A Look at Complacency

[Alexanderr]

So, I was (uncharacteristically) browsing r/tressless today and came across a thread that was just filled with brutal blackpills.

But one theme, in particular, got me thinking about something we've all witnessed in other people's relationships, or read about in countless online stories.

It's the story of the man who gets comfortable, and the woman who eventually leaves.

The OP was talking about how he let his hair loss go for 12 years because he was in a loving relationship. He wrote:

"Don’t confuse peace with comfort... If you’re not treating your loss because you feel “fine” right now - ask yourself if that peace really comes from within, or just from the people around you."

He saw his relationship as a shield. He felt safe. Another commenter, Mitias89, echoed the exact same sentiment:

"my gf at the time told me she would like me even if I went bald so I didnt care at all. After many years she broke up with me and at the same time my mpb got so bad others could clearly see it. Now I am desperate..."

Of course, this isn't just about hair. Really, it’s a case study for a much larger, unspoken dynamic: The slow, predictable erosion of attraction in long-term relationships due to male complacency, and the bluepilled fantasy that "love exists independently of physical attraction."

That platitude is the most dangerous lie men are sold.

The "Death by a Thousand Cuts"

When a guy is single, he's on the mating market. Consciously or not, he knows he has to present the best version of himself to attract a partner. He stays in shape, he grooms himself, he displays vitality.

Once the relationship is secured, the mission shifts from "Attraction" to "Maintenance." The pressure is off. He thinks the hard part is over. This is the fatal error.

But here’s this thing: the woman doesn't "fall out of love" overnight. Her attraction bleeds out, drop by drop. It’s a death by a thousand cuts:

• The gym sessions become less frequent. He gains 15-20 pounds.
• He notices his hair thinning but thinks, "She loves me anyway," and does nothing.
• He stops caring about his style, his skin, his grooming. He gets comfortable.

To him, these are minor slips. To her, they are data points in a horrifying trend: The man she fell for is disappearing, and being replaced by a less disciplined, less vital, and less attractive version.

Attraction is the Foundation of Love

The truth that broader society refuses to swallow: Romantic love does not exist independently of physical attraction. It's the foundation upon which the house of love is built. The emotional connection, the shared memories, the partnership; that's the house.

Of course, most guys here are single, we know this. I’m talking about the guys who’ve been with their partner for 3+ years and genuinely start to believe they truly love them for who they are or always will.

When a man "lets himself go," he’s not just getting comfortable; he’s taking a sledgehammer to the foundation of his own relationship. The woman might love the house they've built, but she can feel the floor starting to tilt. The sense of security, respect, and desire begins to crumble.

A woman will rarely say, "I'm not attracted to you anymore because you got fat and bald." That sounds cruel and shallow. Instead, she uses the socially acceptable scripts we've all heard:

• "I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore."
• "The spark is just gone."
• "We've just grown apart."

This is all just a polite, sanitized translation of a brutal, primal feeling: "I am no longer attracted to what you have become."

This thread is simply a reminder that attraction isn't a one-time payment you make at the start of a relationship; it's a mortgage you have to pay for the entire duration. The moment you stop making the payments, the process of foreclosure begins. None of us here are immune to complacency.

The guys in that tressless thread learned this the hard way. They used their relationships as an excuse for complacency, and when the relationship ended, they were left with nothing but the consequences. It's a brutal wake-up call, but it's one every man in or entering a relationship needs to hear.

TLDR: In love, looksmaxing isn’t a destination, it’s a journey.

 

[Finnishmogger]

Yeah dnr

 

[Finnishmogger]

I’ll read later

 

[WhyNotMe??]

So, I was (uncharacteristically) browsing r/tressless today and came across a thread that was just filled with brutal blackpills.

But one theme, in particular, got me thinking about something we've all witnessed in other people's relationships, or read about in countless online stories.

It's the story of the man who gets comfortable, and the woman who eventually leaves.

The OP was talking about how he let his hair loss go for 12 years because he was in a loving relationship. He wrote:


He saw his relationship as a shield. He felt safe. Another commenter, Mitias89, echoed the exact same sentiment:


Of course, this isn't just about hair. Really, it’s a case study for a much larger, unspoken dynamic: The slow, predictable erosion of attraction in long-term relationships due to male complacency, and the bluepilled fantasy that "love exists independently of physical attraction."

That platitude is the most dangerous lie men are sold.

