luuk
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@ragingmanlet @Former Shortcel @afroheadluke (thanks for reaching out you guys)
Went schizo for a bit but I’m back from my selfban now that I’ve figured stuff out.
I feel a lot more hopeful and stable now ever since I figured out what I was doing wrong
I (like many of you) have a tendency to think, far more than I do. I overthink everything, I delve heavily into the theoretical and I over complicate things whilst not having the basics mastered. I’ve wrote high quality threads about things and given people (on here and offline) good advice that I don’t even practice myself.
Take the gym for example. I got heavily into the science based lifting stuff, learned about joint actions and growth pathways and the “optimal” way to do things. Yet my diet was sloppy, I didn’t track macros properly and often missed meals out of stress or distraction, and I’ve made very poor gains in the past like 3 months. Through trying to optimise, I ended up just trying to make things easier, rather than training with intensity and eating with discipline to actually grow.
TNF (great creator) touched on this concept recently; most SBLs are small because they always ask “do I need to do this” rather than putting in 110% because they’re terrified of overexerting themselves, and hence most of them are small and weak (yet still incredibly preachy).
With looksmaxxing its the same, a lot of us get highly technical with regimens and pharmaceuticals and protocols that we don’t follow because we make them too difficult to follow, aren’t consistent and don’t put in the work. I spent too long rotting on here rather than actually improving because the aesthetic, the idea of self improvement was more appealing and easier than actually doing it. “Work smarter not harder” only works when you’re working sufficiently hard to get any results.
My woes with overthinking don’t stop at just overcomplicating things and being lazy though. I got very in my head about where I am in life, the patterns I keep finding myself in, the downwards spiral I kept falling down as I delved further into hedonism, disorganisation and depression. This is a very common theme here- ruminating about being single, not having enough sexual/romantic experience, your place in life and your past experiences. But when you get out of your head you realise that this is not actually constructive behaviour.
Are you actually doing everything you can, consistently, to improve your life? I never struggled with knowing what to do, the right course of action for me is fairly simple. To function consistently I need to wake up and sleep at good times, to implement a strict and productive routine, I need to stop binge drinking so much, I need to overthink less, I need to stick to my diet more and I need to study and work on my projects instead of doomscrolling.
I knew this, I have for a long while, yet I didn’t do it.
For so long, I kept trying to hack motivation, only taking action when I felt hyped and truly alive, abusing stims to bring about that motivation. But this only led to depression and inactivity when it wore off, when anything disrupted my momentum. To actually stick to things, to remain productive in the face of adversity you need discipline; to be able to work even when you feel horrible, rather than relying on motivation.
So now I’m going back to the basics. Following a schedule and a todo list, timeblocking everything, heavy compounds regularly, tracking macros, quitting gooning and doomscrolling (and excessive time here) and consistently softmaxxing. I might delve into PEDs when I have the money and space to do so without worry but for now I’m taking it slow.
Its good to be back though
Went schizo for a bit but I’m back from my selfban now that I’ve figured stuff out.
I feel a lot more hopeful and stable now ever since I figured out what I was doing wrong
I (like many of you) have a tendency to think, far more than I do. I overthink everything, I delve heavily into the theoretical and I over complicate things whilst not having the basics mastered. I’ve wrote high quality threads about things and given people (on here and offline) good advice that I don’t even practice myself.
Take the gym for example. I got heavily into the science based lifting stuff, learned about joint actions and growth pathways and the “optimal” way to do things. Yet my diet was sloppy, I didn’t track macros properly and often missed meals out of stress or distraction, and I’ve made very poor gains in the past like 3 months. Through trying to optimise, I ended up just trying to make things easier, rather than training with intensity and eating with discipline to actually grow.
TNF (great creator) touched on this concept recently; most SBLs are small because they always ask “do I need to do this” rather than putting in 110% because they’re terrified of overexerting themselves, and hence most of them are small and weak (yet still incredibly preachy).
With looksmaxxing its the same, a lot of us get highly technical with regimens and pharmaceuticals and protocols that we don’t follow because we make them too difficult to follow, aren’t consistent and don’t put in the work. I spent too long rotting on here rather than actually improving because the aesthetic, the idea of self improvement was more appealing and easier than actually doing it. “Work smarter not harder” only works when you’re working sufficiently hard to get any results.
My woes with overthinking don’t stop at just overcomplicating things and being lazy though. I got very in my head about where I am in life, the patterns I keep finding myself in, the downwards spiral I kept falling down as I delved further into hedonism, disorganisation and depression. This is a very common theme here- ruminating about being single, not having enough sexual/romantic experience, your place in life and your past experiences. But when you get out of your head you realise that this is not actually constructive behaviour.
Are you actually doing everything you can, consistently, to improve your life? I never struggled with knowing what to do, the right course of action for me is fairly simple. To function consistently I need to wake up and sleep at good times, to implement a strict and productive routine, I need to stop binge drinking so much, I need to overthink less, I need to stick to my diet more and I need to study and work on my projects instead of doomscrolling.
I knew this, I have for a long while, yet I didn’t do it.
For so long, I kept trying to hack motivation, only taking action when I felt hyped and truly alive, abusing stims to bring about that motivation. But this only led to depression and inactivity when it wore off, when anything disrupted my momentum. To actually stick to things, to remain productive in the face of adversity you need discipline; to be able to work even when you feel horrible, rather than relying on motivation.
So now I’m going back to the basics. Following a schedule and a todo list, timeblocking everything, heavy compounds regularly, tracking macros, quitting gooning and doomscrolling (and excessive time here) and consistently softmaxxing. I might delve into PEDs when I have the money and space to do so without worry but for now I’m taking it slow.
Its good to be back though
