Can't make friends

[ssosa]

I'm 15 and I haven't had a real life friend in 4 years. I suck at small talk and can't even hold a conversation for more than a minute with most people. It's gotten to the point where I even feel weird talking to my father and it's embarrassing. I absolutely despise talking to extended family, neighbors, and everyone else. I couldn't talk one on one with a girl my age to save my life. I have the most online friends I ever have, but I feel the most alone I've ever felt. I don't know if I'm ND, or just weird and I don't want to just blindly self diagnose any of that. I'm very self centered and mostly just think about myself all day. Often, I try to mask myself and be outgoing and charismatic but when it matters most it always slips. I'm also a huge overthinker. Every time I get the courage to try to speak to someone I'm interested in or get to know them, I immediately think about every bad scenario that could happen. I'm not in a huge rush to make a ton of friends or anything, but I look at my situation from a third person view and I know it's bad.

 

[Brava]

I'm 15 and I haven't had a real life friend in 4 years. I suck at small talk and can't even hold a conversation for more than a minute with most people. It's gotten to the point where I even feel weird talking to my father and it's embarrassing. I absolutely despise talking to extended family, neighbors, and everyone else. I couldn't talk one on one with a girl my age to save my life. I have the most online friends I ever have, but I feel the most alone I've ever felt. I don't know if I'm ND, or just weird and I don't want to just blindly self diagnose any of that. I'm very self centered and mostly just think about myself all day. Often, I try to mask myself and be outgoing and charismatic but when it matters most it always slips. I'm also a huge overthinker. Every time I get the courage to try to speak to someone I'm interested in or get to know them, I immediately think about every bad scenario that could happen. I'm not in a huge rush to make a ton of friends or anything, but I look at my situation from a third person view and I know it's bad.

Flight would not approve

 

[dieforme]

Just gotta get out of ur zone and talk to the people around you

 

[Deleted member 335020]

ur my friend

 

[theprox]

I'm 15 and I haven't had a real life friend in 4 years. I suck at small talk and can't even hold a conversation for more than a minute with most people. It's gotten to the point where I even feel weird talking to my father and it's embarrassing. I absolutely despise talking to extended family, neighbors, and everyone else. I couldn't talk one on one with a girl my age to save my life. I have the most online friends I ever have, but I feel the most alone I've ever felt. I don't know if I'm ND, or just weird and I don't want to just blindly self diagnose any of that. I'm very self centered and mostly just think about myself all day. Often, I try to mask myself and be outgoing and charismatic but when it matters most it always slips. I'm also a huge overthinker. Every time I get the courage to try to speak to someone I'm interested in or get to know them, I immediately think about every bad scenario that could happen. I'm not in a huge rush to make a ton of friends or anything, but I look at my situation from a third person view and I know it's bad.

Invest in Pharmaceutical’s designed for anxiety, its becuase ur stressing about it way 2 much. Im the same but i use propranolol and it helps me.

Never as bad as this tho, I’ve always been able to hold conversations and have multiple friends but when it comes to females i stress and just start insulting them without it

 

[DeborahAnnWollFARTS]

Just gotta get out of ur zone and talk to the people around you

Just be Chad brooo! Being a Chad is a state of mind!
You fucking negro

 

[Outlander]

Just gotta get out of ur zone and talk to the people around you

Easy for you to say, since you probably never struggled socially

 

[dieforme]

Just be Chad brooo! Being a Chad is a state of mind!
You fucking negro

Antisocial gooner

 

[DeborahAnnWollFARTS]

Antisocial gooner

JUST BECOME CANNON FODDER AND IF YOU DON'T LIKE BEING GROUND TO MINCEMEAT YOU ARE AN INSECURE EDGELOORD OOOO

Glad that little by little people are waking up from this shit

 

[cxnz]

I'm 15 and I haven't had a real life friend in 4 years. I suck at small talk and can't even hold a conversation for more than a minute with most people. It's gotten to the point where I even feel weird talking to my father and it's embarrassing. I absolutely despise talking to extended family, neighbors, and everyone else. I couldn't talk one on one with a girl my age to save my life. I have the most online friends I ever have, but I feel the most alone I've ever felt. I don't know if I'm ND, or just weird and I don't want to just blindly self diagnose any of that. I'm very self centered and mostly just think about myself all day. Often, I try to mask myself and be outgoing and charismatic but when it matters most it always slips. I'm also a huge overthinker. Every time I get the courage to try to speak to someone I'm interested in or get to know them, I immediately think about every bad scenario that could happen. I'm not in a huge rush to make a ton of friends or anything, but I look at my situation from a third person view and I know it's bad.

The main thing you're going to have to work on is confidence. Being yourself will help you surround yourself with people that enjoy you for who you are. It will all come along eventually, you're still young and have way more then enough time to work on social skills.

 

[dawooddX]

I'm 15 and I haven't had a real life friend in 4 years. I suck at small talk and can't even hold a conversation for more than a minute with most people. It's gotten to the point where I even feel weird talking to my father and it's embarrassing. I absolutely despise talking to extended family, neighbors, and everyone else. I couldn't talk one on one with a girl my age to save my life. I have the most online friends I ever have, but I feel the most alone I've ever felt. I don't know if I'm ND, or just weird and I don't want to just blindly self diagnose any of that. I'm very self centered and mostly just think about myself all day. Often, I try to mask myself and be outgoing and charismatic but when it matters most it always slips. I'm also a huge overthinker. Every time I get the courage to try to speak to someone I'm interested in or get to know them, I immediately think about every bad scenario that could happen. I'm not in a huge rush to make a ton of friends or anything, but I look at my situation from a third person view and I know it's bad.

listen to this kid genuienly as someone who was in a similar situation and got out of it years ago

if u dont take action right now ur gonna fuck urself up EVERY DAY, it compounds

each days ends faster than the previous,time slips by,the years go by where u realize u havent made a single worthwhile memory and it gets worse

u daydream about social interactions,the ''ideal'' ppl to be around with, look into vids,creators,shows because u turn parasocial

DO SOMETHING asap. join a club whether its fucking basketball or mma or football its the best for men, ur gonna have daily interactions and it will turn into something

start mass following ppl in ur local area, talk to them, meet up with them eventually. get a job that requires interaction

i havent been on tt in a while but i think this is called exposure therapy or wtever sum bs. take action now ur gonna fuck ur young years ur gonna end up like the oldcels in this comm. being here isnt a flex.

 

[asymmetricalMoid]

listen to this kid genuienly as someone who was in a similar situation and got out of it years ago

if u dont take action right now ur gonna fuck urself up EVERY DAY, it compounds

each days ends faster than the previous,time slips by,the years go by where u realize u havent made a single worthwhile memory and it gets worse

u daydream about social interactions,the ''ideal'' ppl to be around with, look into vids,creators,shows because u turn parasocial

DO SOMETHING asap. join a club whether its fucking basketball or mma or football its the best for men, ur gonna have daily interactions and it will turn into something

start mass following ppl in ur local area, talk to them, meet up with them eventually. get a job that requires interaction

i havent been on tt in a while but i think this is called exposure therapy or wtever sum bs. take action now ur gonna fuck ur young years ur gonna end up like the oldcels in this comm. being here isnt a flex.

I got a massive cort spike from reading this