Cold approaching doesn't work for me

[Deleted member 100069]

before you come at me with "hurr durr because you're ugly", I have a decent rate of getting approached by foids on nights out. I don't go out often but I can recall dozens of instances of foids and fags coming up to me, starting the convo with complimenting my looks, asking me out etc.

I thought since I get decent results by doing literally nothing but standing around like a sperg, I could get even better success approaching foids myself, but I couldn't have been more wrong. I tried it for the first time this summer and I was completely invisible to the foids I approached. They didn't see me as a sexual being at all.

The conclusion I came to was that foids will nearly always approach a man they find attractive or give him clear IOIs, by clear IOIs I mean they'll look over, lock eye contact, smile etc, none of the other cope bullshit "IOIs".
There's almost no point of a man approaching himself. If you have to approach at all, it means she's not interested.

 

[Deleted member 77954]

You must be truly truly ugly if you get rejected in cold approaches

 

[Deleted member 100069]

You must be truly truly ugly if you get rejected in cold approaches

yeah it's over

 

[Deleted member 100069]

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[Tenshi]

How many girls did you even approach. Plus IOIs are a bit cope when it comes to approach. If you wait for IOIs to approach you're literally cucking yourself and missing oportunities.

 

[Deleted member 100069]

How many girls did you even approach. Plus IOIs are a bit cope when it comes to approach. If you wait for IOIs to approach you're literally cucking yourself and missing oportunities.

10 at least, some in the smoking area, some on the dance floor. None seemed interested.
Maybe it was a weird club though. I saw Chads dancing together in groups alone, same with foids.
Anyway, i'm never going to approach again. I lost a lot of my dignity. I'm only going to wait for foids to approach me from now on.

 

[Tenshi]

10 at least, some in the smoking area, some on the dance floor. None seemed interested.
Maybe it was a weird club though. I saw Chads dancing together in groups alone, same with foids.
Anyway, i'm never going to approach again. I lost a lot of my dignity. I'm only going to wait for foids to approach me from now on.

nigga please, you're not getting laid only doing 10 approaches even if you were chico himself.

You'd have to be extremely lucky. For most people it takes at least 100 approaches in the macro to get 1 or 2 lays. Plus night clubs are shit for approaching, it's not the early 2000s anymore girls only go to clubs these days to party with their girlfriends.

But whatever floats your boat, just know that by being a passive cuck you won't get shit + you're being a bitch.

 

[Deleted member 100069]

nigga please, you're not getting laid only doing 10 approaches even if you were chico himself.

You'd have to be extremely lucky. For most people it takes at least 100 approaches in the macro to get 1 or 2 lays. Plus night clubs are shit for approaching, it's not the early 2000s anymore girls only go to clubs these days to party with their girlfriends.

But whatever floats your boat, just know that by being a passive cuck you won't get shit + you're being a bitch.

Realistically at Chadlite level you just have to walk in, stand around for a few mins and some bitch will fling pussy at you. I consider myself strong mtn - low htn and even I can *usually* get pretty good results just standing around like an autist.
If you're approaching random LTBs and you're not getting any indicator of interest then that's a bad sign which was happening to me. Maybe there were too many Chads out, idk. It was a big city.

IMO approaching foids makes you a bitch. It's basically like walking around saying "can I have some pucci, ma'am?" I'd rather get approached and fuck LTBs than have to approach and entertain a Stacy for a chance of getting pussy.

 

[Deleted member 100069]

nigga please, you're not getting laid only doing 10 approaches even if you were chico himself.

You'd have to be extremely lucky. For most people it takes at least 100 approaches in the macro to get 1 or 2 lays. Plus night clubs are shit for approaching, it's not the early 2000s anymore girls only go to clubs these days to party with their girlfriends.

But whatever floats your boat, just know that by being a passive cuck you won't get shit + you're being a bitch.

also clubs are still the best places to slay. They may not be what they once were, but if you don't have social circle it's the only thing you can do really. Looks required are much lower than for dating apps.

 

[Tenshi]

Realistically at Chadlite level you just have to walk in, stand around for a few mins and some bitch will fling pussy at you. I consider myself strong mtn - low htn and even I can *usually* get pretty good results just standing around like an autist.
If you're approaching random LTBs and you're not getting any indicator of interest then that's a bad sign which was happening to me. Maybe there were too many Chads out, idk. It was a big city.

IMO approaching foids makes you a bitch. It's basically like walking around saying "can I have some pucci, ma'am?" I'd rather get approached and fuck LTBs than have to approach and entertain a Stacy for a chance of getting pussy.

