Getting closure with my ex next weekend, any tips?

[Deleted member 2617]

What should i do and how should i act.
Like i should not blame her or make her to think she is a victim.
Objective is i want her to suffer and i am much better version and not a simp like before.
She is going back to her country day after the closure so there is no getting back together. I just want her to desire again so she can sometimes think about me and feel painful

 

[Lev Peshkov]

If ur gl just act like you wanted it to happen and make it out you used her

 

[Deleted member 2617]

If ur gl just act like you wanted it to happen and make it out you used her

No i told her i love you 100 times during relationship (biggest reason of decreased attraction)

 

[Deleted member 2617]

Bump

 

[Vermilioncore]

 

[ahe3521starbo]

wish her the best and be genuinely happy for her and for yourself, srs

anything other than that signals bitterness which she will smell from a mile away

 

[Deleted member 2617]

wish her the best and be genuinely happy for her and for yourself, srs

anything other than that signals bitterness which she will smell from a mile away

I should not signal bitterness right?

 

[ahe3521starbo]

I should not signal bitterness right?

no you should not

 

[Deleted member 2617]

no you should not

Why?

 

[JosephGarrot123]

Why?

im going to sleep now good luck

 

[Deleted member 2617]

im going to sleep now good luck

Cya

 

[NVRH]

wish her the best and be genuinely happy for her and for yourself, srs

anything other than that signals bitterness which she will smell from a mile away

Great advice.

Say it's better off this way.

 

[Deleted member 6892]

Why?

Makes you look like an emotional vengeful bitch instead of a low inhib don’t give a fuck chad

 

[NVRH]

Why?

Cuz it's pussy behavior to display bitterness.

+ the only way to get her feeling "painful" is by being nice and distant.
So if she meets a jerk, she'll remember you fondly

 

[Deleted member 2617]

Make you look like an emotional vengeful bitch instead of a low inhib don’t give a fuck chad

Ok, enough reason tbh.
Should i just tell her to say nothing about why she broke up etc? She might seeking release from guilt. I dont really wanna give her that

 

[Deleted member 2617]

Cuz it's pussy behavior to display bitterness.

+ the only way to get her feeling "painful" is by being nice and distant.
So if she meets a jerk, she'll remember you fondly

Dont girls love jerks?

 

[NVRH]

Dont girls love jerks?

The usual jerk girls love don't give a shit when they break up.

 

[ahe3521starbo]

Ok, enough reason tbh.
Should i just tell her to say nothing about why she broke up etc? She might seeking release from guilt. I dont really wanna give her that

just be kind but aloof

if she wants release from guilt, she will rationalize it to herself no matter how you behave

kindness shows that you aren't bothered about the breakup

 

[Deleted member 2617]

just be kind but aloof

if she wants release from guilt, she will rationalize it to herself no matter how you behave

kindness shows that you aren't bothered about the breakup

Alright thanks, should i just have a dinner and leave or take her somewhere else afterwards?
@NVRH

 

[ahe3521starbo]

Alright thanks, should i just have a dinner and leave or take her somewhere else afterwards?
@NVRH

depends on the circumstances of the relationship, but i'd say just dinner and a chat is probably fine in most cases

 

[Deleted member 2617]

depends on the circumstances of the relationship, but i'd say just dinner and a chat is probably fine in most cases

So thats the best?
I can take her to the river and talk there afterwards
Btw if i can smash should i?

 

[ahe3521starbo]

So thats the best?
I can take her to the river and talk there afterwards
Btw if i can smash should i?

the river sounds good too. ultimately you gotta make your own decisions

if you can smash, do it if you want to and it feels right, otherwise don't.

for me personally, i don't like to have sex with exes on the closure talk because then things can get messy afterwards and i'd rather just move on with my life, but everyone is different

 

[Deleted member 2617]

the river sounds good too. ultimately you gotta make your own decisions

if you can smash, do it if you want to and it feels right, otherwise don't.

for me personally, i don't like to have sex with exes on the closure talk because then things can get messy afterwards and i'd rather just move on with my life, but everyone is different

I want her to suffer tbh. If i reject her fucking offer and keep distant would she feel that she lost me?
Btw to add more context, she hit me up after 2 months of no contact. I totally vanished from her life after she broke up with me. I watched a lot of videos they say when ex hits me up it means they passed the relief phase and feeling of loss

 

[ahe3521starbo]

If i reject her fucking offer and keep distant would she feel that she lost me?

yeah, definitely

but you should do what you want for yourself rather than what you think will make her suffer the most. she will be able to tell if you're actively trying to hurt her, and the paradoxical result will be that you'll hurt her less. that's why i keep harping that you should do whatever you want and what feels right to you, that's what a low inhib guy who genuinely doesn't care would do

 

[Deleted member 2617]

yeah, definitely

but you should do what you want for yourself rather than what you think will make her suffer the most. she will be able to tell if you're actively trying to hurt her, and the paradoxical result will be that you'll hurt her less. that's why i keep harping that you should do whatever you want and what feels right to you, that's what a low inhib guy who genuinely doesn't care would do

I did what i wanted to do with her in relationship like telling her i love her so much and im pretty sure it made me low value and she lost desire to me. I think i need some tactics.
In same time many guys want to show bitterness or trigger guilt or play victim which is gonna cause the backfire

 

[ahe3521starbo]

like i said, the only tactic you need is to be kind but aloof

 

[Deleted member 2617]

like i said, the only tactic you need is to be kind but aloof

Alright. Thanks it was really useful help tbh

 

[fukmylyf]

KILL HER.