Can’t get commitment/consistency from girls. Is it my looks?

[RealNinja]

This is me. Height is 6’1, bidelt between 20 and 21 inches. Since starting this semester I’ve been on dates with 2 girls. One of them just randomly ghosted me after we hung out together and had really good conversations. The other one had a bitchy attitude and overreacted to dumb shit I said and never wanted to talk to me again. I had my first kiss at a school football game and got the girls social media… she acted flaky as fuck, noncommittal, long reply times, etcetera.

I’m confused as to why I don’t get commitment or enthusiasm even from these LTB girls. I am non NT (Asperger’s) but still know social etiquette and how to act normal. I have friends including female friends. My male and female friends, family members, people online, etcetera say I look good. Why the fuck can’t I get a girl to see me consistently or date me? Am I just more non NT than I perceive myself to be, or are people lying about my level of attractiveness?

 

[raleqtambrobret]

I am non NT (Asperger’s)

 

[RealNinja]

@raleqtambrobret i am “non NT” but not to a severe degree, or at least I don’t think so… I know social ettiquette, I have normal body language and mannerisms, I’m engaged when speaking to people, I don’t ramble about special interests etcetera… my main non NT traits are that I have some weird opinions on various things and sometimes I can be blunt/literal. Must you be COMPLETELY nt to have a chance at a gf?

 

[raleqtambrobret]

@raleqtambrobret i am “non NT” but not to a severe degree, or at least I don’t think so… I know social ettiquette, I have normal body language and mannerisms, I’m engaged when speaking to people, I don’t ramble about special interests etcetera… my main non NT traits are that I have some weird opinions on various things and sometimes I can be blunt/literal. Must you be COMPLETELY nt to have a chance at a gf?

if you're actually diagnosed with aspergers then that's your answer

 

[thereallegend]

If you're aspie then that's your answer.

Also 6'1 is manlet in 2024

Go Blue wigga

 

[Soter]

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This is me. Height is 6’1, bidelt between 20 and 21 inches. Since starting this semester I’ve been on dates with 2 girls. One of them just randomly ghosted me after we hung out together and had really good conversations. The other one had a bitchy attitude and overreacted to dumb shit I said and never wanted to talk to me again. I had my first kiss at a school football game and got the girls social media… she acted flaky as fuck, noncommittal, long reply times, etcetera.

I’m confused as to why I don’t get commitment or enthusiasm even from these LTB girls. I am non NT (Asperger’s) but still know social etiquette and how to act normal. I have friends including female friends. My male and female friends, family members, people online, etcetera say I look good. Why the fuck can’t I get a girl to see me consistently or date me? Am I just more non NT than I perceive myself to be, or are people lying about my level of attractiveness?

I don't think looks are the issue. Most likely you give off a needy/desperate/insecure vibe. A bit obvious from the photos too, you don't look bad in them but you do look very tryhard. The only decent picture is the second one with the yellow letters

 

[fluoride1337]

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This is me. Height is 6’1, bidelt between 20 and 21 inches. Since starting this semester I’ve been on dates with 2 girls. One of them just randomly ghosted me after we hung out together and had really good conversations. The other one had a bitchy attitude and overreacted to dumb shit I said and never wanted to talk to me again. I had my first kiss at a school football game and got the girls social media… she acted flaky as fuck, noncommittal, long reply times, etcetera.

I’m confused as to why I don’t get commitment or enthusiasm even from these LTB girls. I am non NT (Asperger’s) but still know social etiquette and how to act normal. I have friends including female friends. My male and female friends, family members, people online, etcetera say I look good. Why the fuck can’t I get a girl to see me consistently or date me? Am I just more non NT than I perceive myself to be, or are people lying about my level of attractiveness?

Looks are fine, especially to pull MTBs. People will cope about this but getting commitment from college foids is harder than just slaying. Fratmaxxing makes slaying even easier. If you are dead set on getting a gf, I'm assuming that you're using dating apps, and these pictures would be bad to use on there. Selfies on dating apps = death

 

[twojei]

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This is me. Height is 6’1, bidelt between 20 and 21 inches. Since starting this semester I’ve been on dates with 2 girls. One of them just randomly ghosted me after we hung out together and had really good conversations. The other one had a bitchy attitude and overreacted to dumb shit I said and never wanted to talk to me again. I had my first kiss at a school football game and got the girls social media… she acted flaky as fuck, noncommittal, long reply times, etcetera.

I’m confused as to why I don’t get commitment or enthusiasm even from these LTB girls. I am non NT (Asperger’s) but still know social etiquette and how to act normal. I have friends including female friends. My male and female friends, family members, people online, etcetera say I look good. Why the fuck can’t I get a girl to see me consistently or date me? Am I just more non NT than I perceive myself to be, or are people lying about my level of attractiveness?

Asperger!!!!!

 

[Pikabro]

A sample size of 2 seems too low to make any conclusions. If you’re 10 dates in and still getting nowhere then yeah it’s ur non-NT or something else that’s hindering you

 

[RealNinja]

I don't think looks are the issue. Most likely you give off a needy/desperate/insecure vibe. A bit obvious from the photos too, you don't look bad in them but you do look very tryhard. The only decent picture is the second one with the yellow letters

These aren’t dating app pictures especially not the last 3 lol. If I look like I’m doing the autism .org stare in the first picture it’s because the sun was in my face. You’re definitely right that women can sense insecurity though. I’m not “needy” when interacting with girls but I think I need more nonchalance and to have higher priorities