Be rejected

[Scott_Emblebury]

The mindset that this forum preaches so often that you "can't cold approach until you've ascended" will destroy your life. That's no exaggeration.

Being rejected is the point of life. To see how well you can bounce back, and try again.

Fear of rejection is literally the essence of high inhibition. People on here have got it so bad that they've quite literally self diagnosed themselves with autism.

So what can you do?
Start by going outside and greeting people ("good morning/good day/good evening"). Don't worry about how non-NT you're perceived, you'll obviously start worrying less about what people think of you overtime.

Once you feel comfortable with this, progress to slightly longer interactions e.g. "have a nice day". Once you're consistent enough, you can start complimenting people, like telling them you love their hair/outfit/whatever. It can literally be anything.
After that, you'll feel ready to cold approach.

It WILL be awkward. You WILL get rejected. But once you go through the process above, to which so many people will walk past you without acknowledgement (rejection), it suddenly won't feel so bad. You have to treat every approach with the mindset that you've already been rejected, until you land your dream girl. Go crazy with this - approach way out of your league, act aspie, etc. It could not matter less.

Follow this and you will get your life back together - that's a promise.
Remember: you're socially awkward because you're stuck in your mind about what others think of you at all times. This is a by-product of looksmaxxing. Instead, focus on the people around you.

 

[pandamonium]

The mindset that this forum preaches so often that you "can't cold approach until you've ascended" will destroy your life. That's no exaggeration.

Being rejected is the point of life. To see how well you can bounce back, and try again.

Fear of rejection is literally the essence of high inhibition. People on here have got it so bad that they've quite literally self diagnosed themselves with autism.

So what can you do?
Start by going outside and greeting people ("good morning/good day/good evening"). Don't worry about how non-NT you're perceived, you'll obviously start worrying less about what people think of you overtime.

Once you feel comfortable with this, progress to slightly longer interactions e.g. "have a nice day". Once you're consistent enough, you can start complimenting people, like telling them you love their hair/outfit/whatever. It can literally be anything.
After that, you'll feel ready to cold approach.

It WILL be awkward. You WILL get rejected. But once you go through the process above, to which so many people will walk past you without acknowledgement (rejection), it suddenly won't feel so bad. You have to treat every approach with the mindset that you've already been rejected, until you land your dream girl. Go crazy with this - approach way out of your league, act aspie, etc. It could not matter less.

Follow this and you will get your life back together - that's a promise.
Remember: you're socially awkward because you're stuck in your mind about what others think of you at all times. This is a by-product of looksmaxxing. Instead, focus on the people around you.

This is huge cope getting rejected over and over will just lower ur confidence it doesnt matter how many copes u tell urself. Confidence comes from success

 

[Scott_Emblebury]

This is huge cope getting rejected over and over will just lower ur confidence it doesnt matter how many copes u tell urself. Confidence comes from success

Rejection is something everyone experiences in some form. It's about how you bounce back afterwards, like I said in the post. You can be all soy and let every little knock-back get to you if you want, but you're not going to get very far in life. Just about 100% of "successful" people have been rejected more times than anyone here - yet somehow they kept pushing.

 

[pandamonium]

Rejection is something everyone experiences in some form. It's about how you bounce back afterwards, like I said in the post. You can be all soy and let every little knock-back get to you if you want, but you're not going to get very far in life. Just about 100% of "successful" people have been rejected more times than anyone here - yet somehow they kept pushing.

Sure but u need more success tthan rejections or atleast have some success otherwisebur just delusional

 

[zombey]

Rejection is something everyone experiences in some form. It's about how you bounce back afterwards, like I said in the post. You can be all soy and let every little knock-back get to you if you want, but you're not going to get very far in life. Just about 100% of "successful" people have been rejected more times than anyone here - yet somehow they kept pushing Sure but u need more success tthan rejections or atleast h just delusional

You won’t be rejected %100 of the time

 

[Scott_Emblebury]

Sure but u need more success tthan rejections or atleast have some success otherwisebur just delusional

I'd argue the opposite - the rejection is what makes you grow as a person, proof that you can stand against adversity, unless you allow it to get to you. Someone who experiences success 100% of the time seems like the ideal scenario until the slightest knockback.

You can try to manufacture your success rate through looksmaxxing, but when the time comes to actually approach someone, you won't be ready for rejection. So you may not even approach at all. Hence isolation.

You won’t be rejected %100 of the time

Probably not, but nothing in life is guaranteed. That's why I suggest approaching with the mindset that you're already rejected

 

[zombey]

Probably not, but nothing in life is guaranteed. That's why I suggest approaching with the mindset that you're already rejected

I agree that it’s not a 100% guarantee, but wdym approach with a rejected mindset? You would lose before you even try. You could keep your expectations in check but don’t approach defeated.

 

[Scott_Emblebury]

I agree that it’s not a 100% guarantee, but wdym approach with a rejected mindset? You would lose before you even try. You could keep your expectations in check but don’t approach defeated.

That's a good point, your individual mindset might be different to mine - its about finding what works for you
I just recommend that approach because it lowers inhibition in some people, if you come in with expectations you might become overly concerned about every single move you take (making your interaction more rigid). After some time the exercises in my post will make you more confident overtime, and you'll just naturally approach without even having a specific mindset in mind.

Lmk if that makes sense I felt a little schizo typing that out