harder than I thought it would be.
She was nice, (she was willing to French kiss me and gave me a raw blowjob, swallowed my cum and never humiliated me, even though I wasn't very good at all) but you know, after 28 years of inceldom I expected a sensation that will forever change my life.
Well, I left with the feeling, "Is that it? Is this the source of human life and the basically the primary motivator of everything in this world? It's overhyped"
It feels good physically (but not as good as I expected), but now I feel like.....I don't know. I feel like nothing has changed at all. I mean, I was with a girl, but I don't feel like I've changed at all. The only thing that's not the same compared to 3 hours ago, is that now I'm no longer a virgin, but now suddenly, it doesn't feel like an accomplishment. I just don't care.
The earth shattering revelation or epiphany that I expected before tonight (oh yeah, this is what life and everything is all about), didn't come. And I believe this is what many incels would want to get from this experience and generally, sex and validation from women. But it's just sex, no mystery, no secret, just two bodies. It was incredibly easy to throw off my clothes, just as she did it.
It's hard for me to tell you how exactly I feel. But after tonight, I think I won't be able to care about a lot of things that I did before. I still have inferiority complex towards 95% of the world, I'm ugly, I'm a loser, but I fell like it just doesn't matter. Life doesn't matter. Don't get me wrong, I don't feel suicidal at the moment, although this would still be the optimal solution for me, if I had the courage.
I don't feel like visiting an escort again in the near future. (Maybe if I find two bi girls, but even that fantasy might turn out to be somewhat of a disappointment in reality). I definitely won't marry a woman, nor enter in a relationship. I mean, it was impossible anyway, but now I can truly say that I want none of that. And right now, I don't even want to watch porn. I did watch a lot between short periods of nofap, but now I feel it just doesn't mean anything to me. I don't care about fantasy or desires, I experienced the real thing and....it's good, but not fantastic.
I still know that Chad and Stacy have a better life (and almost certainly better sex) than I just did, but now I don't feel the kind of frustration that I did before.
I'm empty.
I would like stay with this community, because it gave me more than any other in my life, but I don't know how I will belong here. I might turn into a fucking volcel, and suddenly, the thought doesn't fill me with rage. Maybe it will.
I encourage all incels who haven't tried it yet (and have the possibility to do so) to visit an escort. Just find someone, and get this over with. It's not worth the years or decades of frustration.
Summary: Guy loses his virginity to escort at 29, has a "now what" and "that's it?" reaction.
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"There's So Much More To Life Than Sex"
This is a common phrase thrown at incels who are bitter about striking out in the dating world. No surprise, it's said by people who have sex. Just like how rich people say money isn't everything, first world citizens say food isn't everything, etc. You get the point. I made a rant thread on this.
They're right.
Actual intercourse is ideal between 7-13 minutes. Source. Add in foreplay (the uglier you are, the more you need to foreplay
) and the whole process is like __ minutes maybe (I'm a virgin I don't know these things. Someone let me know how long it is from entering the bedroom to getting dressed again.)Sex isn't a big deal. It's a natural activity, and you should be having it starting from your teen years.
The problem with LDAR lifestyle incels is that they let their failure in one aspect of life (sex) affect their other aspects of life, which are important too. This is why OP in the thread is feeling the "that's it?" reaction. Because life isn't only about sex. It's about family, friends, career, personal goals, health, hobbies, sex. Sex is literally 1/7th of what life's about. So when you finally get laid but are missing the other 6/7 important aspects of life, you'll still feel like shit.
Nonetheless, incels' giving up behavior is understandable and can be considered justified. Because human affection and acceptance is the first and most important piece of that 7 piece pie. Without it, everything else can become worthless.
Moral of the Story
If you're an incel but have those other 6/7 pieces of the pie, getting laid will be good for you. If you're an incel who has given up on every aspect of life because you can't get laid, see an escort. It might give you the clarity of mind needed to get the rest of your life in order, and then when you finally do have sex, you'll realize sex isn't a big deal and won't be disappointed about it because you got other things you enjoy/pursue in life.
Obviously fucking an escort is less emotionally satisfying than having sex with a girl who genuinely likes you. But if incels see an escort, they may have the same reaction as OP and be inspired to focus improving other aspects of their life. This improvement will potentially make them more attractive, like a well paying job or a wide social circle. Who knows.
