I want to end my long-term relationship. Advice needed

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Hey. I am in a long-term relationship right now, and lately, I've been realizing that I am babysitting her. I have great goals and aspirations in life, while she is clingy and only cares about comfort and love. I have to give in to her clinginess, and be there for her 24/7 - but that keeps my mind of actually productive things. What do I do? I like her since she provides emotional comfort during hard times, but numbing the pain only keeps me away from reaching stuff I truly care about in life.
 
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Sounds like you clearly understand what you need to do. Do it.
 
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just ghost her
 
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Sounds like you clearly understand what you need to do. Do it.
Remember me talking to you 3 months ago, and I brought up the fact that I am scared of this love fading away? Well, now I know that it was just fear and anxiety of me being productive. I don't want to be a pussy little bitch who needs emotional comfort every second of a day, I want an independent boss bitch who has aspirations in line with mine.

Would it be a smart decision for me to end my current one, or give her an ultimatum to stop being clingy? How would u go about doing this in the most balanced way possible?
 
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Put a baby inside her
 
Remember me talking to you 3 months ago, and I brought up the fact that I am scared of this love fading away? Well, now I know that it was just fear and anxiety of me being productive. I don't want to be a pussy little bitch who needs emotional comfort every second of a day, I want an independent boss bitch who has aspirations in line with mine.

Would it be a smart decision for me to end my current one, or give her an ultimatum to stop being clingy? How would u go about doing this in the most balanced way possible?
Nobody changes in a relationship, ultimatums never work. You get who you have. She didn't change, your outlook did
 
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Hey. I am in a long-term relationship right now, and lately, I've been realizing that I am babysitting her. I have great goals and aspirations in life, while she is clingy and only cares about comfort and love. I have to give in to her clinginess, and be there for her 24/7 - but that keeps my mind of actually productive things. What do I do? I like her since she provides emotional comfort during hard times, but numbing the pain only keeps me away from reaching stuff I truly care about in life.
Why would you get rid of her? Foids like her are a rare find, would you rather she be gone 24/7 and have no idea where she is (cough cough getting blacked) or have an overtly clingy but loyal girl? Unless she's ugly then you would be retarded to throw that away.
 
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You're doing the right thing, but it always feels bad man. Been there a lot. Let her down easy but don't string her along or waste her time
 
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Why would you get rid of her? Foids like her are a rare find, would you rather she be gone 24/7 and have no idea where she is (cough cough getting blacked) or have an overtly clingy but loyal girl? Unless she's ugly then you would be retarded to throw that away.
Because that means I use her for emotional comfort, and comfort breeds incompetence. I liked her being clingy at first, but then you realize that you just use that as one big cope. The more I think about it, the more I realize that FWB is the best
 
Also don't listen to anyone who says you're making a mistake. They have a scarcity mentality because they're projecting their problems on to you. You can do better
 
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You're doing the right thing, but it always feels bad man. Been there a lot. Let her down easy but don't string her along or waste her time
Is it just part of growing up? Around what age did you have to do that?
 
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Also don't listen to anyone who says you're making a mistake. They have a scarcity mentality because they're projecting their problems on to you. You can do better
I love that. That's a brand new outlook on life you just gave me. Thank u
 
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Is it just part of growing up? Around what age did you have to do that?
Yep

14. I cried in the shower afterwards :lul::lul::lul:
 
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You are lucky that it was early for you. I am going through this at 18
We all have different developmental trajectories, but better late than never. You'll be fine dude, totally normal to feel like absolute shit dumping a girl

Hell I still do, I just get it over with tho
 
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We all have different developmental trajectories, but better late than never. You'll be fine dude, totally normal to feel like absolute shit dumping a girl

Hell I still do, I just get it over with tho
I bet air feels so fresh when you finally get that over with. Should I let her know, or should I give her a chance to adapt as I grow more distant?
 
