untermensch faggot
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This isn’t a big deal, but I feel like I’m going crazy over it. Yesterday at dinner, my daughter (15f) was telling my wife (40f) and I (45m) about a guy she likes in school and she thinks he likes her back. My wife and I were happy for her and I would support her liking anyone that treats her right and makes her happy. She was telling us how he’s smart, funny, and has a great 6-pack (I’m used to the girl talk). My wife laughed and said something along the lines of, “as long as he’s a good person”. My daughter replied, “Well yeah, but looks are also important. I don’t want to end up with someone like daddy.” I asked her what she meant by that. I don’t remember her exact words but it was along the lines of that I’m round, bald and short. There was no immediate just kidding from her.
I told her that that wasn’t a nice thing to say to and that she should apologize. Before she said anything though, my wife chimed in teasing that guys were always so sensitive. My daughter laughed. I usually would immediately address this kind of situation, but I was pretty upset and didn’t want to scream or cry (I know that’s so lame). I stayed mostly silent for the rest of dinner.
A bit of background, I’ve recently been feeling more self conscious. I’m not ugly (even if I was, I have other qualities to make up for it!) and I know that my wife adores me, but I’ve definitely noticeably gained some weight and lost some hair. My wife is as stunning and youthful as the day I met her, and my daughter is the spitting image of her. However, I have a feeling that if my daughter insulted her appearance she would be very offended and expect me to back her up.
Before bed, I addressed the issue with my wife. I explained that it hurt my feelings, that I want to teach my daughter to be kind to others, and that it would mean a lot if we could both talk to my daughter about why saying that was not right. My wife didn’t take me seriously at all. Among the things she said was that the best way to make someone stop teasing you is to ignore it (I don’t want to treat my daughter like a middle school bully!), and that she (my wife) was also materialistic at that age but grew out of it on her own. She also said that I was asking for it by asking her what she meant. I told my wife that I was disappointed in her and I would be talking to my daughter alone when she comes home from school today.
I plan on talking to my daughter today, both because I’m still offended and I really dont want her to say that to anyone else. I don’t plan on punishing her, just having an honest conversation and seeing where it goes. Nonetheless, I’m partially wondering if I’m the asshole for escalating the situation since it’s a one-off occurrence?
I told her that that wasn’t a nice thing to say to and that she should apologize. Before she said anything though, my wife chimed in teasing that guys were always so sensitive. My daughter laughed. I usually would immediately address this kind of situation, but I was pretty upset and didn’t want to scream or cry (I know that’s so lame). I stayed mostly silent for the rest of dinner.
A bit of background, I’ve recently been feeling more self conscious. I’m not ugly (even if I was, I have other qualities to make up for it!) and I know that my wife adores me, but I’ve definitely noticeably gained some weight and lost some hair. My wife is as stunning and youthful as the day I met her, and my daughter is the spitting image of her. However, I have a feeling that if my daughter insulted her appearance she would be very offended and expect me to back her up.
Before bed, I addressed the issue with my wife. I explained that it hurt my feelings, that I want to teach my daughter to be kind to others, and that it would mean a lot if we could both talk to my daughter about why saying that was not right. My wife didn’t take me seriously at all. Among the things she said was that the best way to make someone stop teasing you is to ignore it (I don’t want to treat my daughter like a middle school bully!), and that she (my wife) was also materialistic at that age but grew out of it on her own. She also said that I was asking for it by asking her what she meant. I told my wife that I was disappointed in her and I would be talking to my daughter alone when she comes home from school today.
I plan on talking to my daughter today, both because I’m still offended and I really dont want her to say that to anyone else. I don’t plan on punishing her, just having an honest conversation and seeing where it goes. Nonetheless, I’m partially wondering if I’m the asshole for escalating the situation since it’s a one-off occurrence?