The "Death by a Thousand Cuts"

When a guy is single, he's on the mating market. Consciously or not, he knows he has to present the best version of himself to attract a partner. He stays in shape, he grooms himself, he displays vitality.

Once the relationship is secured, the mission shifts from "Attraction" to "Maintenance." The pressure is off. He thinks the hard part is over. This is the fatal error.

But here’s this thing: the woman doesn't "fall out of love" overnight. Her attraction bleeds out, drop by drop. It’s a death by a thousand cuts:

• The gym sessions become less frequent. He gains 15-20 pounds.
• He notices his hair thinning but thinks, "She loves me anyway," and does nothing.
• He stops caring about his style, his skin, his grooming. He gets comfortable.

To him, these are minor slips. To her, they are data points in a horrifying trend: The man she fell for is disappearing, and being replaced by a less disciplined, less vital, and less attractive version.

Attraction is the Foundation of Love

The truth that broader society refuses to swallow: Romantic love does not exist independently of physical attraction. It's the foundation upon which the house of love is built. The emotional connection, the shared memories, the partnership; that's the house.

Of course, most guys here are single, we know this. I’m talking about the guys who’ve been with their partner for 3+ years and genuinely start to believe they truly love them for who they are or always will.

When a man "lets himself go," he’s not just getting comfortable; he’s taking a sledgehammer to the foundation of his own relationship. The woman might love the house they've built, but she can feel the floor starting to tilt. The sense of security, respect, and desire begins to crumble.

A woman will rarely say, "I'm not attracted to you anymore because you got fat and bald." That sounds cruel and shallow. Instead, she uses the socially acceptable scripts we've all heard:

• "I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore."
• "The spark is just gone."
• "We've just grown apart."

This is all just a polite, sanitized translation of a brutal, primal feeling: "I am no longer attracted to what you have become."

This thread is simply a reminder that attraction isn't a one-time payment you make at the start of a relationship; it's a mortgage you have to pay for the entire duration. The moment you stop making the payments, the process of foreclosure begins. None of us here are immune to complacency.

The guys in that tressless thread learned this the hard way. They used their relationships as an excuse for complacency, and when the relationship ended, they were left with nothing but the consequences. It's a brutal wake-up call, but it's one every man in or entering a relationship needs to hear.

TLDR: In love, looksmaxing isn’t a destination, it’s a journey.

FUCK my hairline is kinda start to retreat

 

[Hernan]

So, I was (uncharacteristically) browsing r/tressless today and came across a thread that was just filled with brutal blackpills.

But one theme, in particular, got me thinking about something we've all witnessed in other people's relationships, or read about in countless online stories.

It's the story of the man who gets comfortable, and the woman who eventually leaves.

The OP was talking about how he let his hair loss go for 12 years because he was in a loving relationship. He wrote:


He saw his relationship as a shield. He felt safe. Another commenter, Mitias89, echoed the exact same sentiment:


Of course, this isn't just about hair. Really, it’s a case study for a much larger, unspoken dynamic: The slow, predictable erosion of attraction in long-term relationships due to male complacency, and the bluepilled fantasy that "love exists independently of physical attraction."

That platitude is the most dangerous lie men are sold.

The "Death by a Thousand Cuts"

When a guy is single, he's on the mating market. Consciously or not, he knows he has to present the best version of himself to attract a partner. He stays in shape, he grooms himself, he displays vitality.

Once the relationship is secured, the mission shifts from "Attraction" to "Maintenance." The pressure is off. He thinks the hard part is over. This is the fatal error.

But here’s this thing: the woman doesn't "fall out of love" overnight. Her attraction bleeds out, drop by drop. It’s a death by a thousand cuts:

• The gym sessions become less frequent. He gains 15-20 pounds.
• He notices his hair thinning but thinks, "She loves me anyway," and does nothing.
• He stops caring about his style, his skin, his grooming. He gets comfortable.

To him, these are minor slips. To her, they are data points in a horrifying trend: The man she fell for is disappearing, and being replaced by a less disciplined, less vital, and less attractive version.

Attraction is the Foundation of Love

The truth that broader society refuses to swallow: Romantic love does not exist independently of physical attraction. It's the foundation upon which the house of love is built. The emotional connection, the shared memories, the partnership; that's the house.