I bet air feels so fresh when you finally get that over with. Should I let her know, or should I give her a chance to adapt as I grow more distant?
you could also send her this video
 
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I bet air feels so fresh when you finally get that over with. Should I let her know, or should I give her a chance to adapt as I grow more distant?
Tbh just cut it off cold turkey, stringing her along will make it harder on both of you
 
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Chad has natural aspirations and doesn't catch feelings. I am only trying to become chad.
u trippin over a bitch bro? :soy::soy::soy::feelswah::feelswah::feelswah::feelswah:
 
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No . Keep her
 
ye cuz i dont see her as a bitch. how do i start seeing her as one?
when u realize the fact she’s into a loser who’s uses an incel forum daily :feelsgood::feelsgood:
 
Hey. I am in a long-term relationship right now, and lately, I've been realizing that I am babysitting her. I have great goals and aspirations in life, while she is clingy and only cares about comfort and love. I have to give in to her clinginess, and be there for her 24/7 - but that keeps my mind of actually productive things. What do I do? I like her since she provides emotional comfort during hard times, but numbing the pain only keeps me away from reaching stuff I truly care about in life.
First of all fix yourself. Stop thinking you need anyone else for "emotional comfort". Seems like all the bombardment from the media over the years has gotten men to believe they're more like women than is actually the case. Dude, men don't need "emotional support". If talking about stuff makes you feel better it's because of a placebo effect. The only time talking about my feelings doesn't feel like I'm wasting my time is when I confront someone about something they did that pisses me off, which needed to be addressed. Quit allowing society to gaslight you out of your own nature as a man.
 
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First of all fix yourself. Stop thinking you need anyone else for "emotional comfort". Seems like all the bombardment from the media over the years has gotten men to believe they're more like women than is actually the case. Dude, men don't need "emotional support". If talking about stuff makes you feel better it's because of a placebo effect. The only time talking about my feelings doesn't feel like I'm wasting my time is when I confront someone about something they did that pisses me off, which needed to be addressed. Quit allowing society to gaslight you out of your own nature as a man.
Very high iq. I notice the same with a lot of people around my age, it's hard to break out of the negative feedback loop
 
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holy shit how bluepilled is this site

man this shit is nothing like lookism

basically mgtow get-together copers club
 
extreme cope. she's much more blackpilled than you comfymaxing than grindset wagecuck coping :Comfy::tiny:
 
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You are giving away a caring and submissive woman for nothing. You'll regret it hard.
Leave this forum and quit watching porn.
 
You are giving away a caring and submissive woman for nothing. You'll regret it hard.
Leave this forum and quit watching porn.
I am choosing between a caring and submissive woman, but shitty life.

and

Good life, to the point where much more women are caring and submissive towards me.
 
I am choosing between a caring and submissive woman, but shitty life.

and

Good life, to the point where much more women are caring and submissive towards me.
If you can't keep your personal life going while mantaining a relationship then you aren't being a man in the first place. The kind of girl you're asking for is most likely a slut, but as you seem already biased, go on and see it yourself. Just saving my JFLs for when your girlfriend become prettier and start hanging out with chads.
 
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Comfymaxing = Hedonism
cope. you're extremely soy if you think muh strong independent career w*man will make you happy :lul::soy:
 
If you can't keep your personal life going while mantaining a relationship then you aren't being a man in the first place. The kind of girl you're asking for is most likely a slut, but as you seem already biased, go on and see it yourself. Just saving my JFLs for when your girlfriend become prettier and start hanging out with chads.
Any tips on combining personal life, and a relationship in which a girl is asking for too much attention?
 
cope. you're extremely soy if you think muh strong independent career w*man will make you happy :lul::soy:
Do you think my own success is not enough to keep me happy? I need an equal who wakes up every day with a clear goal, otherwise, the relationship is not teamwork and I have to put in much more effort than what I get out of it.
 
Any tips on combining personal life, and a relationship in which a girl is asking for too much attention?
Just put in "low t" in the search field.
 
Do you think my own success is not enough to keep me happy? I need an equal who wakes up every day with a clear goal, otherwise, the relationship is not teamwork and I have to put in much more effort than what I get out of it.
j*wish propaganda has rotted your mind. a w*man doesn't have to do anything but birth and housekeep :tiny: impregnate or rope.
:lul:
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give her an ultimatum to stop being clingy?
Do this and explain your reasoning. You have to come at this like your on her side though. View it as you wanting her to reach her potential. If not you should break up with her.
 

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