LILMAXILLA
helpless and traumatized victim of lookism
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Here is Maslow's hierarchy of needs. Here is how it works:
You are only motivated for a need if the needs below it have been satisfied.
If you live in a first world country, you are basically guaranteed to have the first two needs satisfied. If your parents cannot provide you these needs then the government is obliged to do so. Your parents are not allowed to withhold these first 2 needs from you. So any threat they make about taking these things away from you, should not be taken seriously.
If your need for love and belonging has not been satisfied (which is probably the case for most men growing up nowadays), then this need will be the only one you will be motivated to satisfy.
You have without doubt been manipulated in multiple ways to believe that you should care about something else right now. For example, your teachers and parents keep on telling you that you NEED to focus on school above all else. But is this actually true?
The answer is NO. You currently have NO NEED FOR EDUCATION, SUCCESS, RECOGNITION, ETC... not until you have satisfied your need for love and belonging.
If you do not believe me, it's because you have been manipulated, and are currently deluded about your own needs.
You have been told that you need to focus on education to ensure a better quality of life in the future, good grades=good university=good job=good life
Except that none of those will actually increase your quality of life. Since none of those will satisfy your 3rd level of needs on the pyramid.
Now you might tell me, "a high paying job will help me to find love and belonging".
Are you really going to wait until you are 25 years old and finally get a decent paying job to try and satisfy your need for love and belonging?
And if so how do you plan on performing well in school, university and then a job, despite having no motivation to do so?
Realistically most "successful" people satisfied their need for love and belonging early on, and consequently became motivated enough to outwork the competition and become "successful".
Not to mention that after spending 25 years without having satisfied your 3rd level needs, you will be incredibly handicapped in trying to satisfy that need now, even if you have managed to secure a "high status". (Too mentally fucked up to form relationships with people).
Let me tell you from experience, trying to "push yourself", through school and university, despite having no motivation to do so, (except for the fear of being alone forever) is a recipe for disaster. It's a recipe for becoming depressed, burnt out and broken beyond any repair before you hit 25 years of age. At which point you will have failed to realize your goal of "becoming successful". All the worse, you will realize that you have suffered your entire life for no reason at all (which is incredibly devastating).
I think this really captures what being an Incel is at it's core.
It's effectively being permastuck on the 3rd level on Maslow's hierarchy of needs. (EXTREMELY LOW QUALITY OF LIFE) (no copes can replace the needs on the hierarchy) (I'd rather be a married farmer in the middle ages than an incel today).
Also this encapsulates the teen love pill pretty well. If you don't experience intimacy early on, you will be heavily handicapped in your ability to be happy and successful.
TLDR: If you are a young incel, spend absolutely all your energy on satisfying your need for love since nothing else matters until you satisfy that need (get a girlfriend early on or it's over).
You are only motivated for a need if the needs below it have been satisfied.
If you live in a first world country, you are basically guaranteed to have the first two needs satisfied. If your parents cannot provide you these needs then the government is obliged to do so. Your parents are not allowed to withhold these first 2 needs from you. So any threat they make about taking these things away from you, should not be taken seriously.
If your need for love and belonging has not been satisfied (which is probably the case for most men growing up nowadays), then this need will be the only one you will be motivated to satisfy.
You have without doubt been manipulated in multiple ways to believe that you should care about something else right now. For example, your teachers and parents keep on telling you that you NEED to focus on school above all else. But is this actually true?
The answer is NO. You currently have NO NEED FOR EDUCATION, SUCCESS, RECOGNITION, ETC... not until you have satisfied your need for love and belonging.
If you do not believe me, it's because you have been manipulated, and are currently deluded about your own needs.
You have been told that you need to focus on education to ensure a better quality of life in the future, good grades=good university=good job=good life
Except that none of those will actually increase your quality of life. Since none of those will satisfy your 3rd level of needs on the pyramid.
Now you might tell me, "a high paying job will help me to find love and belonging".
Are you really going to wait until you are 25 years old and finally get a decent paying job to try and satisfy your need for love and belonging?
And if so how do you plan on performing well in school, university and then a job, despite having no motivation to do so?
Realistically most "successful" people satisfied their need for love and belonging early on, and consequently became motivated enough to outwork the competition and become "successful".
Not to mention that after spending 25 years without having satisfied your 3rd level needs, you will be incredibly handicapped in trying to satisfy that need now, even if you have managed to secure a "high status". (Too mentally fucked up to form relationships with people).
Let me tell you from experience, trying to "push yourself", through school and university, despite having no motivation to do so, (except for the fear of being alone forever) is a recipe for disaster. It's a recipe for becoming depressed, burnt out and broken beyond any repair before you hit 25 years of age. At which point you will have failed to realize your goal of "becoming successful". All the worse, you will realize that you have suffered your entire life for no reason at all (which is incredibly devastating).
I think this really captures what being an Incel is at it's core.
It's effectively being permastuck on the 3rd level on Maslow's hierarchy of needs. (EXTREMELY LOW QUALITY OF LIFE) (no copes can replace the needs on the hierarchy) (I'd rather be a married farmer in the middle ages than an incel today).
Also this encapsulates the teen love pill pretty well. If you don't experience intimacy early on, you will be heavily handicapped in your ability to be happy and successful.
TLDR: If you are a young incel, spend absolutely all your energy on satisfying your need for love since nothing else matters until you satisfy that need (get a girlfriend early on or it's over).
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