Of course, most guys here are single, we know this. I’m talking about the guys who’ve been with their partner for 3+ years and genuinely start to believe they truly love them for who they are or always will.

When a man "lets himself go," he’s not just getting comfortable; he’s taking a sledgehammer to the foundation of his own relationship. The woman might love the house they've built, but she can feel the floor starting to tilt. The sense of security, respect, and desire begins to crumble.

A woman will rarely say, "I'm not attracted to you anymore because you got fat and bald." That sounds cruel and shallow. Instead, she uses the socially acceptable scripts we've all heard:

• "I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore."
• "The spark is just gone."
• "We've just grown apart."

This is all just a polite, sanitized translation of a brutal, primal feeling: "I am no longer attracted to what you have become."

This thread is simply a reminder that attraction isn't a one-time payment you make at the start of a relationship; it's a mortgage you have to pay for the entire duration. The moment you stop making the payments, the process of foreclosure begins. None of us here are immune to complacency.

The guys in that tressless thread learned this the hard way. They used their relationships as an excuse for complacency, and when the relationship ended, they were left with nothing but the consequences. It's a brutal wake-up call, but it's one every man in or entering a relationship needs to hear.

TLDR: In love, looksmaxing isn’t a destination, it’s a journey.

bump so true, you can never let go of yourself.

 

[Alexanderr]

Yeah dnr

Our generation is genuinely cooked, anything over 5 lines is too much for our attention spans

 

[Glorious King]

AWESOME THREAD

LEGIT IT'S WATER

KILLED IT

 

[Foreverbrad]

It’s water but it’s well written and intelligent water.

 

[sub5outsider]

if you let yourself you are not autistic and insecure enough we are not the same

 

[acm]

this is something that even retarded redpillers say and that I agree with. once the guy finally gets the girl, he starts to chill out and doesn't put nearly as much effort as he did when chasing. I think both groups agree: to keep the relationship, you need to "stay locked in" otherwise she's eventually ditching for chad.

anybody can get it, the hard part is keeping it

 

[slaters]

Damn bro balding rlly is a billboard saying your genetics are decaying brutal shit

 

[slaters]

Whatever happened to your VPA hair experiment ?

 

[Finnishmogger]

Our generation is genuinely cooked, anything over 5 lines is too much for our attention spans

I just didn’t have time to read and left a comment so I remember to come back

 

[Alexanderr]

 

[Alexanderr]

Whatever happened to your VPA hair experiment ?

I was missing one or two ingredients that were absolutely vital. Sourcing is hard because a lot of it comes from India, but I don’t know what it is, stuff from there often gets intercepted nowadays.
I will need to restart it up because the primary reason I wanted to try it out was because I wanted my eyebrows closer together and minoxidil, oral or topical doesn’t really help with that.

 

[slaters]

I was missing one or two ingredients that were absolutely vital. Sourcing is hard because a lot of it comes from India, but I don’t know what it is, stuff from there often gets intercepted nowadays.
I will need to restart it up because the primary reason I wanted to try it out was because I wanted my eyebrows closer together and minoxidil, oral or topical doesn’t really help with that.

Would you mind sharing maybe in DMs ?
And I’m guessing you’re in the EU, not the US
I could get A lot of stuff really easy in the US especially from India

 

[Primalsplit]

It's like a wife getting fat. You know the man is seeing some hookers from time to time.

 

[Nebelix28]

Love the thread Mirin and true words

 

[Daddy's Home]

Aging and loss of attractiveness factors are inevitable for both genders

They are irreversible or difficult to maintain if you don't have the time and resources (98% of the planet's population doesn't have them)

There are only 24 hours in a day, in which you have to go to work, sleep, do chores around the house, go shopping, invest time in emotional connection with your partner, and also have a small window time for your entertainment / brain reward system, to not get burnout / depression (so a average man will be very lucky if he even has time for daily showers for personal hygiene and hair styling, setting aside time and energy to stay in shape or other things)

That's why you have kids as soon as possible, to bond your partner emotionally to you, no matter how bald and fat you may become in the future (women do the same, they will beg for that ring as soon as possible, and also about making kids, because they are tired of starving themselves to look good, and investing so much time and energy in makeup / hair removal / general hygiene until you decide to commit to them)

Obviously, the relationship becomes progressively more miserable, time gets shorter, stress, resentments and responsibilities increase, but all you can do is personalitymaxxing and sexmaxxing at that point, and hope for the best

If you're not "manly" enough to endure all this, swallow it, and move on, you'll end up like this..

