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I am really worried about the future. At 16, I am only 5'7 but beyond that I seem to have "lost" on every possible genetic. I don't look that good, I consider myself below average by a decent amount, I am not particularly charismatic, it's not like I can't talk to people but I often struggle to make meaningful connections. Like I can be friends with a group of random people with similar interests but I can't seem to make connections with meaningful people or women.
Growing up my diet was terrible, I lacked probably all micronutrients, I was eating like garbage between like 9-14, barely getting any protein or helpful nutrients. I don't remember my exact diet but I got really fat when I was around 10, like 160lbs+ with like 35-45% bodyfat but I slowly reduced that over the years, specifically when I was around 14, I started to take more meaningful actions like daily cardio, controlled diet (still lacking most nutrients but lower calories) and i got down to a pretty respectable 135lbs, probably 15-20% bodyfat.
I've never been good at any sport, not even average, I was always one of the worst players in soccer, the guy that down picked last or second to last. I thought it most of my problems would be solved by losing weight so I started getting into soccer recently again and I've definitely improved but I'd still say I am below average and one of the worse players on the pitch. Perhaps soccer is it's own specific sport and I am looking too much into it to measure actual physical capacity but even then I am physically pretty weak. I'd usually lose every or almost every arm wrestling match we played at school. When we raced, I was always the slowest one.
Even now, I've been trying to gain muscle for over 6 months and nothing seems to work. Though there were a bunch of stuff wrong with my routine like not enough sleep, junk sets, not enough calories but I've fixed all of them and been running on that new routine properly for about a week so i guess we'll see what happens on that end.
Even like intellectually, I've always been "good", I usually gets As, but I've just never had that sort of appreciation for it from anybody so that always kinda messed up my perception of grades. My parents are pretty serious about that stuff so if it's 5 As and 1 B on my report card, the reactions were always "why did you get that B" and never "congrats on the As". When we had class rankings, I'd usually place 7-11 out of a class of 25-30 students, the highest I ever got was third/fourth which again is on the upper echelon but isn't "exceptional".
I really am not sure how to meaningfully improve from here, I think my height and most growth is probably capped considering all other circumstances, I'll keep up the proper gym routine, bulk and try to get proper sleep but I am just worried that I'll forever be below average physically and be slightly above average in terms of finances and intellectual capacity which really isn't saying much.
Being truly "average" sucks, it's like my life would just be going to some state university, getting married to some ran through wife who cheats on me, get some 70-90k a year tech job and live in the suburbs. A far cry from anything ideal, is it the end of the world? not necessarily but like we are all here because we want to improve, not stay average.
Growing up my diet was terrible, I lacked probably all micronutrients, I was eating like garbage between like 9-14, barely getting any protein or helpful nutrients. I don't remember my exact diet but I got really fat when I was around 10, like 160lbs+ with like 35-45% bodyfat but I slowly reduced that over the years, specifically when I was around 14, I started to take more meaningful actions like daily cardio, controlled diet (still lacking most nutrients but lower calories) and i got down to a pretty respectable 135lbs, probably 15-20% bodyfat.
I've never been good at any sport, not even average, I was always one of the worst players in soccer, the guy that down picked last or second to last. I thought it most of my problems would be solved by losing weight so I started getting into soccer recently again and I've definitely improved but I'd still say I am below average and one of the worse players on the pitch. Perhaps soccer is it's own specific sport and I am looking too much into it to measure actual physical capacity but even then I am physically pretty weak. I'd usually lose every or almost every arm wrestling match we played at school. When we raced, I was always the slowest one.
Even now, I've been trying to gain muscle for over 6 months and nothing seems to work. Though there were a bunch of stuff wrong with my routine like not enough sleep, junk sets, not enough calories but I've fixed all of them and been running on that new routine properly for about a week so i guess we'll see what happens on that end.
Even like intellectually, I've always been "good", I usually gets As, but I've just never had that sort of appreciation for it from anybody so that always kinda messed up my perception of grades. My parents are pretty serious about that stuff so if it's 5 As and 1 B on my report card, the reactions were always "why did you get that B" and never "congrats on the As". When we had class rankings, I'd usually place 7-11 out of a class of 25-30 students, the highest I ever got was third/fourth which again is on the upper echelon but isn't "exceptional".
I really am not sure how to meaningfully improve from here, I think my height and most growth is probably capped considering all other circumstances, I'll keep up the proper gym routine, bulk and try to get proper sleep but I am just worried that I'll forever be below average physically and be slightly above average in terms of finances and intellectual capacity which really isn't saying much.
Being truly "average" sucks, it's like my life would just be going to some state university, getting married to some ran through wife who cheats on me, get some 70-90k a year tech job and live in the suburbs. A far cry from anything ideal, is it the end of the world? not necessarily but like we are all here because we want to improve, not stay average.