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Jesus is the way
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Early 20s (21–25 years)
- You focus relentlessly on climbing social, financial, and physical ladders.
- You craft your image: perfect style, sharp body, magnetic presence. You network ruthlessly.
- You accumulate wealth quickly through business, social media, or other fast-growth avenues.
- Women, friends, and followers orbit you—everyone sees a winner, a “chad.”
- Your charm and discipline open doors—exclusive events, elite circles, influence.
Mid 20s (26–30 years)
- You’re the “go-to” for power moves, advice, and trends. Your social media is filled with enviable pictures: luxury cars, trips, big parties.
- You master the art of persuasion and influence; your calendar is packed.
- You have relationships, but they’re mostly transactional or surface-level. People like your status but not the real you.
- Inside, you feel increasingly disconnected and lonely. The constant pressure to perform wears on you.
- You develop coping mechanisms: distractions, denial, maybe substance use or reckless behavior.
Early 30s (31–35 years)
- Your external empire grows: businesses, investments, public image, followers. People respect or fear you.
- But internally, the void grows. You realize your achievements don’t fill your emotional needs. You feel hollow behind the image.
- Attempts at deeper relationships fail because vulnerability feels like weakness or threat to your “brand.”
- Anxiety, burnout, and occasional depression hit, but you hide it behind a mask of control.
- You push harder, doubling down on external success to avoid confronting the emptiness.
Late 30s (36–40 years)
- You start questioning if all the status, wealth, and admiration was worth the emotional isolation.
- Some attempts at therapy, spirituality, or meaningful connection emerge but feel alien or insufficient.
- You remain a public figure of success but a private man who wonders “Who am I really?”
- Your legacy is impressive but feels incomplete to you—like a beautiful trophy with a cracked base.
- You face a quiet crisis: can external success ever truly satisfy?
What Caused This Path?
- Early focus on external validation as measure of worth.
- Avoidance of vulnerability and deep emotional work.
- Success became a mask and a prison.
- Social skills were weaponized for gain, not connection.
Possible Turning Point
- A crisis or loss (health, relationship, betrayal) could force you to confront your internal emptiness.
- Or, you might carry on, forever chasing the next high while the silence grows inside.
Up to you