Most cucked shit I've read today.

First cuz this is just not true. While it can happen that some women approach, most women don't. jfl at anyone who thinks women will walk up to a guy and approach him when even men (who are supposed to be tough) are shitting their pants afraid of rejection.

Second, they shouldn't. It's not their job to approach a guy. They're women, they're passive. It's the male who makes things happen, just like it's the male who's the active part during sex.

Approaching = doing what you want, regardless of what she thinks. Waiting = bitch behavior, waiting for validation, scared of disapproval.

Chasing pussy is not beta. A man go get what he wants. Approaching has nothing to do with jestering or pandering to women. Now little bitch boys scared of women wait for them to ''approve'' them. Good luck with that.

 

[Tenshi]

also clubs are still the best places to slay. They may not be what they once were, but if you don't have social circle it's the only thing you can do really. Looks required are much lower than for dating apps.

Nah it's shit, you can't barely pull chicks from clubs these days because they all got their cockblocking friends making sure she won't go home with anyone. Day game is still the best imo.

 

[Deleted member 100069]

Most cucked shit I've read today.

First cuz this is just not true. While it can happen that some women approach, most women don't. jfl at anyone who thinks women will walk up to a guy and approach him when even men (who are supposed to be tough) are shitting their pants afraid of rejection.

Second, they shouldn't. It's not their job to approach a guy. They're women, they're passive. It's the male who makes things happen, just like it's the male who's the active part during sex.

Approaching = doing what you want, regardless of what she thinks. Waiting = bitch behavior, waiting for validation, scared of disapproval.

Chasing pussy is not beta. A man go get what he wants. Approaching has nothing to do with jestering or pandering to women. Now little bitch boys scared of women wait for them to ''approve'' them. Good luck with that.

Massive cope. The truth is that only low value men approach. High value men don't because they get pussy handed to them on a silver platter. That's just how it is and you can't cope your way around it.
Chad walks up into a club and he doesn't need to walk up to bitches and ask to buy them a drink or try to "rizz them up". He just has fun, dances and inevitably some bitch will come up to him.
It's the LTN and MTNs that have to jestermaxx.
Your outdated idea of social norms doesn't change reality.

Nah it's shit, you can't barely pull chicks from clubs these days because they all got their cockblocking friends making sure she won't go home with anyone. Day game is still the best imo.

"day game"
jesus fucking christ lmao, I should have known. Are you like one of those FOB pajeets that runs after women in coffee shops and supermarkets?
Holy shit.

 

[Tenshi]

Massive cope. The truth is that only low value men approach. High value men don't because they get pussy handed to them on a silver platter. That's just how it is and you can't cope your way around it.
Chad walks up into a club and he doesn't need to walk up to bitches and ask to buy them a drink or try to "rizz them up". He just has fun, dances and inevitably some bitch will come up to him.
It's the LTN and MTNs that have to jestermaxx.
Your outdated idea of social norms doesn't change reality.

Ok, you can keep your fantasy then. Whatever helps you sleep at night.

You're still a bitch scared of women, nothing will change that.

"day game"
jesus fucking christ lmao, I should have known. Are you like one of those FOB pajeets that runs after women in coffee shops and supermarkets?
Holy shit.

Keep coping. Approaching works and will always work, as long as you're not a pussy.

 

[Shogun]

Cold approaching is retarded and has an extremely low success rate, even for good looking men

 

[New Poster]

Would need more details, but generally the point of cold approach is to get girls who are not at the club

 

[Deleted member 100069]

Ok, you can keep your fantasy then. Whatever helps you sleep at night.

You're still a bitch scared of women, nothing will change that.



Keep coping. Approaching works and will always work, as long as you're not a pussy.

It's less about whether i'm a pussy or not and more about that I don't want to stoop to the level of a fresh off the boat brown person with no idea how civilized societies work, who goes around harassing random bitches at grocery stores. It's something only socially retarded autists do.
Like I said, i'd rather slay an LTB who went out of her way to approach me than a Stacy I had to clown for.

Cold approaching is retarded and has an extremely low success rate, even for good looking men

I mean, actually good looking men have a decent success rate of getting approached. But yeah social circle will always mog.

Would need more details, but generally the point of cold approach is to get girls who are not at the club

where else? I'm talking about nightlife. I guess university could work but I wouldn't even really call that cold approaching.

 

[New Poster]

where else? I'm talking about nightlife. I guess university could work but I wouldn't even really call that cold approaching.

