Being in a relationship felt so weird

[Deleted member 99987]

I had a few girlfriends growing up. It always felt weird as fuck, like i wanted to get away from them or something. I would feel like shit around them.

 

[Deleted member 58755]

nigga is anti social

 

[Deleted member 99987]

nigga is anti social

Quite literally.

 

[MaghrebGator]

You are probably a person who likes to be alone and feels way more comfortable that way, but at the same time you feel natural impulses and perhaps even "jealousy" to see people together while you are alone especially during festivities, so you want companionship because we are social beings.

Then, after you have a girlfriend, you feel a kind of mental pressure and a sort of "congestion" that makes you believe you are almost compelled to do things you don't want to, with your thoughts sunk deep, and then your regret having being in relationships.

It's a constant cycle that many people don't get out off nor do they deeply and thoughtfully analyze even after having lived their entire lives, being heedless slaves of their own whims and desires with no reason whatsoever.

 

[Deleted member 99987]

You are probably a person who likes to be alone and feels way more comfortable that way, but at the same time you feel natural impulses and perhaps even "jealousy" to see people together while you are alone especially during festivities, so you want companionship because we are social beings.

Then, after you have a girlfriend, you feel a kind of mental pressure and a sort of "congestion" that makes you believe you are almost compelled to do things you don't want to, with your thoughts sunk deep, and then your regret having being in relationships.

It's a constant cycle that many people don't get out off nor do they deeply and thoughtfully analyze even after having lived their entire lives, being heedless slaves of their own whims and desires with no reason whatsoever.

Down to a T. That’s eerie.

 

[MaghrebGator]

Down to a T. That’s eerie.

The only real solution to that problem is to be extremely mindful about the specific profile and kind of woman you would feel comfortable with (Personality wise), and NEVER EVER accepting anything less than that because it would make you fall into that all over cycle again.

Any other solution is baseless and deemed to failure. Being always alone will make you feel miserable and empty especially when you grow old, and being always with a woman you don't like will make you feel pressured and like living in a cage.

 

[Deleted member 99987]

The only real solution to that problem is to be extremely mindful about the specific profile and kind of woman you would feel comfortable with (Personality wise), and NEVER EVER accepting anything less than that because it would make you fall into that all over cycle again.

That’s exactly what i’m doing now, i will never get into a relationship unless i find a girl that is exactly like me.

I’ll be alone eternally, although i don’t mind it.

 

[MaghrebGator]

That’s exactly what i’m doing now, i will never get into a relationship unless i find a girl that is exactly like me.

Usually what happens in the majority of cases is that people just fall for their impulses and desires, while they don't employ any strategic patience and self control, ultimately setting up with a standard lower that what they should have accepted for their own well being.

 

[toji.]

"being heedless slaves of their own whims and desires with no reason whatsoever."

that hit me very hard

 

[Deleted member 99987]

Usually what happens in the majority of cases is that people just fall for their impulses and desires, while they don't employ any strategic patience and self control, ultimately setting up with a standard lower that what they should have accepted for their own well being.

I’ll never do that since i don’t feel a strong desire for a connection or relationship with a woman. If i find a woman like me, then that’d be nice, but i will never search for a relationship. I’ll likely die alone and i am completely fine with that fact.

 

[MaghrebGator]

that hit me very hard

It's a Qur'an verse (Interpretation of the meaning): "And patiently stick with those who call upon their Lord morning and evening, seeking His pleasure. Do not let your eyes look beyond them, desiring the luxuries of this worldly life. And do not obey those whose hearts We have made heedless of Our remembrance, who follow ˹only˺ their desires and whose state is ˹total˺ loss."