 

[slaters]

this..

He was just tryna get the dub bro

 

[Alexanderr]

Would you mind sharing maybe in DMs ?
And I’m guessing you’re in the EU, not the US
I could get A lot of stuff really easy in the US especially from India

I’ll re-read the thread I made to see where I left off and then reach out

 

[IraniancelV2]

That's why you have kids as soon as possible

The ultimate blackpill. If you don't grasp this or "muh don't want kidzz" you're not blackpilled.

 

[Lefty Rankin]

So, I was (uncharacteristically) browsing r/tressless today and came across a thread that was just filled with brutal blackpills.

But one theme, in particular, got me thinking about something we've all witnessed in other people's relationships, or read about in countless online stories.

It's the story of the man who gets comfortable, and the woman who eventually leaves.

The OP was talking about how he let his hair loss go for 12 years because he was in a loving relationship. He wrote:


He saw his relationship as a shield. He felt safe. Another commenter, Mitias89, echoed the exact same sentiment:


Of course, this isn't just about hair. Really, it’s a case study for a much larger, unspoken dynamic: The slow, predictable erosion of attraction in long-term relationships due to male complacency, and the bluepilled fantasy that "love exists independently of physical attraction."

That platitude is the most dangerous lie men are sold.

The "Death by a Thousand Cuts"

When a guy is single, he's on the mating market. Consciously or not, he knows he has to present the best version of himself to attract a partner. He stays in shape, he grooms himself, he displays vitality.

Once the relationship is secured, the mission shifts from "Attraction" to "Maintenance." The pressure is off. He thinks the hard part is over. This is the fatal error.

But here’s this thing: the woman doesn't "fall out of love" overnight. Her attraction bleeds out, drop by drop. It’s a death by a thousand cuts:

• The gym sessions become less frequent. He gains 15-20 pounds.
• He notices his hair thinning but thinks, "She loves me anyway," and does nothing.
• He stops caring about his style, his skin, his grooming. He gets comfortable.

To him, these are minor slips. To her, they are data points in a horrifying trend: The man she fell for is disappearing, and being replaced by a less disciplined, less vital, and less attractive version.

Attraction is the Foundation of Love

The truth that broader society refuses to swallow: Romantic love does not exist independently of physical attraction. It's the foundation upon which the house of love is built. The emotional connection, the shared memories, the partnership; that's the house.

Of course, most guys here are single, we know this. I’m talking about the guys who’ve been with their partner for 3+ years and genuinely start to believe they truly love them for who they are or always will.

When a man "lets himself go," he’s not just getting comfortable; he’s taking a sledgehammer to the foundation of his own relationship. The woman might love the house they've built, but she can feel the floor starting to tilt. The sense of security, respect, and desire begins to crumble.

A woman will rarely say, "I'm not attracted to you anymore because you got fat and bald." That sounds cruel and shallow. Instead, she uses the socially acceptable scripts we've all heard:

• "I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore."
• "The spark is just gone."
• "We've just grown apart."

This is all just a polite, sanitized translation of a brutal, primal feeling: "I am no longer attracted to what you have become."

This thread is simply a reminder that attraction isn't a one-time payment you make at the start of a relationship; it's a mortgage you have to pay for the entire duration. The moment you stop making the payments, the process of foreclosure begins. None of us here are immune to complacency.

The guys in that tressless thread learned this the hard way. They used their relationships as an excuse for complacency, and when the relationship ended, they were left with nothing but the consequences. It's a brutal wake-up call, but it's one every man in or entering a relationship needs to hear.

TLDR: In love, looksmaxing isn’t a destination, it’s a journey.

To this I have to say a few things.

First of all, with me, yes peace really has always come from within.

Two, I was always comfortable in my relationships from the beginning. I've always shown my worst, most menacing qualities, to the girls I like right from the start. I mean at the place I met my wife I crushed a cat's skull, groped and kissed another married woman, and bullied three roommates out of a shared living space while being hated by all the other employees. And everyone knew I did these things. One time I got pissed at the boss and went back to the office and smoked two cigarettes bact to back ashing in a pen holder. My wife and I were only co workers at the time but she was in the room.