I approach basically anywhere, but outside coffee shops works best for me. College campuses are ideal. Nightlife blows because its the trashiest women and virtually no jb.

 

[Deleted member 100069]

I approach basically anywhere, but outside coffee shops works best for me. College campuses are ideal. Nightlife blows because its the trashiest women and virtually no jb.

Well you do you, but i'd personally never stoop that low. Whenever someone tells me they approach women in coffee shops, I immediately think of the brownest Mandeep ever.

 

[New Poster]

Well you do you, but i'd personally never stoop that low. Whenever someone tells me they approach women in coffee shops, I immediately think of the brownest Mandeep ever.

I'd never stoop to clubbing, but different strokes i guess

 

[noodlelover]

before you come at me with "hurr durr because you're ugly", I have a decent rate of getting approached by foids on nights out. I don't go out often but I can recall dozens of instances of foids and fags coming up to me, starting the convo with complimenting my looks, asking me out etc.

I thought since I get decent results by doing literally nothing but standing around like a sperg, I could get even better success approaching foids myself, but I couldn't have been more wrong. I tried it for the first time this summer and I was completely invisible to the foids I approached. They didn't see me as a sexual being at all.

The conclusion I came to was that foids will nearly always approach a man they find attractive or give him clear IOIs, by clear IOIs I mean they'll look over, lock eye contact, smile etc, none of the other cope bullshit "IOIs".
There's almost no point of a man approaching himself. If you have to approach at all, it means she's not interested.

How many approaches did you do?

 

[Deleted member 100069]

I'd never stoop to clubbing, but different strokes i guess

Stoop to what? Drinking and having fun? Every young person outside of forums goes out to parties, be it a club or a bar or a house party or a concert.

How many approaches did you do?

At least 10, probably closer to 15. Keep in mind this was the first time I ever approached at all.

 

[Tenshi]

It's less about whether i'm a pussy or not and more about that I don't want to stoop to the level of a fresh off the boat brown person with no idea how civilized societies work, who goes around harassing random bitches at grocery stores. It's something only socially retarded autists do.
Like I said, i'd rather slay an LTB who went out of her way to approach me than a Stacy I had to clown for.

So you not only are scared of girls rejecting but also you overly care about what people that you don't know thing of you? Interesting. Idk where you live, what kind of cucked society is this one that thinks talking to women is ''bad''? Are you from Sweden or smth?

Funny that you think approaching equates to jestering but ok, must be some projection. And like I said you can wait for your becky to approach you, better find yourself a seat cuz it will be a long wait.

 

[New Poster]

Stoop to what? Drinking and having fun? Every young person outside of forums goes out to parties, be it a club or a bar or a house party or a concert.

I don't want to blab to a bunch of dudes and wait five hours to get my dick wet with the town bicycle. I'd rather invite hotter girls back to my place immediately.

 

[Deleted member 100069]

So you not only are scared of girls rejecting but also you overly care about what people that you don't know thing of you? Interesting. Idk where you live, what kind of cucked society is this one that thinks talking to women is ''bad''? Are you from Sweden or smth?

Yeah, that's kind of how it works for socially adjusted people in civilized societies. There's a reason we don't defecate on the streets in Europe, for example.
Same goes for running PUA games on bitches going about their day trying to buy groceries lmao

Funny that you think approaching equates to jestering but ok, must be some projection. And like I said you can wait for your becky to approach you, better find yourself a seat cuz it will be a long wait.

Not really, it happens frequently enough like I said. I'm glad I meet the looks requirement to not have to be a jester cuck begging ma'am for a whiff of pussy.

 

[Deleted member 100069]

I don't want to blab to a bunch of dudes and wait five hours to get my dick wet with the town bicycle. I'd rather invite hotter girls back to my place immediately.

That "hotter girl" that goes back your place immediately is the same girl that gets gaped in a nightclub toilet.

 

[New Poster]

That "hotter girl" that goes back your place immediately is the same girl that gets gaped in a nightclub toilet.

The hotter girl cant even legally get in.

 

[Deleted member 100069]

The hotter girl cant even legally get in.

Were you ever a teenager, bro?
They use fake IDs jfl

 

[Eduardo DOV]

Would need more details, but generally the point of cold approach is to get girls who are not at the club

this.

The environment OP tried was very different from what others do when cold approaching. He should try on the streets.

