Anyone else here diagnosed with -Avoidant personality disorder-? Maybe you can relate.

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Avoidant personality disorder (AvPD) is characterized by excessive social anxiety and inhibition, fear of intimacy (despite an intense desire for it), severe feelings of inadequacy and inferiority, and an overreliance on avoidance of feared stimuli (e.g., self-imposed social isolation)
Those affected typically display a pattern of extreme sensitivity to negative evaluation and rejection, a belief that one is socially inept or personally unappealing to others, and avoidance of social interaction despite a strong desire for it.

That was the formal definition of AVPD, it has some more aspects which may seem relatable:

Avoidant individuals are preoccupied with their own shortcomings and form relationships with others only if they believe they will not be rejected. They often view themselves with contempt, while showing a decreased ability to identify traits within themselves that are generally considered as positive within their societies. Loss and social rejection are so painful that these individuals will choose to be alone rather than risk trying to connect with others.

Some with this disorder fantasize about idealized, accepting, and affectionate relationships because of their desire to belong. They often feel themselves unworthy of the relationships they desire, and shame themselves from ever attempting to begin them. If they do manage to form relationships, it is also common for them to pre-emptively abandon them out of fear of the relationship failing.

Individuals with the disorder tend to describe themselves as uneasy, anxious, lonely, unwanted and isolated from others.
 
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Avoidant personality disorder (AvPD) is characterized by excessive social anxiety and inhibition, fear of intimacy (despite an intense desire for it), severe feelings of inadequacy and inferiority, and an overreliance on avoidance of feared stimuli (e.g., self-imposed social isolation)
Those affected typically display a pattern of extreme sensitivity to negative evaluation and rejection, a belief that one is socially inept or personally unappealing to others, and avoidance of social interaction despite a strong desire for it.

This is the formal definition of AVPD, it has some more aspects which may seem relatable:

Avoidant individuals are preoccupied with their own shortcomings and form relationships with others only if they believe they will not be rejected. They often view themselves with contempt, while showing a decreased ability to identify traits within themselves that are generally considered as positive within their societies. Loss and social rejection are so painful that these individuals will choose to be alone rather than risk trying to connect with others.

Some with this disorder fantasize about idealized, accepting, and affectionate relationships because of their desire to belong. They often feel themselves unworthy of the relationships they desire, and shame themselves from ever attempting to begin them. If they do manage to form relationships, it is also common for them to pre-emptively abandon them out of fear of the relationship failing.

Individuals with the disorder tend to describe themselves as uneasy, anxious, lonely, unwanted and isolated from others.
I thought I was one but I'm more on BPS
 
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I am heavily involved with mental-healthcare services in the netherlands, as a result I have taken a lot of tests. Tests for autism, IQ, personality-disorders and more.

Avoidant Personality Disorder came out REALLY STRONG when I did the personality-testing with psychiatrists. And I can relate really well with the definition of it.

Yet I don't know at all what to do with this now. So yes I have this AVPD condition. And now what? I am fucked?
The mental healthcare service hasn't provided me with any help at all.

It's like they just gave me this diagnosis, which is right I believe, and then they fucked off. There's no help or cure.
 
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I think I probably have it.
 
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I'm like the opposite mixed with bipolar but it's bad because I'm ugly so just gets me hurt and causes anxiety. I like it though bc it's so intense and if enhances emotions that are connected with those type of situations (so love, connections, being involved etc) so lowk motivation for looksmaxxing and life fuel for after
 
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Is that the only personality disorder they diagnosed you with? Comorbidities can act as modifying factors to the primary disorder.
 
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I am heavily involved with mental-healthcare services in the netherlands, as a result I have taken a lot of tests. Tests for autism, IQ, personality-disorders and more.

Avoidant Personality Disorder came out REALLY STRONG when I did the personality-testing with psychiatrists. And I can relate really well with the definition of it.

Yet I don't know at all what to do with this now. So yes I have this AVPD condition. And now what? I am fucked?
The mental healthcare service hasn't provided me with any help at all.

It's like they just gave me this diagnosis, which is right I believe, and then they fucked off. There's no help or cure.
Because it doesn’t exist. They just put a label on you to make you feel more shit they don’t want anything about you to be cured.

