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I (25M) have been in an LDR with this girl (24F) for about 4 months now. She has a friend from college who she is really close to who she says she sees as a brother. She also insists that the feeling is mutual and that he only sees her as a sister.
Yesterday, he flew to her city to meet her and booked a room. She told me that she is going to meet him, but won't be staying. She went to visit him in the room and stayed there the entire day.
She called me around 10 PM and told me that they just spent the whole day in the room, and were going to watch a movie while having dinner. I knew immediately that she wasn't gonna go back to her place, but I didn't say anything then.
But then after dinner, they watched a few more movies, talked late until 3 AM and then slept in the same bed as well. Since I was messed up from last night's conversation I didn't really send her any good morning message like I usually do with a silly good morning video I found online. I just said that I didn't sleep well and sent the video to which she replied "Well it's too late, we have both woken up", confirming that they slept in the same room at least.
This absolutely messed me up my entire day today, but wasn't gonna bring it up as long as the guy is still around her. But she called me in the evening today and she was talking in detail about what they did yesterday (probably to make it clear that she isn't hiding anything from me) and said that they will probably do the same tonight as well (staying up until 3 AM talking). I did my best to stay calm and asked how many days he is staying and she said that he is staying for 3 more days (Weekend + Mon, Tue, Wed).
This absolutely made me fly off the handle and I got on a call and essentially just told (yelled tbh) about how this is really not fine, and doesn't sit with me well at all. She kept insisting that neither of their intentions are of the kind to be worried about and nothing was ever gonna happen between them.
I guess that was the point I realized that I don't even care about the intentions, but rather am simply not okay with my girlfriend sleeping in the same bed as an unrelated guy.
It was this realization that brought me to this sub. Is that last bit an over-reaction? I wouldn't consider it an over-reaction if the intentions of either person is aren't clear. But even if they are clear, I am not fine with it.
Is that wrong on my part?
Yesterday, he flew to her city to meet her and booked a room. She told me that she is going to meet him, but won't be staying. She went to visit him in the room and stayed there the entire day.
She called me around 10 PM and told me that they just spent the whole day in the room, and were going to watch a movie while having dinner. I knew immediately that she wasn't gonna go back to her place, but I didn't say anything then.
But then after dinner, they watched a few more movies, talked late until 3 AM and then slept in the same bed as well. Since I was messed up from last night's conversation I didn't really send her any good morning message like I usually do with a silly good morning video I found online. I just said that I didn't sleep well and sent the video to which she replied "Well it's too late, we have both woken up", confirming that they slept in the same room at least.
This absolutely messed me up my entire day today, but wasn't gonna bring it up as long as the guy is still around her. But she called me in the evening today and she was talking in detail about what they did yesterday (probably to make it clear that she isn't hiding anything from me) and said that they will probably do the same tonight as well (staying up until 3 AM talking). I did my best to stay calm and asked how many days he is staying and she said that he is staying for 3 more days (Weekend + Mon, Tue, Wed).
This absolutely made me fly off the handle and I got on a call and essentially just told (yelled tbh) about how this is really not fine, and doesn't sit with me well at all. She kept insisting that neither of their intentions are of the kind to be worried about and nothing was ever gonna happen between them.
I guess that was the point I realized that I don't even care about the intentions, but rather am simply not okay with my girlfriend sleeping in the same bed as an unrelated guy.
It was this realization that brought me to this sub. Is that last bit an over-reaction? I wouldn't consider it an over-reaction if the intentions of either person is aren't clear. But even if they are clear, I am not fine with it.
Is that wrong on my part?