 

[Outerz14]

Dnr subhuman

 

[New Poster]

Were you ever a teenager, bro?
They use fake IDs jfl

Bro there's no argument here. The best youngest girls are not in the clubs. They're mostly taken and you have to meet them out during the day to even have a chance. In a club, youre stuck with same 20 hoes the whole night. I see like 100 come in and out at a coffee shop in like 20 minutes.

 

[Tenshi]

Yeah, that's kind of how it works for socially adjusted people in civilized societies. There's a reason we don't defecate on the streets in Europe, for example.
Same goes for running PUA games on bitches going about their day trying to buy groceries lmao

Nah that's just you coping with the fact you're a bitch and can't talk to girls. Go follow ''society norms'' and soon you'll be even transitioning into a troon too jfl.

Absolute low t high inhib thinking.

Yeah, that's kind of how it works for socially adjusted people in civilized societies. There's a reason we don't defecate on the streets in Europe, for example.
Same goes for running PUA games on bitches going about their day trying to buy groceries lmao

Not really, it happens frequently enough like I said. I'm glad I meet the looks requirement to not have to be a jester cuck begging ma'am for a whiff of pussy.

ok then why you're even bothering approaching? Just go do your thing mr I'm too good to talk to girls. I'm sure it's working thats why you're here whining that you didn't get results after your 10 bitch ass approaches.

 

[Deleted member 100069]

this.

The environment OP tried was very different from what others do when cold approaching. He should try on the streets.

Do forum dwellers unironically go up to random bitches on the street and try to fuck them?

Like this is so retarded I actually can't comprehend how you'd even begin to go about this. How do you start the convo? You just walk up to a random bitch and say some shit like "excuse me ma'am, I couldn't help but notice your bootiful hair pls let me take you out to dinner?"
or what? I'm actually curious.

Bro there's no argument here. The best youngest girls are not in the clubs. They're mostly taken and you have to meet them out during the day to even have a chance. In a club, youre stuck with same 20 hoes the whole night. I see like 100 come in and out at a coffee shop in like 20 minutes.

The fact that you sit around keeping track of the bitches that walk in and out to get coffee says it all.
The best and youngest girl do more than get coffee.
On weekends they go out partying wherever that may be.
You're clearly going to some shitty ass clubs if you see 20 hoes the whole night.

 

[Deleted member 100069]

Nah that's just you coping with the fact you're a bitch and can't talk to girls. Go follow ''society norms'' and soon you'll be even transitioning into a troon too jfl.

Absolute low t high inhib thinking.


ok then why you're even bothering approaching? Just go do your thing mr I'm too good to talk to girls. I'm sure it's working thats why you're here whining that you didn't get results after your 10 bitch ass approaches.

low value male screeching and coping.
I made the thread to talk about my observations. That if a woman is attracted to me, she'll approach me. If she isn't, she won't.
Go beg for pussy some more.

 

[Whatever]

I don’t see it working for logistical reasons, the most she can do is consider you and that will probably end up reducing you to just another thirsty dude in her DMs.

Although one time always stands out to me. One time I was at the store and asked this girl (few years older than me but hot and exactly my type) working there where something was. Not as an approach but I just needed help. And she looked up at me and her face lit up, and as she walked me over to it she had this big smile and was asking me questions. Maybe you can approach anywhere but you have to get lucky with all these factors which makes it way easier at parties, clubs, etc. where girls go to get drunk and potentially fuck.

 

[New Poster]

The fact that you sit around keeping track of the bitches that walk in and out to get coffee says it all.
The best and youngest girl do more than get coffee.
On weekends they go out partying wherever that may be.
You're clearly going to some shitty ass clubs if you see 20 hoes the whole night.

Yes, I literally sit and count every bitch who walks in the door and then I gave you the statistical average. Yeah, you nailed it.

 

[Deleted member 100069]

I don’t see it working for logistical reasons, the most she can do is consider you and that will probably end up reducing you to just another thirsty dude in her DMs.

Although one time always stands out to me. One time I was at the store and asked this girl (few years older than me but hot and exactly my type) working there where something was. Not as an approach but I just needed help. And she looked up at me and her face lit up, and as she walked me over to it she had this big smile and was asking me questions. Maybe you can approach anywhere but you have to get lucky with all these factors which makes it way easier at parties, clubs, etc. where girls go to get drunk and potentially fuck.

yeah, i'm not saying you can never cold approach outside of nightlife, if there's an actual reason for it or the stars align and you just randomly click with someone without intending it, that's fine.
I'm making fun of the spergs that go out with the intention of approaching women at cafes to try and fuck them.
This is so incredibly autistic that I can't begin to describe it. I know actual spergs IRL who know social norms enough to not do this.
It's bizarre that there's like 3 people here genuinely thinking this is a good strategy.