It’s like when niggers say medication doesn’t work because a cured patient is profit lost by pharma companies.
 
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It's like they just gave me this diagnosis, which is right I believe, and then they fucked off. There's no help or cure.
For old people with cancer, the dutch-government has been investing BILLIONS into the latest radiation-technologies.
For STEMcels: This involves neutron-radiation therpay instead of electrion-radiation therapy.

My government, and man, I pas SO MUCH FUCKING MONEY in taxes for this fucking government.
They will spend billions on some new cancer-treatment for oldcels. Yet they refuse to treat young people with conditions like mine, AVPD, or other conditions. They refuse to give ur proper treatments.

And hey, okay, that's fine. If you don't want to give me treatments that's fine.
But then I also don't want to pay taxes, I don't want to pay for oldcel cancer treatments.

Taxation=Theft. Every euro is going to shit I disagree with. And there's nothing I can do.
We need a massive revolution.
 
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Avoidant personality disorder (AvPD) is characterized by excessive social anxiety and inhibition, fear of intimacy (despite an intense desire for it), severe feelings of inadequacy and inferiority, and an overreliance on avoidance of feared stimuli (e.g., self-imposed social isolation)
Those affected typically display a pattern of extreme sensitivity to negative evaluation and rejection, a belief that one is socially inept or personally unappealing to others, and avoidance of social interaction despite a strong desire for it.

That was the formal definition of AVPD, it has some more aspects which may seem relatable:

Avoidant individuals are preoccupied with their own shortcomings and form relationships with others only if they believe they will not be rejected. They often view themselves with contempt, while showing a decreased ability to identify traits within themselves that are generally considered as positive within their societies. Loss and social rejection are so painful that these individuals will choose to be alone rather than risk trying to connect with others.

Some with this disorder fantasize about idealized, accepting, and affectionate relationships because of their desire to belong. They often feel themselves unworthy of the relationships they desire, and shame themselves from ever attempting to begin them. If they do manage to form relationships, it is also common for them to pre-emptively abandon them out of fear of the relationship failing.

Individuals with the disorder tend to describe themselves as uneasy, anxious, lonely, unwanted and isolated from others.
holy shit. I didn't know this existed and I probably have.
 
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Yes and no
On the psychology of yes I'm 100% avoidant because I have zero self esteem... But irl I'm more social than I should
 
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I don't feel i have any disorder right now maybe social anxiety, in any case I feel moreover dissociated and depersonalized, I am ascending and improving my life, but I no longer see my body as myself
 
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:lul: sounds like a brand name lol
Borderline personality disorder (bpd not bps)
I am unfamiliar with BPD.

I have one girl with BPD in my therapy-group. She's 19yo but I have quite a good vibe with her, talked with her a lot also outside of therapy.
But she says that her BPD doesn't really show in socialization with strangers. And I can agree that so far I haven't really noticed anything weird about her.
But she says that once you form deeper bonds with her, her personality-disorder will show and it becomes really problematic.

but yeah thats all I know about BPD.
 
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What's the thing you have struggled the most with, from this disorder?
I feel like it's nearly impossible for me to connect with anyone and I perceive almost every interaction with other people as adversarial. I'll built rapport if I spend enough time around someone, but it dissipates very quickly and basically resets to zero in a very short amount of time.

To give you an example, I have been going to the same climbing gym for 5+ years and I don't talk to anyone. Occasionally people will attempt to befriend me, come up to me like "I see you here all the time, I'm so an so" and they are met by a brick wall. Even if I try to interact with them, I feel like I'm just oozing "I don't want to talk to you" vibes because I don't.
 
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From what you wrote, I relate to everything you wrote
I don't like to self diagnose but I most likely got it
fear of intimacy (despite an intense desire for it)
This part especially
 
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I think I have it. I'm 20 years old dateless khhv and went through the entirety of highschool without making a single friend and would want to end my life rather than do presentations
 
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Thread of social reject losers
 
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Ahh that’s why my Oneitis pretends to hate me :owo:
 
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I think I have it. I'm 20 years old dateless khhv and went through the entirety of highschool without making a single friend and would want to end my life rather than do presentations
That was me when I was 20
Then I did self induced exposure therapy
Now I am the most social person ever and went out so much partying I ended up a coke head who smokes a pack a day with insane social status, local connections and body count
 
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Is that the only personality disorder they diagnosed you with? Comorbidities can act as modifying factors to the primary disorder.
Yes, the only personality disorder they diagnosed me with was AVPD.

