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Blunder: Being less kind in order to avoid being seen as a “nice guy.”
People who make this error (I certainly did) incorrectly believe that the “nice guy” perception is about a high willingness for kindness output. No, it’s actually about a high tolerance for unkindness input.
A “nice guy” is perceived negatively because he doesn’t stand up for himself when people give him shit, he can’t make demands, he does other people’s work, and he lets people take advantage of him. In essence, he tolerates unkindness input.
To not be a nice guy, you need low tolerance for unkindness input.
You shouldn’t just lower your willingness for kindness output. Lowering your willingness for kindness output, if you still have a high tolerance for unkindness input, makes you a dude who neither can help his own ass nor help others. Weak and providing no value = zero social status.
Don’t make this mistake.
Nanomanlet bully victims are the exception. No need to be kind if people treat you like shit and you lack sufficient physical size to be able to display toughness (physical or mental). At this point you just gotta scrape by to survive.
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@Mr Test
People who make this error (I certainly did) incorrectly believe that the “nice guy” perception is about a high willingness for kindness output. No, it’s actually about a high tolerance for unkindness input.
A “nice guy” is perceived negatively because he doesn’t stand up for himself when people give him shit, he can’t make demands, he does other people’s work, and he lets people take advantage of him. In essence, he tolerates unkindness input.
To not be a nice guy, you need low tolerance for unkindness input.
You shouldn’t just lower your willingness for kindness output. Lowering your willingness for kindness output, if you still have a high tolerance for unkindness input, makes you a dude who neither can help his own ass nor help others. Weak and providing no value = zero social status.
Don’t make this mistake.
Nanomanlet bully victims are the exception. No need to be kind if people treat you like shit and you lack sufficient physical size to be able to display toughness (physical or mental). At this point you just gotta scrape by to survive.
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Social Mistakes to Avoid | Episode 1
Asking normies for advice it you’re not willing to accept bluepilled advice. Gigastupid move. I made this mistake lots of times. I asked normies for help with girls whom I had crushes on, and then I proceeded to argue with them because I disagreed with their bluepilled viewpoints. I realized...
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