Yes, I literally sit and count every bitch who walks in the door and then I gave you the statistical average. Yeah, you nailed it.

You consider it in some way or other at least.
That's bad enough.

 

[New Poster]

You consider it in some way or other at least.
That's bad enough.

You just said that more than 20 women come to clubs, so I don't even understand what distinction you're trying to draw between me and you

 

[FacialStructure404]

IOIs are schizophrenic delusions

 

[Deleted member 100069]

You just said that more than 20 women come to clubs, so I don't even understand what distinction you're trying to draw between me and you

the difference is that clubs are there for people to go and meet people and fuck. Coffee shops are for getting coffee with friends, not trying to run jeetgame. Also it's kinda obvious that clubs which aren't ass are going to have lots of women around.

 

[New Poster]

the difference is that clubs are there for people to go and meet people and fuck. Coffee shops are for getting coffee with friends, not trying to run jeetgame. Also it's kinda obvious that clubs which aren't ass are going to have lots of women around.

Yeah, you just made my point. Attractive girls dont need to meet guys. They get picked early and have plenty of options. Only the beckies and below need clubs. The only remotely hot girls there are turbosluts who you dont want anyway. Clubs fucking suck.

 

[RICHCELDOM]

we need world war 3 and have all the chads get bombed

 

[BadLuck7892]

I used to do cold approaches.

One broad agreed to come over a few days later (but brought a male friend). While the broad was over, she compared me to Jeffrey Dahmer.

Needless to say, I got no action.

 

[BadLuck7892]

we need world war 3 and have all the chads get bombed

I hate Tyrones a lot more than Chads.

At least Chad really has good looks. Tyrone looks (and acts) like an ape (yet somehow slays)

 

[BadLuck7892]

IOIs are schizophrenic delusions

I'm an autist. As a result, I've misread what I thought were IOIs before.

It's reached the point where I totally disregard IOIs.

 

[RICHCELDOM]

I hate Tyrones a lot more than Chads.

At least Chad really has good looks. Tyrone looks (and acts) like an ape (yet somehow slays)

no its not acting its looks too

 

[BadLuck7892]

I don’t see it working for logistical reasons, the most she can do is consider you and that will probably end up reducing you to just another thirsty dude in her DMs.

Although one time always stands out to me. One time I was at the store and asked this girl (few years older than me but hot and exactly my type) working there where something was. Not as an approach but I just needed help. And she looked up at me and her face lit up, and as she walked me over to it she had this big smile and was asking me questions. Maybe you can approach anywhere but you have to get lucky with all these factors which makes it way easier at parties, clubs, etc. where girls go to get drunk and potentially fuck.

Mixing alcohol with sex is questionable both legally and ethically.

 

[BadLuck7892]

Stoop to what? Drinking and having fun? Every young person outside of forums goes out to parties, be it a club or a bar or a house party or a concert.


At least 10, probably closer to 15. Keep in mind this was the first time I ever approached at all.

Night clubs and bar hopping are miserable for me. And I never went to a single high school or college party.

I'd like to go to concerts (but have no one to go with)

 

[Whatever]

Mixing alcohol with sex is questionable both legally and ethically.

Almost no one has sex sober, I think even some Chads would be virgins without drunken party environments.

 

[BadLuck7892]

It's less about whether i'm a pussy or not and more about that I don't want to stoop to the level of a fresh off the boat brown person with no idea how civilized societies work, who goes around harassing random bitches at grocery stores. It's something only socially retarded autists do.
Like I said, i'd rather slay an LTB who went out of her way to approach me than a Stacy I had to clown for.



I mean, actually good looking men have a decent success rate of getting approached. But yeah social circle will always mog.


where else? I'm talking about nightlife. I guess university could work but I wouldn't even really call that cold approaching.

That reminds me of a story.

This Indian guy I met who was here on a work visa would approach basically every broad he crossed paths with.

I'm an autist, yet even I knew how cringeworthy he was acting.

Here's where the story becomes funny: One time he asked me to be his wingman for a 5 or 6 out of 10 (on the looks scale) White woman. I agreed. The broad ended up preferring me (I even got a date with her)

 

[BadLuck7892]

Cold approaching is retarded and has an extremely low success rate, even for good looking men

As a 7/10 man who's attempted cold approaches before, you're right.