optimisticzoomer
Salutations my children
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So here’s the thing... I’ve been married to my husband for a year now, and I honestly don’t know how I got so lucky. He’s the best husband I could ever ask for. He’s kind, funny, loving, hard-working, and just all-around amazing. I know I’m biased, but I really do believe I hit the jackpot with him.
But my parents have never liked him. I don’t know why. It started small at first, just little comments here and there like how he doesn’t talk enough at family dinners or how he doesn’t “help” as much as they think he should. At first, I just brushed it off, thinking maybe they were just getting used to him or whatever. I tried to tell them that he works a lot and he’s doing his best to help out when he can, but it felt like they were still picking at him for no reason.
Over time, it got worse. They started questioning everything about him: his job,his attitude. I defended him every time, but it got to a point where it started wearing on me. I kept telling them that they were being unfair and they needed to stop, but it just didn’t seem to sink in. Every time we got together, they’d make little digs, and it started to feel like they were just waiting for any excuse to criticize him.
So, last night, we had dinner at my parents' house, and things went south pretty quickly. We were just eating and chatting, and my dad made some comment about how my husband “lacked ambition” because his job isn’t as high-paying as they think it should be. Then my mom jumped in, saying he wasn’t “engaged” with the family the way she expected. I was furious. My husband was sitting right there, and I could see how uncomfortable he was getting. It was like they were just ripping him apart in front of everyone.
At that point, I just lost it. I told them they needed to stop treating my husband like he wasn’t good enough. I told them that he’s an amazing man, he works hard for our family, and if they couldn’t see that, then they didn’t have to be part of it anymore. I might’ve said it louder than I should’ve, but I was so fed up with their constant criticisms. My husband doesn’t deserve that, and neither do I.
The room went completely silent after that. My dad tried to defend himself, saying he was just “trying to help,” but I wasn’t having it. It felt like they were just using their “concern” as an excuse to tear him down, and I wasn’t going to stand by and let it happen anymore.
The rest of the night was super awkward, and my husband ended up feeling really uncomfortable too, which I hated. Afterward, I apologized to him, but I don’t regret what I said to my parents. They needed to hear it.
Now they’re not talking to me, and some of my extended family members are saying I overreacted. They think I should’ve just kept my cool and not made such a big deal out of it. But honestly, I don’t think I was wrong. I’ve been patient with them for months, and they just kept going at him. My husband doesn’t deserve to be constantly criticized, and I’m not going to just sit back and let it happen.
So, AITA for standing up for my husband and causing a rift in the family?
But my parents have never liked him. I don’t know why. It started small at first, just little comments here and there like how he doesn’t talk enough at family dinners or how he doesn’t “help” as much as they think he should. At first, I just brushed it off, thinking maybe they were just getting used to him or whatever. I tried to tell them that he works a lot and he’s doing his best to help out when he can, but it felt like they were still picking at him for no reason.
Over time, it got worse. They started questioning everything about him: his job,his attitude. I defended him every time, but it got to a point where it started wearing on me. I kept telling them that they were being unfair and they needed to stop, but it just didn’t seem to sink in. Every time we got together, they’d make little digs, and it started to feel like they were just waiting for any excuse to criticize him.
So, last night, we had dinner at my parents' house, and things went south pretty quickly. We were just eating and chatting, and my dad made some comment about how my husband “lacked ambition” because his job isn’t as high-paying as they think it should be. Then my mom jumped in, saying he wasn’t “engaged” with the family the way she expected. I was furious. My husband was sitting right there, and I could see how uncomfortable he was getting. It was like they were just ripping him apart in front of everyone.
At that point, I just lost it. I told them they needed to stop treating my husband like he wasn’t good enough. I told them that he’s an amazing man, he works hard for our family, and if they couldn’t see that, then they didn’t have to be part of it anymore. I might’ve said it louder than I should’ve, but I was so fed up with their constant criticisms. My husband doesn’t deserve that, and neither do I.
The room went completely silent after that. My dad tried to defend himself, saying he was just “trying to help,” but I wasn’t having it. It felt like they were just using their “concern” as an excuse to tear him down, and I wasn’t going to stand by and let it happen anymore.
The rest of the night was super awkward, and my husband ended up feeling really uncomfortable too, which I hated. Afterward, I apologized to him, but I don’t regret what I said to my parents. They needed to hear it.
Now they’re not talking to me, and some of my extended family members are saying I overreacted. They think I should’ve just kept my cool and not made such a big deal out of it. But honestly, I don’t think I was wrong. I’ve been patient with them for months, and they just kept going at him. My husband doesn’t deserve to be constantly criticized, and I’m not going to just sit back and let it happen.
So, AITA for standing up for my husband and causing a rift in the family?
