AlexAP
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My boyfriend and I have been together for about four and a half years. We have a relatively good relationship and I love him a lot. About a year ago, I was on my boyfriend’s Instagram account and saw that about a third of his following was instagram models and women who post proactively online. He would always like their photos and his explore and reels page was full of these kinds of girls. Initially, I was super uncomfortable with this and felt disrespected. It made me question his attraction to me and made me feel less than. I also wasn’t a fan of our mutual friends and family members being able to see he was following this content because I felt it made me look bad. I told him my concerns and he said that I was making it a bigger deal than it was. That all guys do this and it’s just social media and they’re just “eye candy” so I should relax. After really considering his point and doing research on the topic, I chose to let it go and pick my battles wisely. I didn’t want to be that controlling girlfriend so I just left it alone.
Well over the past six months, I have been working out more and I am proud of my results as I used to struggle with BDD, but now am starting to love my body! My arms are stronger and my legs/glutes are bigger and I’ve been wanting to show them off. Yesterday around noon, I posted a photo on my Instagram. In the photo, I am flexing my arm while showing off my leg and glute definition. And I am wearing biker shorts and a sports bra. About five minutes after I posted it, my boyfriend called super angry telling me that I better take the photo down and that I need to stop being a whore. I asked him why he was so upset and how I was just posting because I was proud of my progress and he said “I don’t need my girlfriend whoring herself and posting thirst traps. You just want attention from other men.” Then he hung up on me. He has not responded to any of my texts or calls. I feel like his reaction was unfair as I was just proud of my progress and wanted to share something Im proud of. This is the first full body photo I have ever posted on social media as well, as the BDD I had in the past made me too afraid to. How can I get him to talk to me?
TLDR; BF is upset about me posting a gym pic though he likes and follows IG models on social media.
Well over the past six months, I have been working out more and I am proud of my results as I used to struggle with BDD, but now am starting to love my body! My arms are stronger and my legs/glutes are bigger and I’ve been wanting to show them off. Yesterday around noon, I posted a photo on my Instagram. In the photo, I am flexing my arm while showing off my leg and glute definition. And I am wearing biker shorts and a sports bra. About five minutes after I posted it, my boyfriend called super angry telling me that I better take the photo down and that I need to stop being a whore. I asked him why he was so upset and how I was just posting because I was proud of my progress and he said “I don’t need my girlfriend whoring herself and posting thirst traps. You just want attention from other men.” Then he hung up on me. He has not responded to any of my texts or calls. I feel like his reaction was unfair as I was just proud of my progress and wanted to share something Im proud of. This is the first full body photo I have ever posted on social media as well, as the BDD I had in the past made me too afraid to. How can I get him to talk to me?
TLDR; BF is upset about me posting a gym pic though he likes and follows IG models on social media.
