Socialising is so difficult

[Allornothing]

I show interest in everyone and am more confident and collected than pretty much everyone who all get nervous easily. I smile a lot and engage in conversation and then I end up being the third wheel in every group. No one invites me out either or wants to see me again when I am literally no different to anyone else in the group in the way I act.

“Just be NT bro” I’m literally alone in my uni flat while everyone else has massive friend groups already when they barely try during conversation. They naturally attract each other without any effort whilst I have to squeeze my way in.

Literally makes no sense.

 

[Krakowski]

It's over if it doesn't come natrually.

 

[Krakowski]

What is your looks level?

 

[MoggerGaston]

gotta force urself in and/or invite ppl urself

only way

 

[Deleted member 26642]

I also had a period where I forced myself to be more sociable. But I realised that I was meant to be alone and it wasn't just me not trying. It should feel natural to be social if you are valuable to others. But the only way I could create value for myself was by scarcity and rarely talking to people.

 

[Deleted member 42857]

I show interest in everyone and am more confident and collected than pretty much everyone who all get nervous easily. I smile a lot and engage in conversation and then I end up being the third wheel in every group. No one invites me out either or wants to see me again when I am literally no different to anyone else in the group in the way I act.

“Just be NT bro” I’m literally alone in my uni flat while everyone else has massive friend groups already when they barely try during conversation. They naturally attract each other without any effort whilst I have to squeeze my way in.

Literally makes no sense.

Are you hideous?

 

[Whatashame]

relatable af jfl

 

[Akhi]

idk bro im sure theres something about how you act that puts people off

i dont talk a lot cuz im an inhibited cuck but people still invite me to do stuff

 

[Deleted member 41390]

idk bro im sure theres something about how you act that puts people off

i dont talk a lot cuz im an inhibited cuck but people still invite me to do stuff

theyre trying to meet race quotas they hate you

 

[Akhi]

theyre trying to meet race quotas they hate you

im white moron

 

[Allornothing]

What is your looks level?

Mtn with weird pheno

 

[Deleted member 41390]

im white moron

disability quotas then

 

[Allornothing]

idk bro im sure theres something about how you act that puts people off

i dont talk a lot cuz im an inhibited cuck but people still invite me to do stuff

This is what I mean there is literally one of my flat mates who can’t even speak proper English and gets consistent invites. Maybe I just look pissed sometimes?

 

[Deleted member 24712]

This is what I mean there is literally one of my flat mates who can’t even speak proper English and gets consistent invites. Maybe I just look pissed off?

send pics

 

[Whatashame]

This is what I mean there is literally one of my flat mates who can’t even speak proper English and gets consistent invites. Maybe I just look pissed off?

post pic and voice i will be brutally honest

 

[Allornothing]

I also had a period where I forced myself to be more sociable. But I realised that I was meant to be alone and it wasn't just me not trying. It should feel natural to be social if you are valuable to others. But the only way I could create value for myself was by scarcity and rarely talking to people.

I literally enjoy socialising when I try but no one feels the same way back and I can just feel everyone merging together in their own separate groups and turning their backs to me.

 

[Krakowski]

Mtn with weird pheno

White?

 

[Allornothing]

post pic and voice i will be brutally honest

I’m not good looking so I won’t dox myself to try and pretend that’s the case. I’m not ugly though since some flatmates called me good looking (means nothing since they’re men). I don’t see how it’s a looks issue since everyone but me has friends. Maybe a low trust issue?

 

[Allornothing]

White?

Yes

 

[Whatashame]

I’m not good looking so I won’t dox myself to try and pretend that’s the case. I’m not ugly though since some flatmates called me good looking (means nothing since they’re men). I don’t see how it’s a looks issue since everyone but me has friends. Maybe a low trust issue?

im not talking about looks tard its about facial expression

 

[Krakowski]

Yes

Do you think your problem is caused by looks or behavior?

 

[Allornothing]

gotta force urself in and/or invite ppl urself

only way

It’s just miserable seeing how I am never first on anyone’s mind and they just bring me along out of pity.

 

[Allornothing]

Do you think your problem is caused by looks or behavior?

Probably behaviour. I’m quiet by nature but so are many people with decent friend groups. I also try to be polite to everyone.

 

[optimisticzoomer]

This was me in school tbh
And also in uni, but I have a friend group of rejects too so it's fine

 

[Graham]

gotta force urself in and/or invite ppl urself

only way

I did that, but now I look back on that and cringe.

 

[Allornothing]

This was me in school tbh
And also in uni, but I have a friend group of rejects too so it's fine

It’s so disappointing I wanted to have sex and go out a lot at uni since school was shit so I basically need popular friends. Sucks to know I will probably end up with a reject friend group.

 

[Gus17]

I did that, but now I look back on that and cringe.

It works tbh

 

[Deleted member 28927]

nah it's pretty easy i just say hi and smile

 

[germanmogger]

Dont try to hard. I made the same mistake when I started studying. Just looksmax and only say something when you have to say something.

There will be people approaching you

 

[Deleted member 23472]

I tried to stay out and don't talk with anyone yesterday and people wanted to talk to me. Even a random foid approached me yesterday i fucking convinced this world is a joke

 

[negativetiltedheart]

If you have same intrest as them its very easy to socialise but if they feel like out of place its very hard.

 

[Allornothing]

Dont try to hard. I made the same mistake when I started studying. Just looksmax and only say something when you have to say something.

There will be people approaching you

I wish. Everyone has their own groups and no one looks interested in initiating anything with me. Unless it gets better after freshers/induction week?

 

[Allornothing]

I tried to stay out and don't talk with anyone yesterday and people wanted to talk to me. Even a random foid approached me yesterday i fucking convinced this world is a joke

I would do anything to be approached at this point.

 

[Pikabro]

I went to uni thinking I’d suddenly get loads of friends. It’s not that simple tbh. It’s just that there’s more people to network with. Whereas high school is too small so it’s easy to get ostracised

 

[AspiringMogger]

Absolutely over you can’t tell what you’re doing wrong. It’s one thing to struggle knowing the solution, it’s over if you think you’re doing good but getting a shit result

 

[SubSigma]

90% of being nt has to do with non verbal communication. You can know what to say, but how you say it matters. If you get picked last, or are an afterthought, then you are either non nt or sub 5. Normies can sniff non ntness a mile away.

 

[shotgunmaxxing]

i talk to everyone and everyone shows uninterested body language, ghosts me or gives one word uninterested responses like they have more important people to attend to even if i have something important i have to tell them. its so hard trying to force yourself into social circles. imagine they move somewhere and leave you behind

 

[Allornothing]

i talk to everyone and everyone shows uninterested body language, ghosts me or gives one word uninterested responses like they have more important people to attend to even if i have something important i have to tell them. its so hard trying to force yourself into social circles. imagine they move somewhere and leave you behind

Meanwhile one of their friends will say contribute nothing except something dumb like “I need a shit” and looks bored af and they will still get attention and invited everywhere while you rot.

 

[oldcelcel1983]

I mostly answer questions like a chatbot, shake my head and say, "yea" a lot, while having almost nothing original to say in conversations.