AITAH - Girlfriend sleeping in bed with another guy

[alurmo]

btw im not the dude who originially posted the reddit thread, I just found it funny

Prior to our relationship, GF was already had her male best friend (hereafter MF) with whom she spent a lot of time, and they would travel to concerts sometimes. They have never been romantic to my knowledge.

When our relationship began, I voiced to GF that I thought I should make an effort to get to know MF, and suggested inviting him to our group gatherings and so on. When she discussed it with him, he replied that he wasn't looking for more friends. He refused to attend any events or places with me. GF said MF was just awkward and shy and didn't like socialising. I found this a little odd, because he happily went out with her often when I wasn't around, or visited her at home when I wasn't there, but I didn't make a fuss.

When I invited GF to move in with me around a year ago, she was excited to tell MF the news. He reacted strangely and said something along the lines of “I won't see you much anymore then”, and he didn't like coming to what was now our house, even when I wasn't there. I suggested that this was very strange behaviour for someone who was supposed to be her best friend, and that I thought it seemed like he may have feelings for her, but she downplayed it again as his awkwardness. I was concerned, but he was her best friend so again I tried not to make a fuss. He has visited her at our house maybe twice in the last year, once when I was at work and the other, briefly, when I busy working from home in another room so not involved. They have spent much less time together since the move when compared to before, but it still happens on occasion.

Around a year ago, GF and MF went together to a gig away from home, and they shared a room. There was a mixup with the booking and instead of the expected twin room (two beds) they were given a double room (one double bed). There were no alternative rooms available so they had to sleep in the same bed. Afterwards, we had a discussion about this and I didn't make a big fuss but voiced that I found that to be a bit uncomfortable and didn't like it.

Now on to the issue at hand.

GF really likes a band that I do not appreciate. This band are playing in another city, tonight in fact. Months ago, I bought GF two tickets to the show as a gift. I knew that I would struggle to get the time off work and that I wouldn't enjoy the show, so I suggested she take someone who would, possibly MF. GF was very excited by this, and booked a hotel room. She told me MF was going, and they would be sharing a room. Again, I found this a little uncomfortable, but I assumed there would be two beds and again I didn't make a fuss, knowing it would be cheaper for them to share the cost.

Once she had arrived I received a photograph from GF of her bag on a double bed (it isn't unusual for us to communicate with photos). I commented that I was surprised a twin room had a double bed. She initially replied that this hotel has one double bed and a sofa bed in their twin rooms, however a few messages later she said that it was in fact a double room and that she and MF had always planned to stay in the same bed as it was the cheapest option. I was, I think understandably, upset by this given that we have talked about it before. I also felt that the initial deflection talking about a double bed and sofa bed was deceitful (there isn't even a sofa bed in the room). GF insists she cannot remember the past conversation and that she was not being deceitful because she didn't say it was a twin room.

GF is now angry with ME for “spoiling her night” and saying that she will never travel with MF again because of the “drama”. This is despite me not having any issue with her travelling with him and in fact I had suggested it and paid for the tickets, my only issue was with the sleeping arrangements and deceitful tone/lack of mentioning it to me.

I really don't see how I am at fault here. AITA?

TLDR;Girlfriend sleeping in bed with another guy despite OP previously voicing that it makes OP uncomfortable, now saying OP ruined her evening by bringing it up

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shakespear couldn't even make this shit up

 

[Ruthless]

 

[alurmo]

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thx for tha bump bro

 

[Klasik616]

Dnr

 

[Jonas2k7]

Thanks for this thread!

 

[alurmo]

Dnr

is he infact the asshole tho

 

[alurmo]

Thanks for this thread!

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[Jonas2k7]

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I thanked you for this thread

 

[alurmo]

I thanked you for this thread

i dont get it

 

[Jonas2k7]

i dont get it

Nigga it isn't this deep I literally just thanked you for this thread

 

[SquareChinOrDeath]

"her travelling with him and in fact I had suggested it and paid for the tickets"

 

[ChimpBall]

Reddit is full of literal cucks, which isn't surprising considering how anti-Trump they are

 

[NEET_Emperor]

YTA, stop trying to control your girlfriend you toxic wh*te chud
its none of your business who your girlfriend chooses to sleep with, you should be grateful she puts up with your needy, toxic behaviour
you should get therapy

Edit: holy science 1000 upvotes thank you!
Edit 2: thanks for the gold kind stranger!

 

[laaltin]

YTA