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This happened a couple of years ago and I still feel embarrassed when the memory surfaces.
I (31M) work as a lead photographer with a mostly female crew of stylists. I had just returned to work from a long weekend trip and was having lunch in the break room with my team. Typical small talk was occurring and my vacation was asked about. I told everybody that I had a great time in Random City and that we had so many amazing meals. I went on to talk about this one restaurant where even the bread blew my mind because it was so good! I said “They made this delicious bread called ‘focaccia’ which is an Italian pull apart bread with herbs that you dip in olive oil...” One of my coworkers at they table got an upset look on her face and replied “Wow, thanks for mansplaining. Are you going to explain the fajitas she’s currently eating next?” Everybody at the table laughed. I turned red, apologized, and finished my lunch quietly.
At first I felt like TA, but the more I thought about it... she’s not a baker! I thought it was an obscure type of bread. I had never had it before and have been to many Italian restaurants. I always thought mansplaining was explaining something obvious in a condescending way. Like trying explain vaccines to a doctor or telling a mechanic how to check tire pressure.
My wife says I did nothing wrong but all the ladies at the table laughed at me and seemed to agree. So AITA here?
I (31M) work as a lead photographer with a mostly female crew of stylists. I had just returned to work from a long weekend trip and was having lunch in the break room with my team. Typical small talk was occurring and my vacation was asked about. I told everybody that I had a great time in Random City and that we had so many amazing meals. I went on to talk about this one restaurant where even the bread blew my mind because it was so good! I said “They made this delicious bread called ‘focaccia’ which is an Italian pull apart bread with herbs that you dip in olive oil...” One of my coworkers at they table got an upset look on her face and replied “Wow, thanks for mansplaining. Are you going to explain the fajitas she’s currently eating next?” Everybody at the table laughed. I turned red, apologized, and finished my lunch quietly.
At first I felt like TA, but the more I thought about it... she’s not a baker! I thought it was an obscure type of bread. I had never had it before and have been to many Italian restaurants. I always thought mansplaining was explaining something obvious in a condescending way. Like trying explain vaccines to a doctor or telling a mechanic how to check tire pressure.
My wife says I did nothing wrong but all the ladies at the table laughed at me and seemed to agree. So AITA here?