Brus Wane
A Man Is 1 of 3 Things: Bull, Incel or Cuckold
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1. Because there are too many options
While this may not seem like much of a problem, having too many options when it comes to dating can be just as difficult as having no options at all. Social psychologist Christine Ma-Kellams explains, “I think attractiveness gives you more options in terms of relationship alternatives which might make it harder to protect a relationship from outside threats. In this sense, having too many other choices is likely not beneficial for relationship longevity.”Having an overwhelming number of choices regarding dating can make it hard to connect with one person. After all, dating is something that can lead to connecting and falling in love with someone for the rest of your life. The idea of having to choose one of many can be daunting.
2. Potential partners are wary of you
Attractive people may intimidate potential partners from making a move because they’re vibrantly aware that they have an array of different people to choose from. This can stop the good-hearted and genuine people from trying to make their move and get to know a person better. It can be disheartening to be part of a competition for someone’s affection, and people may not want to risk being turned down.Attractive women sometimes find it hard to feel at ease in social settings. They may experience a lot of unwanted attention, so they are more guarded. This makes them come across as cold or stoic. Or they may not be comfortable initiating conversations because they’re used to others initiating towards them. Surprisingly, attractive people can lack self-confidence. Because they have experienced being used in the past, they keep people at a distance to protect themselves.
3. They’re judged by their looks
After all, this is the first thing that many people see when they meet another person. Attractive people can be judged on their looks just as easily as people who aren’t as attractive. Whether this comes with the “Ditzy Blonde” stereotype or the “Meathead Jock” stereotype, attractive people are often judged based on their looks. This snap judgment makes it hard to make a real connection with someone after they’ve already decided your personality based on how you look.Attractive people are no different from anybody else. They have good days and bad days, chores to do at home, and bills to pay. But beautiful people are often held to a higher standard than other people. There can be an expectation that they are hard to get to know. These perceptions aren’t usually based on knowing the attractive person, but based on their good looks. Because of such judgments, potential partners often distance themselves from an attractive person.
4. People want to use them for their bodies
One psychological study found that many attractive people see their beauty as a detriment. But why?Attractive people often face the unique challenge of people using them for their looks and their bodies. They may be faced with people who try to get close to them and feign interest in them long enough to get intimate, and then being dropped emotionally. This may put people on edge and make them closed off from connecting to other people because they’re used to being used.
Attractive people are often unsure of a partner’s real intentions. This makes them prone to being guarded in dating. They aren’t sure if they can trust the person because they’ve been used in the past. You often read stories about beautiful celebrities finding long-lasting love with a very normal non-celebrity type person because this person loves them for who they really are, not just their beauty.
5. Attractive people feel socially awkward
Attractive women sometimes find it hard to feel at ease in social settings. They may experience a lot of unwanted attention, so they are more guarded. This makes them come across as cold or stoic. Or they may not be comfortable initiating conversations because they’re used to others initiating towards them. Surprisingly, attractive people can lack self-confidence. Because they have experienced being used in the past, they keep people at a distance to protect themselves.In part, this awkwardness may stem from the whispers they hear behind their backs. Good-looking people often have a stigma attached to them that assumes that they’re loose. Attractive people are often seen as sexual creatures and nothing else.
Their self-esteem is stripped from them, and people often refuse to see them as wholly realized people with interests and opinions. It can be extremely draining and put them off of dating.
6. It’s harder to figure out people’s true intentions
Isabell Giardini, a 22-year-old Italian beauty who signed with Major Models, mentioned, “When men see beautiful women, they are more concentrated on how she looks because they want to ‘have’ her, and so they don’t want to go deeper and get to know her…”Hence, attractive people will be faced with the problem of trying to figure out what people really want from them. They’re often stuck with trying to figure out if someone is interested in them for their personality or looks, which can make connecting with people difficult.
7. Their looks can cause drama
This can range from people talking behind their back based on stereotypes associated with their looks or even the source of jealousy. Dealing with drama can be difficult for any person, and attractive people are no different. The drama can make dating difficult because the word of drama often spreads quicker than it can be contained. Everyone loves drama, except when it comes to drama based on your looks.That kind of drama can also relate to jealousy–a problem that can destroy a relationship, according to psychologists.
Your potential partner may assume because you are attractive, you will flirt with everyone around you. They assume you may cheat. This can be hurtful because it’s making an assumption about your character simply based upon your appearance. This type of mistrust eats away at a relationship.
