optimisticzoomer
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I (40M) have a son (15M) who loves to draw. He’s very good at it and spends hours every day practicing. He has dozens of full sketchbooks in his room.
Yesterday we had some family over for dinner, and my sister’s kids (8F and 10M) snuck into his room and looked through his sketchbooks. They came back holding one of them- it was full of drawings of people either naked or in their underwear, which the kids found very funny. I didn’t know he drew them (he’s very critical of his own art and only shows me drawings he’s very proud of, and these were clearly practices) but I wasn’t bothered by the contents. They obviously weren’t sexual, they included men and women of all ages and weights in casual and non provocative poses. He says he was just studying anatomy.
My sister, however, was very upset. She was mad I let my son draw pornography and suggested he drew these people because he was attracted to them (which was silly, because he’s gay, and the majority of the drawings were of women. The guys he did draw weren’t what I imagine a 15 year old boy would be attracted to). She was also upset that her kids were exposed to nudity, which I shut down pretty quick because they shouldn’t have been snooping anyways.
My sister is saying I’m ruining my son by letting him look at naked people. My dad agrees that the kids shouldn’t have been in his room, but thinks he shouldn’t be looking at that kind of stuff and says I should punish him for drawing it.
I just don’t see the big deal and think it’s fine for my son to look at naked people, especially considering they’re just realistic bodies being drawn respectfully. I don’t know much about art but if my son says it helps him improve I believe him. My mom is entirely on my side. AITAH?
Yesterday we had some family over for dinner, and my sister’s kids (8F and 10M) snuck into his room and looked through his sketchbooks. They came back holding one of them- it was full of drawings of people either naked or in their underwear, which the kids found very funny. I didn’t know he drew them (he’s very critical of his own art and only shows me drawings he’s very proud of, and these were clearly practices) but I wasn’t bothered by the contents. They obviously weren’t sexual, they included men and women of all ages and weights in casual and non provocative poses. He says he was just studying anatomy.
My sister, however, was very upset. She was mad I let my son draw pornography and suggested he drew these people because he was attracted to them (which was silly, because he’s gay, and the majority of the drawings were of women. The guys he did draw weren’t what I imagine a 15 year old boy would be attracted to). She was also upset that her kids were exposed to nudity, which I shut down pretty quick because they shouldn’t have been snooping anyways.
My sister is saying I’m ruining my son by letting him look at naked people. My dad agrees that the kids shouldn’t have been in his room, but thinks he shouldn’t be looking at that kind of stuff and says I should punish him for drawing it.
I just don’t see the big deal and think it’s fine for my son to look at naked people, especially considering they’re just realistic bodies being drawn respectfully. I don’t know much about art but if my son says it helps him improve I believe him. My mom is entirely on my side. AITAH?