To top it all off I've never went to a gym iny life. My teeth have always been pretty gnarly. I've always refused to fix my teeth because keeping them fucked up is a jeer at Western society and their stupid values. I've cut my own hair since 2008 and even butcher it on purpose from time to time to mess with people.

If you've seen them before don't let my wedding photos fool you. I've been doing this kind of shit since I was 21.

 

[Alexanderr]

To this I have to say a few things.

First of all, with me, yes peace really has always come from within.

Two, I was always comfortable in my relationships from the beginning. I've always shown my worst, most menacing qualities, to the girls I like right from the start. I mean at the place I met my wife I crushed a cat's skull, groped and kissed another married woman, and bullied three roommates out of a shared living space while being hated by all the other employees. And everyone knew I did these things. One time I got pissed at the boss and went back to the office and smoked two cigarettes bact to back ashing in a pen holder. My wife and I were only co workers at the time but she was in the room.

To top it all off I've never went to a gym iny life. My teeth have always been pretty gnarly. I've always refused to fix my teeth because keeping them fucked up is a jeer at Western society and their stupid values. I've cut my own hair since 2008 and even butcher it on purpose from time to time to mess with people.

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If you've seen them before don't let my wedding photos fool you. I've been doing this kind of shit since I was 21.

You lucky bastard, you found a wife as crazy, if not crazier than you are

 

[Daddy's Home]

The ultimate blackpill. If you don't grasp this or "muh don't want kidzz" you're not blackpilled.

Not wanting children is very dangerous

You have to have a very very neuro-divergent and alienated & isolated girlfriend/wife who can be convinced to stay with you even if an opportunity for another partner who promises to give her children arises

If the girl is NT enough, the resources and support from outside are there, her estrogen level is as high as possible, she will want the ring and kids as soon as possible. Any form of refusal from your side will be seen as a red flag and a waste of time, even if you are chad looking

(below you see a picture from a live dating and marriage show. The ethnic guy with higher T, bigger frame on the left steals high estrogen stacy from narrow clavicles high estrogen chad on the right because he knows what promises to make her, while chad on the right, even though stacy is more physically attracted to him, is an autistic narcissist with a child mentality, and stacy has realized this and give up on him)

Here's another couple on the right also making jokes about Chad in the center because he's left single, and there are no more girls on the show for him, live on national television (brutal)

 

[gymcel64]

yeah, and when you’re a teenager and get your first girlfriends you have no idea about that and never understand why they leave you.
Nobody taught me this until i found the black pill after a breakup.
Now it feels like it’s impossible to get into a relationship because of all the obsessions and insecurities that have appeared with the discovery of this knowledge, so it feels inherently useless, you just understand social dynamics better.
I think we all wish we knew this earlier i. life no matter how old we are.
your thread is well written, did you use any ai?

 

[2vi]

So, I was (uncharacteristically) browsing r/tressless today and came across a thread that was just filled with brutal blackpills.

But one theme, in particular, got me thinking about something we've all witnessed in other people's relationships, or read about in countless online stories.

It's the story of the man who gets comfortable, and the woman who eventually leaves.

The OP was talking about how he let his hair loss go for 12 years because he was in a loving relationship. He wrote:


He saw his relationship as a shield. He felt safe. Another commenter, Mitias89, echoed the exact same sentiment:


Of course, this isn't just about hair. Really, it’s a case study for a much larger, unspoken dynamic: The slow, predictable erosion of attraction in long-term relationships due to male complacency, and the bluepilled fantasy that "love exists independently of physical attraction."

That platitude is the most dangerous lie men are sold.

The "Death by a Thousand Cuts"

When a guy is single, he's on the mating market. Consciously or not, he knows he has to present the best version of himself to attract a partner. He stays in shape, he grooms himself, he displays vitality.

Once the relationship is secured, the mission shifts from "Attraction" to "Maintenance." The pressure is off. He thinks the hard part is over. This is the fatal error.

But here’s this thing: the woman doesn't "fall out of love" overnight. Her attraction bleeds out, drop by drop. It’s a death by a thousand cuts:

• The gym sessions become less frequent. He gains 15-20 pounds.
• He notices his hair thinning but thinks, "She loves me anyway," and does nothing.
• He stops caring about his style, his skin, his grooming. He gets comfortable.

To him, these are minor slips. To her, they are data points in a horrifying trend: The man she fell for is disappearing, and being replaced by a less disciplined, less vital, and less attractive version.

