Is there any guide about how to be NT at clubs?

[Nation]

Nothing makes me NT, it seems like I cant dance and being savage like other people.
Maybe Im too self aware...I dont really know but I just prefer standing in a corner and not doing anything other than drinking.

If I try to emulate other people dancing I feel giga autist and ridicolous.

Maybe MDMA?
Phenibut is useless since I dont have anxiety...I just dont know how to act and looking like im having fun.

Im too serious and it seems like I never unloacked my party animal mode even as an oldcel

 

[darkness97]

i wouldn't force it. clubs are a socialite scene. the people who go there and get laid tend to be regulars, and arrive with the women. most women aren't really looking for anything other than an ego boost and time out with their friends. if you feel awkward, chances are there is a reason for it. you feel like you don't belong, and you probably don't which is why you're uncomfortable.

most people would be if they went without knowing anyone.

go out for long enough and bring some friends and maybe at some point you get lucky if it is written in the book of fate.

 

[darkness97]

I would avoid the drugs because you're only doing it to remove inhibition. alcohol should already do that in moderation. taking mdma seems excessive and you're purpose for doing it is not the experience in itself. plus, you don't want to embarrass yourself just by being high and uninhibited. you will develop a reputation.

 

[Deleted member 16270]

i wouldn't force it. clubs are a socialite scene. the people who go there and get laid tend to be regulars, and arrive with the women. most women aren't really looking for anything other than an ego boost and time out with their friends. if you feel awkward, chances are there is a reason for it. you feel like you don't belong, and you probably don't which is why you're uncomfortable.

most people would be if they went without knowing anyone.

go out for long enough and bring some friends and maybe at some point you get lucky if it is written in the book of fate.

False. I’m not a regular club goer I don’t even consider myself to be that NT and yet im able to get laid or at the very least conversation with women pretty easily. If you clean up well maybe do a little looks maxxing and have a good self- esteem you will do just fine. In fact you could have just average self-esteem and have some results.

 

[Nation]

i wouldn't force it. clubs are a socialite scene. the people who go there and get laid tend to be regulars, and arrive with the women. most women aren't really looking for anything other than an ego boost and time out with their friends. if you feel awkward, chances are there is a reason for it. you feel like you don't belong, and you probably don't which is why you're uncomfortable.

most people would be if they went without knowing anyone.

go out for long enough and bring some friends and maybe at some point you get lucky if it is written in the book of fate.

I never wemt clubbing because my ugly face/short height (5'8" 1/2') and social anxiety

 

[darkness97]

False. I’m not a regular club goer I don’t even consider myself to be that NT and yet im able to get laid or at the very least conversation with women pretty easily. If you clean up well maybe do a little looks maxxing and have a good self- esteem you will do just fine. In fact you could have just average self-esteem and have some results.

I can't tell if you're just using this as an opportunity to humble brag, lying, or you're actually trying to help.

yeah, you can do this. This thread isn't about you. you can't project your life experiences onto him because he's playing with entirely different circumstances.

I'm telling him not to try and force a situation. What does he look like? does he have friends? is he fit? does he even know anyone at the scene? Even if he dressed nice, would it be the style of today?

He will either get chewed out, or he'll adjust and conform. depends on him and the book of fate. if he finds a group a friends and just goes out, overtime he will relax.

 

[darkness97]

I never wemt clubbing because my ugly face/short height (5'8" 1/2') and social anxiety

you're not that short, but you're not that tall either. i suggest you find friends to go out with first. work out, and try to look your best. just focus on chilling and don't worry about girls right now. if you need to go to a strip club or something and talk to strippers or some shit. get it out of your system and learn to relax.

women will let you know their interested in you trust me. the times i feel the most anxious around women is when i know they're not interested and i am trying to pursue them anyway.

 

[Deleted member 16270]

I can't tell if you're just using this as an opportunity to humble brag, lying, or you're actually trying to help.

yeah, you can do this. This thread isn't about you. you can't project your life experiences onto him because he's playing with entirely different circumstances.

I'm telling him not to try and force a situation. What does he look like? does he have friends? is he fit? does he even know anyone at the scene? Even if he dressed nice, would it be the style of today?

He will either get chewed out, or he'll adjust and conform. depends on him and the book of fate. if he finds a group a friends and just goes out, overtime he will relax.

My intention isn’t to gas light OP or anything like that. What I’m saying is I’m a 5’9 black guy with slightly above average looks. Every once in a while a girl will approach me (like 1/10 girls) and they will be cute. Other than that I introduce myself to girls I think are attractive and this is way easier once you get into a social flow.

 

[Alexanderr]

I wish there was a hand guide to "NTness" but there simply isn't.
No one will be able to tell you what to say exactly, at each precise moment. You just have to live it, to be it. It needs to come to you naturally.

Go out more often, initially to places you are more comfortable. Go out of your way to interact with people, a quick chat will do, and as you gain experience, you'll learn how to navigate social interactions better. You'll learn how to approach people in a fitting manner, switch topics smoothly, when to escalate, and which signs to look for.

Navigating the nuances involved in the social conversation will take time. You'll make mistakes but if you can continue even so- before you know it, you'll be better at it than most men.

 

[Corleone]

I wish there was a hand guide to "NTness" but there simply isn't.
No one will be able to tell you what to say exactly, at each precise moment. You just have to live it, to be it. It needs to come to you naturally.

Go out more often, initially to places you are more comfortable. Go out of your way to interact with people, a quick chat will do, and as you gain experience, you'll learn how to navigate social interactions better. You'll learn how to approach people in a fitting manner, switch topics smoothly, when to escalate, and which signs to look for.

Navigating the nuances involved in the social conversation will take time. You'll make mistakes but if you can continue even so- before you know it, you'll be better at it than most men.

some of the less extreme red pill stuff is legit to over-come high inhibition that isn't caused by mental illness ,but just social neglect in the past.

did certainly help me a lot after I spent most of my teens at the computer gaming not developing the best social skills.

 

[Alexanderr]

some of the less extreme red pill stuff is legit to over-come high inhibition that isn't caused by mental illness ,but just social neglect in the past.

did certainly help me a lot after I spent most of my teens at the computer gaming not developing the best social skills.

Knowing how to deal with people is critical if you want to be even remotely successful. It isn't all about being able to slay chicks. In a business environment, you'll meet people on a regular. Communication is key.
Say you have a business proposition, you need to have the ability to draw people into your way of thinking.

 

[potentialzaddy]

Nothing makes me NT, it seems like I cant dance and being savage like other people.
Maybe Im too self aware...I dont really know but I just prefer standing in a corner and not doing anything other than drinking.

If I try to emulate other people dancing I feel giga autist and ridicolous.

Maybe MDMA?
Phenibut is useless since I dont have anxiety...I just dont know how to act and looking like im having fun.

Im too serious and it seems like I never unloacked my party animal mode even as an oldcel

if you dont feel natural there dont go people can read your energy and if youre not being yourself youll come off as a seedy creep, sounds blue pill but a lot of fake alpha male types come through and we ridicule them as soon as they leave the smokers lol