SntDomistheRealChad
Did you just call me a little bitch?
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I hear so much about how much being single can help with your growth. But at a certain point I believe you come to a 180 point where you realize you cannot do everything yourself, and most single people end up becoming more and more selfish because you have to be, because you have to do everything yourself. It's an uphill battle imo.
Take common scenarios:
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Take common scenarios:
- Buying a house: if you want a nice place you will have to rent out all of the rooms or pay for it all yourself. You could get a starter home but would need to spend extra time/energy of going through having to sell this once you find a partner.
- Food goes bad easier as to get a deal you have to buy in bulk. If you have a week away from home for work all of that food at home is rotting slowly causing a large waste of money.
- Mental health. If ever your mental health suffers it's basically a continuous uphill battle because all of the priorities (grocery shopping, keeping the house and yard clean, vehicle issues, etc) do not stop once you get mentally or physically sick. Not to mention there are MORE priorities when you are single. You have to stay in good shape, depending who you are or your body type, whereas in a relationship you can slack off a little bit and come back to the gym when it better fits your schedule.
- Work functions. At a work function where everyone is bringing a significant other you will feel inclined to bring one. Extra stress is already in the situation going single, especially if your mental health is off. Now say you have couples that invite you to their table and are kind if you are alone, you are now slightly "indebted" to their kindness and they will expect repayment at one time or another. If you do not go to the function you will be overlooked for wage increases or upper positions further putting you into financial problems.
- Lack of routine will result in insecurity. As the world changes you are forced to change with it as a single person. Girls like dogs now? Get a dog. Dad bod is in? Forget your gym workout for now. Grey sweats? Get grey sweats. This is obviously a bit overkill because you don't need to follow insignificant trends but it still can cause issues say if Tinder becomes popular and you've spent your life not getting good pictures of yourself, now that's something else you have to focus on.
- Nobody to tell you the "truth" or any information at all. I see many times with couples one will be driving and the SO will give information about upcoming hazards or say watch out for this pedestrian or whatever. Single people can not get this extra information. I bet there are tons of accidents saved just from this alone. Now when you're by yourself you are more vigilant, but this again takes more energy. Also I often see men (it's usually men) do weird things and the SO will say "that was weird don't do that" and slowly you improve your general life. Most people will not tell you about your weird quirks and just leave you to reap the consequences of your weird actions.
- General life decisions. Buying a house by yourself? Nobody knows your current situation. You can talk to parents or siblings if you have them but you have a pretty good chance that you are going to be making a decision 100% based on your own knowledge.
- No extra memory bank. This one is huge imo. When you are on your own you will have to remember everything yourself. This means all of your goals will have to be kept somewhere in an easy to view format, because nobody is there to talk with honestly who can remind you of your goals, if you have a good plan for something and you get side-tracked, your goal is now gone from your mind until you remember again 3 years later and probably don't have the time to do it anymore. Even small things like certain types of foods to make. When your on your own you can often make the same types of foods continuously without it even registering, until you make a new type of food for awhile. This is how people get hooked on certain foods, not often because it's enjoyable but because your brain can't remember all of the other foods, just what is visible in your fridge at the time.
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