
averagenormie
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She is your gf but not exclusive to you, you're just one of her rosterI am really freaking out right now and hope you guys can help me.
My girlfriend of 2,5 years has cheated and I already forgave her. Now I learned that the sex was much worse than I expected and I don't know how to handle this.
It happened about 2 month ago. My girlfriend was at a party at the shared apartment of some of her friends. Nothing special. I wasn't in town as I had to work in a different city.
The next day she called me crying and told me that she had cheated. I was shocked. When I came back the day after that, we had a long talk. She didn't tell me much details and I didn't ask for it. She said that she had had a few drinks and just went with the flow and then had sex there. I actually didn't ask with whom.
As she seemed to be really sorry, I tried to get over it. It took me some time but I actually managed to really forgive her and I thought our relationship was on a good track again - her cheating wasn't a topic at all anymore. I admit that I was wondering about details from time to time but I didn't want to talk about it and thought that it doesn't matter.
However, I was very, very wrong.
Yesterday I talked to a guy who was there as well and he seemed to be very surprised that I had been able to forgive her. I tried to explain to him that I appreciated her honesy and that she never tried to hide it at all. I wasn't able to understand his confusion until I was finally brave enough to ask about details.
I almost blacked out when he told me.
To cut a long story short: it wasn't just "normal" sex with one guy. She apparently slept with at least three of them and did things she'd never do with me. I still have no words for it.
Actually I thought he was making this up but he had proof and I can't get this off my mind now. I don't know how to ever cope with this.
I know that I didn't ask for details but it still feels like she lied to me, even though she technically maybe didn't.
I hate that I went through a lot of mental trouble to keep this relationship alive and now have to learn this.
I am completely freaking out right now