Will definitely try to be a cashier or barista next year but for now I’m in a country where I don’t really speak the language. I could be a tour guide or work at a British or American restaurant maybe
Dont do it you will only get cortisolmaxxed into oblivion. Interacting with other humans as a socially inept subhuman will lead to a catastrophe. Believe me, I myself went through it and to this day I have fight flight response when I meet other humans on the street
I mean, I think I do fine 1 on 1 and I’ve definitely gotten better in the past couple years. Still not enough tho so the job would be good I think. I do relate to you in that I sometimes have different interests than the people around me
I have to put on my nt mask to socialize with people
Doesnt help
lol same.
Im the exact same. I’m trying to force myself to talk and smile more now cos people think I’m angry or uninterested
Do u think its because of autism?
No, I was NT and had a pretty normal amount of friends until high school. Corona isolation is what destroyed me and now I’m slowly recovering. First day of college after quarantine I shit myself talking to anyone, now I can talk to people without getting nervous but I have seemingly no charisma
I can talk to anyone tho for a minute or two but the conversation just dies
It's called small talk and nobody really gives a shit about what you say. Just add to what other people are saying or tell an anecdote about the subject or about something you read about it or whatever.
I think I have social anxiety too. When a foid made eye contact with me and smiled(who was my classmate btw) my heart started beating super fast lmao
Interesting... tell me more.
I fear uni is the last time to build social circle. Besides water advice of exposure therapy for social anxiety, I find l theanine helps a ton with nerves. Phenibut too but it isn’t available in some countries and you can’t use it more than 2x a week or you’ll get messed up
Thanks for the advice, I’ll try that tomorrow
Ok good advice since I sometimes do feel bad interrupting but I have to do it
Yes and somwhat mimick the way the popular kids act, they are usually very cringe, rude and vape/smoke but what they are doing right is that they know they are in the top of the social hierarchy, so they do whatever the hell they want. They always act the same around anyone they are with and take charge. Let's say if you're in a grouo project with some more extroverted popular kids, don't be scared of taking charge and being a leader in the project. (in this scenario I'm not talking about stupid kids, more popular and still somewhat smart ones)
If they don't answer you the first time repeat your question until they do so you don't seem insecure
Shit, sometimes I say hi to people but they either don’t hear me or just ignore me and I stop trying to talk to them. Does seem insecure now that you mention it
theres hope for you then. Its just a case of reviving social skills and instincts that haven't been dead for that long.
i tried delusionmaxxing it just makes ppl hate u
There are lots of people I mog loox wise but they brutally mog me socially. In my experience changes in social skills are pretty slow tooi tried delusionmaxxing it just makes ppl hate u
it only works if ur good looking but then its no longer delusional lol
