Jason Voorhees
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I raised my daughter as a single dad after her mother divorced me when she was little. She's always been my world smart, kind, beautiful girl who went to college, got a job in nursing. I worked two jobs to give her everything, and I'm proud of her.
About a year ago, she started dating this guy (30M). At first, she just said he was from a rough background but a good person now. Then I found out through a mutual friend that he has a felony conviction โ armed robbery from when he was 19. Served 5 years, out on parole for the last few. Also convicted of drugs and assault.
I tried talking to her about it gently. Asked if she really knew what she was getting into the risks, how it could affect her job background checks for healthcare, future kids, everything. She got defensive, said he's changed, goes to church now, has a steady construction job. Said I'm judging him based on his past and that people deserve second chances.
They eloped last month. No wedding, just a courthouse thing. She told me after it was done. Said she didn't want drama.
Now I'm lying awake every night worrying. What if he relapses into old habits? What if he hurts her? She's my only child, and the thought of grandkids growing up around that. I can't even think about it. I've barely spoken to her since, and when we do it's tense.
Part of me wants to cut contact but I know that might push her away forever. Friends say let her live her life, adults make their own mistakes. But she's my baby girl.
AITA for not supporting this marriage? What should I do to protect her without losing her completely?
About a year ago, she started dating this guy (30M). At first, she just said he was from a rough background but a good person now. Then I found out through a mutual friend that he has a felony conviction โ armed robbery from when he was 19. Served 5 years, out on parole for the last few. Also convicted of drugs and assault.
I tried talking to her about it gently. Asked if she really knew what she was getting into the risks, how it could affect her job background checks for healthcare, future kids, everything. She got defensive, said he's changed, goes to church now, has a steady construction job. Said I'm judging him based on his past and that people deserve second chances.
They eloped last month. No wedding, just a courthouse thing. She told me after it was done. Said she didn't want drama.
Now I'm lying awake every night worrying. What if he relapses into old habits? What if he hurts her? She's my only child, and the thought of grandkids growing up around that. I can't even think about it. I've barely spoken to her since, and when we do it's tense.
Part of me wants to cut contact but I know that might push her away forever. Friends say let her live her life, adults make their own mistakes. But she's my baby girl.
AITA for not supporting this marriage? What should I do to protect her without losing her completely?
