luuk
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It is a common sentiment in our cultures to say that you should never abandon those who were there for you first, who you grew up with and knew you from the start. But my life is a clear argument as to why this mindset is bullshit and will screw you over again and again if you live by it.
My bumass hbs, for the quintillionth time have cancelled on our plans, on NYE no less. We were just going to go to this spot we've been to a few times to watch the fireworks, order some food and have some drinks whilst we reminisce and hang or whatever, and planned and agreed to it a few days ago. But, as always these bums have cancelled on me one by one at the last minute, citing bullshit excuses, lack of interest and 'bad vibes' after some of the others dropped out, preferring to stay at home and PLAY ROBLOX instead, JFL. I would've arranged something with my (much more sociable and NT) friends back at uni if I had known they'd be like this, quite frankly the only reason I didn't was because I'm not gonna see my old friends for another 4 months after this because I'm going back to uni again and I wanted to spend the last NYE of our teen years with them, one last time. I could've slayed and gotten a new years kiss but noooo, I'm rotting on org instead because of these BUMS.
As I mentioned in my previous rant, I grew up with a very lacklustre social life, and my secondary school years were mundane and boring with zero romantic or sexual experience gained at all. I grew up with this friend group, some of whom I've genuinely known since nursery, and it consisted of like-minded nerdy subhuman/ltn incels who generally spent our friday nights playing online videogames together rather than going out or partying. Eventually when I was 17 I realised how much I had wasted my teen years and worked towards fixing things and ascending, and now that I'm at university far from home I finally have a vibrant social life with new friend groups, slay somewhat often and like to think I look decent now (probably hardcapped at MTN unless I get surgery but at least I'm tall) and I'm working towards my goals.
But it was clear after being gone for months, having entirely new lifechanging experiences and growing and developing as a person as I approach 20 that I've diverged greatly from them since we left school. They're almost all still virgins with zero relationship experience and none of them are really interested in trying to do anything about it. They're all either skinny or fat, don't really care about looks, aren't really locked in to their studies or work and just kind of slack on their degrees at mediocre local unis they commute to back home and spend the rest of the time rotting like we did when we were kids rather than going out and socialising. They're all still somewhat introverted nerds and usually just wanna talk about the game or whatever media they're interested in. One of them who I'm closest with was somewhat blackpilled before me and we have deeper conversations, but he thinks its over for him because of his brutal health problems and genetic conditions that probably condemn him to inceldom or something close to it and so he mostly just rots.
But yeah, I wouldn't shame them or abandon them for still being incel shutins if it wasn't actively holding me back and hadn't robbed me of so many life experiences because of my loyalty, but that wasn't the case. Many of my summers have been spent mostly at home, because we'd only really end up actually doing maybe 1 in 5 of every plan we made and it was usually just going to the park and getting food. Most of them don't really drink and none of them would be the kind of guys to want to go clubbing with me or go to the pub or attend parties or anything even now, which would be fine if they weren't my only friends back home effectively preventing me from doing any of these things when I'm here. They get pissed off with me when I ghost for a while and don't hop on the game but I'm just so done with them constantly cancelling plans, never taking accountability and just not growing up from when were 16. They don't take shit seriously and just clown on me whenever I get annoyed when they cancel stuff in favour of just rotting at home.
Tried to get some of them to start going to the gym with me but they never took it seriously, never stayed consistent and never fixed their diets (the skinny ones blamed their metabolism and never properly bulked and the fatties kept snacking on junk and ordering desserts whenever we got food). When I give them dating advice they never really heed it and just cope, acting like its going to come to them some day and that they shouldn't change themselves for a girl. To be fair, some of them are from cultures where their parents are probably just gonna arrange a wife for them in a few years (who will never truly love or be attracted to them jfl) so they don't feel the need to change but still. I don't get how they aren't dissatisfied with their lives, how they don't desire to go out and do things and how they're content with their existence like this..
