are there even true friends?

[Jiaxi]

It’s hard to feel like I have true friends outside of a select few people I’ve known since I was a child. Something within my community is rotten, people are climbing at my arms and legs to reach the top of a ladder socially. Doing whatever they can to use what I have or what I can offer them, especially girls. I hold no value to them outside of my looks, money or connections. Water thread I know but last night made me realize how true this really is, I was at a party with a few friends I got us into after talking to some girls and the host asked my two friends to leave after seeing they were just standing. I know the host and understand where he was coming from so I took him outside and I offered him some money to stay and talk to the girls with my two friends and drink before I went home, i’ve been having a shitty week sense I was suspended and haven’t been able to NT max as much as I would like. My friends ended up leaving because the host wouldn’t let them stay and I walked them to the car.The girls they came with starting getting in my face and swearing at me after they left, one being my ex gf who I have posted here once before but had to take it down since she found my acc. She’ll read this most likely so I don’t feel the need to incriminate myself with insults towards her or her friend. She goes off explaining how it’s wrong to let my friends leave and that I’m a shitty person and the death of my best friend is no excuse to be selfish. “we are all going through things you can’t use it as an excuse.” that entire interaction set me off considering they weren’t particularly close to my friend and the things they are going through are not comparable to almost losing my education or my best friends life. I rarely even bring up his death outside of this forum so for her to bring it up really made me angry. I start swearing at her and she ends up crying it was over since everyone can see me yelling at her and getting upset. I take a minute to assure everyone it’s fine and pull her aside then explain to the host what’s happening to which he understands and just tells me to stop yelling since it’s making people uncomfortable. My ex goes upstairs while I talk to the other girls and finish my drink. She’s still crying on the couch when @silksonic11 picks me up. He hit a quick jestermax by talking to them and then we left. The other dudes text me the next morning pissed off so apologize. It all makes me realize how superficial male friendship with normies feel.

TLDR: friends were kicked out of a party I went to and I didn’t leave with them. my ex gets mad and we get into a fight about my acations and the death of @mixedbreedmtn and she starts crying before going upstairs. I leave with @silksonic11 and go to bed.

 

[Jiaxi]

not my typical thread but bump

 

[Jiaxi]

bump

 

[FaceandBBC]

No there aren’t. We just associate with one another for social benefits and thats all. None of your so called “friends” would genuinely take a bullet for you.

 

[LKSMAXPerson]

Probably not, just the people you have similar interests with could be considered real friends

 

[The Grinch]

Not a single word

 

[Charisma]

dnrd but you’re completely alone in this world, eat or be eaten

“friends” are only there to be used when you need something from them so you can leverage and level up in life

everything is transactional

 

[Jiaxi]

dnrd but you’re completely alone in this world, eat or be eaten

“friends” are only there to be used when you need something from them so you can leverage and level up in life

everything is transactional

red pilled italian

 

[The Grinch]

dnrd but you’re completely alone in this world, eat or be eaten

“friends” are only there to be used when you need something from them so you can leverage and level up in life

everything is transactional

Yes, friends are a tool and having no friends means being all alone with your problems without anyone to rely on, which isn’t a flex, at all like some wannabe sigmas think, but outcasts love to cope in order not to admit that they are just outcasts

 

[Bui]

Fucking guy

 

[lifeless]

0 but yes

 

[ioimaxxer]

friends arent.

family is

some friends are like family

some families are not like family

 

[R@m@]

Its all ego/survival related

 

[Charisma]

Yes, friends are a tool and having no friends means being all alone with your problems without anyone to rely on, which isn’t a flex. at all, like some wannabe sigmas think, but outcasts love to cope in order not to admit that they are just outcasts

of course, having friends is extremely important

but so is knowing how to set boundaries

I meet more and more cucked young people whose sole purpose of life is to hang put with other people, I have 2 friends who I always avoid hanging out with because they are doomers but none the less they will try to make plans with me at least once a week and the answer is always no

The problem with friends begins when you start sacrificing your own well being for that relationship, even if it’s very simple such as cancelling your gym session to hang out or hanging out with mom to hang out with a friend

You always have to be careful and remind yourself that these people are in your life because YOU want them to be, and if at any moment they stop providing whatever makes you feeling good around them, you can just leave

none of your friends really sympathise with your problems because no one really gives a fuck, you are completely on your own and this is not a “sigma” way of thinking, it’s being rational, you can’t really find comfort in people that don’t give a fuck about you.
Remember, they only hang out with you because you provide some sort of value to them, just like you with them, it’s extremely cucked to need a friend to “rely” on when it comes to deep topics and conversations (if they also don’t have a gain from that conversation, in which case it’s again, transactional)

go out and try to be a burden to your friends, let them pay for all the bills when you’re out for drinks, go on schizo rants, have a doomer mentality and see for how long they will be your friends

 

[Jiaxi]

of course, having friends is extremely important

but so is knowing how to set boundaries

I meet more and more cucked young people whose sole purpose of life is to hang put with other people, I have 2 friends who I always avoid hanging out with because they are doomers but none the less they will try to make plans with me at least once a week and the answer is always no

The problem with friends begins when you start sacrificing your own well being for that relationship, even if it’s very simple such as cancelling your gym session to hang out or hanging out with mom to hang out with a friend

You always have to be careful and remind yourself that these people are in your life because YOU want them to be, and if at any moment they stop providing whatever makes you feeling good around them, you can just leave

none of your friends really sympathise with your problems because no one really gives a fuck, you are completely on your own and this is not a “sigma” way of thinking, it’s being rational, you can’t really find comfort in people that don’t give a fuck about you.
Remember, they only hang out with you because you provide some sort of value to them, just like you with them, it’s extremely cucked to need a friend to “rely” on when it comes to deep topics and conversations (if they also don’t have a gain from that conversation, in which case it’s again, transactional)

go out and try to be a burden to your friends, let them pay for all the bills when you’re out for drinks, go on schizo rants, have a doomer mentality and see for how long they will be your friends

this but not as extreme as @Charisma is putting it