I had a minor result in narcissistic personality disorder. Like it came out as 'something' but it wasn't enough to diagnose me. So while I may have some narc trends, they aren't prevalent enough for it to be a disorder.

Like, everyone has some narc trends and this is normal. Just because you can be narcy sometimes, doesnt mean you have a narc disorder.
 
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It's amazing how the human mind works. It's baffling that you know every detail of your own conditions, realize that you have them and that your mind is playing you due to it, that everyone tells you that you are good looking, yet you still fall for it anyways. And this exact same thing happens to a lot of people.

It makes me wonder deeply on the complexity and detail in every creation of Allah.
 
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I wasn’t diagnosed but I have this shit with men and even more with women

If a girl comes too close to me I start legit shaking like I’m some rape victim :forcedsmile:

And I even have it to a lesser dagree with guys I can never get too close or even friendships since I’m always on that social autism

I’m trying to make it better but it’s hard
 
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I wasn’t diagnosed but I have this shit with men and even more with women

If a girl comes too close to me I start legit shaking like I’m some rape victim :forcedsmile:

And I even have it to a lesser dagree with guys I can never get too close or even friendships since I’m always on that social autism

I’m trying to make it better but it’s hard
You were raped ... By life
 
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That was me when I was 20
Then I did self induced exposure therapy
Now I am the most social person ever and went out so much partying I ended up a coke head who smokes a pack a day with insane social status, local connections and body count
Mirin
 
Definitely seems related to avoidant attachment style
 
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I am heavily involved with mental-healthcare services in the netherlands, as a result I have taken a lot of tests. Tests for autism, IQ, personality-disorders and more.

Avoidant Personality Disorder came out REALLY STRONG when I did the personality-testing with psychiatrists. And I can relate really well with the definition of it.

Yet I don't know at all what to do with this now. So yes I have this AVPD condition. And now what? I am fucked?
The mental healthcare service hasn't provided me with any help at all.

It's like they just gave me this diagnosis, which is right I believe, and then they fucked off. There's no help or cure.

psychiatrists are jews
 
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unfamiliar with BPD
I've met people with bpd and it's usually pretty serious disorder when legit, and it's bad not only for bpd havers themselves, but also to their partners, friends, relatives and so on.
To see how shitty it is, check "bpdlovedones" sub.
 
not diagnosed but i know i have this, and i know why i have it
 
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Kinda relate but my fear of intimacy comes from being a dicklet jfl
 
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Ik kan me heel erg in jouw vinden.
 
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I feel like it's nearly impossible for me to connect with anyone and I perceive almost every interaction with other people as adversarial. I'll built rapport if I spend enough time around someone, but it dissipates very quickly and basically resets to zero in a very short amount of time.

To give you an example, I have been going to the same climbing gym for 5+ years and I don't talk to anyone. Occasionally people will attempt to befriend me, come up to me like "I see you here all the time, I'm so an so" and they are met by a brick wall. Even if I try to interact with them, I feel like I'm just oozing "I don't want to talk to you" vibes because I don't.
Hmmmm yup. That's a very similar vibe as me. I work at this same place for 2.5 years now and barely talk to anyone there. Same for my gym. Same for anywhere else. I do shitchat casually when people engage with me, but like you say, it has 'lets end this interaction' vibes.

its fucked man. how to fix this shit.
 
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I wasn’t diagnosed but I have this shit with men and even more with women

If a girl comes too close to me I start legit shaking like I’m some rape victim :forcedsmile:
Very relatable. When I used to get touched by a girl or she would come close, my mind would go in complete PANIC mode. I would completely freeze and only think of how I need to get out of this situation asap.

its so brutal, because these opportunities for me were VERY RARE. I used to go out so often when I was younger, girls would never like me, but very rarely I would have one show interest and I would completely panic as some type of PTSD response.

fucked man. same as you.
 
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