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While chances are that, due to a number of reasons, either socioeconomical, geographical or psychological, you are not neurotypical, ergo, you are not in compliance with a "normal" person's ordinary mental behaviour, you can learn how to get closer to a range of normality further away from being completely neutered. Formalities aside, I believe this should work for everyone.
Posture and body language
On the matter of body language, most of it is related to your posture relative to the thing you're facing or person you're interacting with. A stereotypical convention of a virgin or a nerd depicts him as slouching or having a weak posture. This trait lowers your real height, plays a potentially influential role in bone development, gives you cramps, and transmits a message of obedience, submission as well as making you look vulnerable. While many threads illustrate how to achieve a proper posture, I'll link to an article thoroughly designed to teach you how to stand up correctly.
medlineplus.gov
Impertinent body language you should drop includes fidgeting; while I am sure in some point of your life you were autistic enough to consider that fidgeting is an attractive trait, it is not, and it makes you look awkward and weird; stop doing things with your hands and keep them still. When you are sitting, be sure to have a still position of your choice to command an image of confidence, either while you eat or in a classroom. Weird hand movements make others deeply uncomfortable, as you are subconsciously transmitting that you don't fit in, and others regard you in such way.
This also includes the way you move your eyes, and your whole face. You should always focus your vision on a specific object; while walking, you should focus on a distant point so that you don't overtly pick up on useless information and your eyes don't divert. Spastic eye movement is weird, as is sudden face or head movement; your head should always remain still, in a preferably chin tuck position, so as to strengthen the core of your neck and instill a sense of dominance.
Speaking clearly
On the matter of your voice, while I think that a mildly deep voice is decent as is, it can prove difficult to properly convey words if your voice is way too deep and you can't project outwards. I have had problems with this in the past; while talking, you should pace yourself properly, as if you were speaking out the words of a sentence, always making a break where a comma goes, so as to never lose cadence or breath. This doesn't necessarily mean speak slow; it means speak in a structured manner. The way to properly project your voice outwards is to never go below a certain decibel that forces you to use the lowest register; while speaking, you should feel the air from your pulmonary system go through the throat and hit the roof of your mouth, and then outwards, directed so as to hit a certain place. This does not mean gasp or let out breath while talking; it will make your voice clearer and slightly more connected. Optionally, although I do recommend this, as it is the right breathing method, try to inflate your stomach when breathing in, so as to use a bigger compartment of your lungs. This allows for a clearer register and a more cracked voice, as well as allow you to naturally have more air while doing exercise or sprinting.
Speech patterns
On the matter of speech patterns, while it is a novel idea to constantly reuse recently concocted phrases or words (you can see clear examples of this when the troglodytes of this forum can't go beyond a sentence without saying "cope" or other equally aspie expressions), you should use a vocabulary common to your friends or acquaintances. This does NOT mean you should try to appear more confident than you are by borrowing phrases or speech patterns from people you regard as "Chads." We can see the embarrassing examples when one of you tries to pretend being low inhib on a Tinder conversation. Speak naturally, don't shout, don't repeat meme captions, don't just say random things, speak only when necessary, and don't constantly think about the right moment to say something interesting or funny; this is fundamentally aspie behaviour, as you are constantly analyzing a situation to exploit it and appear funny in an unnatural way.
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Posture and body language
On the matter of body language, most of it is related to your posture relative to the thing you're facing or person you're interacting with. A stereotypical convention of a virgin or a nerd depicts him as slouching or having a weak posture. This trait lowers your real height, plays a potentially influential role in bone development, gives you cramps, and transmits a message of obedience, submission as well as making you look vulnerable. While many threads illustrate how to achieve a proper posture, I'll link to an article thoroughly designed to teach you how to stand up correctly.
Guide to Good Posture: MedlinePlus
Good posture is important for your health as well as you appearance. Get tips on improving your posture, whether you are sitting, standing, or moving.
Impertinent body language you should drop includes fidgeting; while I am sure in some point of your life you were autistic enough to consider that fidgeting is an attractive trait, it is not, and it makes you look awkward and weird; stop doing things with your hands and keep them still. When you are sitting, be sure to have a still position of your choice to command an image of confidence, either while you eat or in a classroom. Weird hand movements make others deeply uncomfortable, as you are subconsciously transmitting that you don't fit in, and others regard you in such way.
This also includes the way you move your eyes, and your whole face. You should always focus your vision on a specific object; while walking, you should focus on a distant point so that you don't overtly pick up on useless information and your eyes don't divert. Spastic eye movement is weird, as is sudden face or head movement; your head should always remain still, in a preferably chin tuck position, so as to strengthen the core of your neck and instill a sense of dominance.
Speaking clearly
On the matter of your voice, while I think that a mildly deep voice is decent as is, it can prove difficult to properly convey words if your voice is way too deep and you can't project outwards. I have had problems with this in the past; while talking, you should pace yourself properly, as if you were speaking out the words of a sentence, always making a break where a comma goes, so as to never lose cadence or breath. This doesn't necessarily mean speak slow; it means speak in a structured manner. The way to properly project your voice outwards is to never go below a certain decibel that forces you to use the lowest register; while speaking, you should feel the air from your pulmonary system go through the throat and hit the roof of your mouth, and then outwards, directed so as to hit a certain place. This does not mean gasp or let out breath while talking; it will make your voice clearer and slightly more connected. Optionally, although I do recommend this, as it is the right breathing method, try to inflate your stomach when breathing in, so as to use a bigger compartment of your lungs. This allows for a clearer register and a more cracked voice, as well as allow you to naturally have more air while doing exercise or sprinting.
Speech patterns
On the matter of speech patterns, while it is a novel idea to constantly reuse recently concocted phrases or words (you can see clear examples of this when the troglodytes of this forum can't go beyond a sentence without saying "cope" or other equally aspie expressions), you should use a vocabulary common to your friends or acquaintances. This does NOT mean you should try to appear more confident than you are by borrowing phrases or speech patterns from people you regard as "Chads." We can see the embarrassing examples when one of you tries to pretend being low inhib on a Tinder conversation. Speak naturally, don't shout, don't repeat meme captions, don't just say random things, speak only when necessary, and don't constantly think about the right moment to say something interesting or funny; this is fundamentally aspie behaviour, as you are constantly analyzing a situation to exploit it and appear funny in an unnatural way.
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