But yeah I'm drifting away from them and I'm not gonna bother with most of them anymore and focus on getting closer to people who actually give me opportunities to have fun and better myself. Don't feel guilty about leaving those who hold you back, who will never change and who deprive you of the opportunities you want in life. They'd probably switch up if they made it anyways
My bumass hbs, for the quintillionth time have cancelled on our plans, on NYE no less. We were just going to go to this spot we've been to a few times to watch the fireworks, order some food and have some drinks whilst we reminisce and hang or whatever, and planned and agreed to it a few days ago. But, as always these bums have cancelled on me one by one at the last minute, citing bullshit excuses, lack of interest and 'bad vibes' after some of the others dropped out, preferring to stay at home and PLAY ROBLOX instead, JFL. I would've arranged something with my (much more sociable and NT) friends back at uni if I had known they'd be like this, quite frankly the only reason I didn't was because I'm not gonna see my old friends for another 4 months after this because I'm going back to uni again and I wanted to spend the last NYE of our teen years with them, one last time. I could've slayed and gotten a new years kiss but noooo, I'm rotting on org instead because of these BUMS.
As I mentioned in my previous rant, I grew up with a very lacklustre social life, and my secondary school years were mundane and boring with zero romantic or sexual experience gained at all. I grew up with this friend group, some of whom I've genuinely known since nursery, and it consisted of like-minded nerdy subhuman/ltn incels who generally spent our friday nights playing online videogames together rather than going out or partying. Eventually when I was 17 I realised how much I had wasted my teen years and worked towards fixing things and ascending, and now that I'm at university far from home I finally have a vibrant social life with new friend groups, slay somewhat often and like to think I look decent now (probably hardcapped at MTN unless I get surgery but at least I'm tall) and I'm working towards my goals.
But it was clear after being gone for months, having entirely new lifechanging experiences and growing and developing as a person as I approach 20 that I've diverged greatly from them since we left school. They're almost all still virgins with zero relationship experience and none of them are really interested in trying to do anything about it. They're all either skinny or fat, don't really care about looks, aren't really locked in to their studies or work and just kind of slack on their degrees at mediocre local unis they commute to back home and spend the rest of the time rotting like we did when we were kids rather than going out and socialising. They're all still somewhat introverted nerds and usually just wanna talk about the game or whatever media they're interested in. One of them who I'm closest with was somewhat blackpilled before me and we have deeper conversations, but he thinks its over for him because of his brutal health problems and genetic conditions that probably condemn him to inceldom or something close to it and so he mostly just rots.
But yeah, I wouldn't shame them or abandon them for still being incel shutins if it wasn't actively holding me back and hadn't robbed me of so many life experiences because of my loyalty, but that wasn't the case. Many of my summers have been spent mostly at home, because we'd only really end up actually doing maybe 1 in 5 of every plan we made and it was usually just going to the park and getting food. Most of them don't really drink and none of them would be the kind of guys to want to go clubbing with me or go to the pub or attend parties or anything even now, which would be fine if they weren't my only friends back home effectively preventing me from doing any of these things when I'm here. They get pissed off with me when I ghost for a while and don't hop on the game but I'm just so done with them constantly cancelling plans, never taking accountability and just not growing up from when were 16. They don't take shit seriously and just clown on me whenever I get annoyed when they cancel stuff in favour of just rotting at home.
Tried to get some of them to start going to the gym with me but they never took it seriously, never stayed consistent and never fixed their diets (the skinny ones blamed their metabolism and never properly bulked and the fatties kept snacking on junk and ordering desserts whenever we got food). When I give them dating advice they never really heed it and just cope, acting like its going to come to them some day and that they shouldn't change themselves for a girl. To be fair, some of them are from cultures where their parents are probably just gonna arrange a wife for them in a few years (who will never truly love or be attracted to them jfl) so they don't feel the need to change but still. I don't get how they aren't dissatisfied with their lives, how they don't desire to go out and do things and how they're content with their existence like this..
But yeah I'm drifting away from them and I'm not gonna bother with most of them anymore and focus on getting closer to people who actually give me opportunities to have fun and better myself. Don't feel guilty about leaving those who hold you back, who will never change and who deprive you of the opportunities you want in life. They'd probably switch up if they made it anyways
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