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I've just turned 30 and I've decided it's the end of my youth now, time to move on to the next phase of life.
I did a lot of casual sex and drugs and ego chasing in the past decade, especially after improving my looks in my early 20s, and becoming better at presenting NT.
I'm at the point where I can regularly get interest from MTBs and HTBs using dating apps.
I'm genuinely bored of casual sex and external validation and so I just want to pick one to wife and have kids, and then I think I will delete all social media and never use the internet outside of work again.
The issue is there are always like 3-4 options at any one time, each always have their pros and cons, and it's hard to just pick one cos the next might be slightly better or whatever.
How do you just overcome this choice paralysis and pick? Can you literally just spin the wheel and pick a girl based on that? Can you do a spreadsheet and assign scores and pick on logic? I don't really catch feelings anymore, because I made myself avoidant attachment style to be more attractive, so hard to rely on that.
I feel like if I just pick one I'm 'meh' about, I might regret it later. Does anyone know best way to do this?
I did a lot of casual sex and drugs and ego chasing in the past decade, especially after improving my looks in my early 20s, and becoming better at presenting NT.
I'm at the point where I can regularly get interest from MTBs and HTBs using dating apps.
I'm genuinely bored of casual sex and external validation and so I just want to pick one to wife and have kids, and then I think I will delete all social media and never use the internet outside of work again.
The issue is there are always like 3-4 options at any one time, each always have their pros and cons, and it's hard to just pick one cos the next might be slightly better or whatever.
How do you just overcome this choice paralysis and pick? Can you literally just spin the wheel and pick a girl based on that? Can you do a spreadsheet and assign scores and pick on logic? I don't really catch feelings anymore, because I made myself avoidant attachment style to be more attractive, so hard to rely on that.
I feel like if I just pick one I'm 'meh' about, I might regret it later. Does anyone know best way to do this?