Attraction is the Foundation of Love

The truth that broader society refuses to swallow: Romantic love does not exist independently of physical attraction. It's the foundation upon which the house of love is built. The emotional connection, the shared memories, the partnership; that's the house.

Of course, most guys here are single, we know this. I’m talking about the guys who’ve been with their partner for 3+ years and genuinely start to believe they truly love them for who they are or always will.

When a man "lets himself go," he’s not just getting comfortable; he’s taking a sledgehammer to the foundation of his own relationship. The woman might love the house they've built, but she can feel the floor starting to tilt. The sense of security, respect, and desire begins to crumble.

A woman will rarely say, "I'm not attracted to you anymore because you got fat and bald." That sounds cruel and shallow. Instead, she uses the socially acceptable scripts we've all heard:

• "I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore."
• "The spark is just gone."
• "We've just grown apart."

This is all just a polite, sanitized translation of a brutal, primal feeling: "I am no longer attracted to what you have become."

This thread is simply a reminder that attraction isn't a one-time payment you make at the start of a relationship; it's a mortgage you have to pay for the entire duration. The moment you stop making the payments, the process of foreclosure begins. None of us here are immune to complacency.

The guys in that tressless thread learned this the hard way. They used their relationships as an excuse for complacency, and when the relationship ended, they were left with nothing but the consequences. It's a brutal wake-up call, but it's one every man in or entering a relationship needs to hear.

TLDR: In love, looksmaxing isn’t a destination, it’s a journey.

dnr what is that black checkmark

 

[thxghty]

So, I was (uncharacteristically) browsing r/tressless today and came across a thread that was just filled with brutal blackpills.

But one theme, in particular, got me thinking about something we've all witnessed in other people's relationships, or read about in countless online stories.

It's the story of the man who gets comfortable, and the woman who eventually leaves.

The OP was talking about how he let his hair loss go for 12 years because he was in a loving relationship. He wrote:


He saw his relationship as a shield. He felt safe. Another commenter, Mitias89, echoed the exact same sentiment:


Of course, this isn't just about hair. Really, it’s a case study for a much larger, unspoken dynamic: The slow, predictable erosion of attraction in long-term relationships due to male complacency, and the bluepilled fantasy that "love exists independently of physical attraction."

That platitude is the most dangerous lie men are sold.

The "Death by a Thousand Cuts"

When a guy is single, he's on the mating market. Consciously or not, he knows he has to present the best version of himself to attract a partner. He stays in shape, he grooms himself, he displays vitality.

Once the relationship is secured, the mission shifts from "Attraction" to "Maintenance." The pressure is off. He thinks the hard part is over. This is the fatal error.

But here’s this thing: the woman doesn't "fall out of love" overnight. Her attraction bleeds out, drop by drop. It’s a death by a thousand cuts:

• The gym sessions become less frequent. He gains 15-20 pounds.
• He notices his hair thinning but thinks, "She loves me anyway," and does nothing.
• He stops caring about his style, his skin, his grooming. He gets comfortable.

To him, these are minor slips. To her, they are data points in a horrifying trend: The man she fell for is disappearing, and being replaced by a less disciplined, less vital, and less attractive version.

Attraction is the Foundation of Love

The truth that broader society refuses to swallow: Romantic love does not exist independently of physical attraction. It's the foundation upon which the house of love is built. The emotional connection, the shared memories, the partnership; that's the house.

Of course, most guys here are single, we know this. I’m talking about the guys who’ve been with their partner for 3+ years and genuinely start to believe they truly love them for who they are or always will.

When a man "lets himself go," he’s not just getting comfortable; he’s taking a sledgehammer to the foundation of his own relationship. The woman might love the house they've built, but she can feel the floor starting to tilt. The sense of security, respect, and desire begins to crumble.

A woman will rarely say, "I'm not attracted to you anymore because you got fat and bald." That sounds cruel and shallow. Instead, she uses the socially acceptable scripts we've all heard:

• "I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore."
• "The spark is just gone."
• "We've just grown apart."

This is all just a polite, sanitized translation of a brutal, primal feeling: "I am no longer attracted to what you have become."

This thread is simply a reminder that attraction isn't a one-time payment you make at the start of a relationship; it's a mortgage you have to pay for the entire duration. The moment you stop making the payments, the process of foreclosure begins. None of us here are immune to complacency.

