antiantifa
Fuck you.
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I (24M) and my GF(24F) have already been together for 6 years, 5 of them living together. We always had some problems with sex. It seemed to me that she didn't feel like she needed/wanted it. I always thought it was connected with something external or that she needed time to get into it.
Everything else in the relationship was perfect, except we were close to breaking up from time to time because I didn't want to be in the couple without any sexual interaction at all.
Now she is fighting depression and working with a therapist. She told me yesterday that she probably, never wanted me sexually, and I'm, probably, totally not of her type. But at the same time, she says that I'm 8/10. She said that she has fantasies about other guys, which turns her up, but not me. At the same time, she doesn't want to break up (reunited after 1-month "pause"). We feel good living together and being a couple, we plan the future together and feel inspired by such dreams.
But after all... I feel upset because of it. Half of me wants to believe that she might change after curing depression, changing birth control pills, discover herself more (she always had problems with masturbation). Another half of me thinks that I'm wasting my youth.
The most disappointing thing to me is that she sends me "mixed signals" occasionally. For example, she said two days ago that "maybe she feels something to me but very rarely." Also, I remember our first year. We didn't have classic sex (the doctor advised her to wait 1-2 years because of some health problems), but we couldn't get enough of each other. Now she seems not to remember that time and says that, maybe, she was just interested in new experience, but not in me directly.
For now, I'm waiting for her to fix all her health problems and, first of all - depression. Not gonna think about the future too much and will try not to lose self-confidence completely.
Everything else in the relationship was perfect, except we were close to breaking up from time to time because I didn't want to be in the couple without any sexual interaction at all.
Now she is fighting depression and working with a therapist. She told me yesterday that she probably, never wanted me sexually, and I'm, probably, totally not of her type. But at the same time, she says that I'm 8/10. She said that she has fantasies about other guys, which turns her up, but not me. At the same time, she doesn't want to break up (reunited after 1-month "pause"). We feel good living together and being a couple, we plan the future together and feel inspired by such dreams.
But after all... I feel upset because of it. Half of me wants to believe that she might change after curing depression, changing birth control pills, discover herself more (she always had problems with masturbation). Another half of me thinks that I'm wasting my youth.
The most disappointing thing to me is that she sends me "mixed signals" occasionally. For example, she said two days ago that "maybe she feels something to me but very rarely." Also, I remember our first year. We didn't have classic sex (the doctor advised her to wait 1-2 years because of some health problems), but we couldn't get enough of each other. Now she seems not to remember that time and says that, maybe, she was just interested in new experience, but not in me directly.
For now, I'm waiting for her to fix all her health problems and, first of all - depression. Not gonna think about the future too much and will try not to lose self-confidence completely.