The guys in that tressless thread learned this the hard way. They used their relationships as an excuse for complacency, and when the relationship ended, they were left with nothing but the consequences. It's a brutal wake-up call, but it's one every man in or entering a relationship needs to hear.

TLDR: In love, looksmaxing isn’t a destination, it’s a journey.

Mirin chatgpt

 

[irrumator praetor]

holy chatgpt, you could've extrapolated this by just thinking for 5 minutes

 

[irrumator praetor]

How the fuck do you get 16 reps for this

 

[slaters]

I’ll re-read the thread I made to see where I left off and then reach out

Bet thank you I’m super interested in it
Maybe I could even start before you since India shipping isn’t rlly an issue here

 

[powerliftercoco]

Good thread

I love when you post stuff OP

 

[Copercel]

Yo bro, what do you think about this study?

Long-term use of dutasteride to treat androgenic alopecia in young men may lead to persistent abnormalities in semen parameters - PubMed

Long-term use of dutasteride may lead to male infertility by persistently impairing semen volume and sperm motility.

pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

This shit kinda terrified me

 

[Gengar]

So, I was (uncharacteristically) browsing r/tressless today and came across a thread that was just filled with brutal blackpills.

But one theme, in particular, got me thinking about something we've all witnessed in other people's relationships, or read about in countless online stories.

It's the story of the man who gets comfortable, and the woman who eventually leaves.

The OP was talking about how he let his hair loss go for 12 years because he was in a loving relationship. He wrote:


He saw his relationship as a shield. He felt safe. Another commenter, Mitias89, echoed the exact same sentiment:


Of course, this isn't just about hair. Really, it’s a case study for a much larger, unspoken dynamic: The slow, predictable erosion of attraction in long-term relationships due to male complacency, and the bluepilled fantasy that "love exists independently of physical attraction."

That platitude is the most dangerous lie men are sold.

The "Death by a Thousand Cuts"

When a guy is single, he's on the mating market. Consciously or not, he knows he has to present the best version of himself to attract a partner. He stays in shape, he grooms himself, he displays vitality.

Once the relationship is secured, the mission shifts from "Attraction" to "Maintenance." The pressure is off. He thinks the hard part is over. This is the fatal error.

But here’s this thing: the woman doesn't "fall out of love" overnight. Her attraction bleeds out, drop by drop. It’s a death by a thousand cuts:

• The gym sessions become less frequent. He gains 15-20 pounds.
• He notices his hair thinning but thinks, "She loves me anyway," and does nothing.
• He stops caring about his style, his skin, his grooming. He gets comfortable.

To him, these are minor slips. To her, they are data points in a horrifying trend: The man she fell for is disappearing, and being replaced by a less disciplined, less vital, and less attractive version.

Attraction is the Foundation of Love

The truth that broader society refuses to swallow: Romantic love does not exist independently of physical attraction. It's the foundation upon which the house of love is built. The emotional connection, the shared memories, the partnership; that's the house.

Of course, most guys here are single, we know this. I’m talking about the guys who’ve been with their partner for 3+ years and genuinely start to believe they truly love them for who they are or always will.

When a man "lets himself go," he’s not just getting comfortable; he’s taking a sledgehammer to the foundation of his own relationship. The woman might love the house they've built, but she can feel the floor starting to tilt. The sense of security, respect, and desire begins to crumble.

A woman will rarely say, "I'm not attracted to you anymore because you got fat and bald." That sounds cruel and shallow. Instead, she uses the socially acceptable scripts we've all heard:

• "I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore."
• "The spark is just gone."
• "We've just grown apart."

This is all just a polite, sanitized translation of a brutal, primal feeling: "I am no longer attracted to what you have become."

This thread is simply a reminder that attraction isn't a one-time payment you make at the start of a relationship; it's a mortgage you have to pay for the entire duration. The moment you stop making the payments, the process of foreclosure begins. None of us here are immune to complacency.

The guys in that tressless thread learned this the hard way. They used their relationships as an excuse for complacency, and when the relationship ended, they were left with nothing but the consequences. It's a brutal wake-up call, but it's one every man in or entering a relationship needs to hear.

TLDR: In love, looksmaxing isn’t a destination, it’s a journey.

I read every word. Good write-up. Fortunately as a volcel myself I am not concerned by all this.

 

[TenZi]

You lucky bastard, you found a wife as crazy, if not crazier than you are

DM