Cold Approaching During the Day

[ConspiracyTheory]

Let me preface this by saying not day game pick up nonsense. Like I'm not going to go walk around for three hours talking to strangers.

But...

Today I saw a super attractive blonde country girl at the small rural food market I go to sometimes. We exited at the same time and she climbs into a jacked up pick up flying double Canadian flags. I just know this hottie has been up in Ottawa protesting against the Canadian Dictator in Chief. I wanted to say something to her but I pussied out.

This got me thinking that my failure rate in real life cold approach can't be worse than my horrible match rate on Tinder so I might as well try right?

Is it autistic to ask someone if they have a boyfriend and then go from there?

Or would it have been good to open.with something about her being a patriot?

 

[traveler]

i ask if they are taken so i know what the next step is

 

[Deleted member 15778]

Let me preface this by saying not day game pick up nonsense. Like I'm not going to go walk around for three hours talking to strangers.

But...

Today I saw a super attractive blonde country girl at the small rural food market I go to sometimes. We exited at the same time and she climbs into a jacked up pick up flying double Canadian flags. I just know this hottie has been up in Ottawa protesting against the Canadian Dictator in Chief. I wanted to say something to her but I pussied out.

This got me thinking that my failure rate in real life cold approach can't be worse than my horrible match rate on Tinder so I might as well try right?

Nothing is worse than tinder match rate. I suggest becoming more social in general when you are out and about, saying whatever you are thinking to strangers if it relates to them.

One way to ease into it, is if you are having trouble thinking of what to say, try really hard thinking of what to say, and even if she leaves, or you go home, keep trying to think of what to say. Then when you do think of something, imagine walking over to her and saying it, or to guys, or old people, or whoever, because the goal is to become a social guy. This helps your mind get use to the idea of talking to people and slowly ease into it.

Is it autistic to ask someone if they have a boyfriend and then go from there?

Don't worry about being autistic. As long as you have a friendly vibe, don't get in her bubble, and if she's not interested, leave her alone and respect that, then you'll be fine.

Or would it have been good to open.with something about her being a patriot?

Either would be fine. Whatever pops into your head first is probably best to just say. Your brain will automatically recalibrate while your resting or sleeping, and gradually as time goes on, come up with better things to say, based on the reactions you get. You don't have to overthink this, you just have to spit out what's in your head, and keep trying when these opportunities come along.

Also she'll be judging you based on looks mostly, and then outfit, so what you say isn't too important. It's like Tinder IRL, but if you are lucky enough that she's not on tinder and doesn't have a bunch of chad lite orbiters, which some women might not have, then her standard for a guys looks will be lower, so you could make the cut off potentially.

 

[eduardkoopman]

Nothing is worse than tinder match rate. I suggest becoming more social in general when you are out and about, saying whatever you are thinking to strangers if it relates to them.

One way to ease into it, is if you are having trouble thinking of what to say, try really hard thinking of what to say, and even if she leaves, or you go home, keep trying to think of what to say. Then when you do think of something, imagine walking over to her and saying it, or to guys, or old people, or whoever, because the goal is to become a social guy. This helps your mind get use to the idea of talking to people and slowly ease into it.

Don't worry about being autistic. As long as you have a friendly vibe, don't get in her bubble, and if she's not interested, leave her alone and respect that, then you'll be fine.

Either would be fine. Whatever pops into your head first is probably best to just say. Your brain will automatically recalibrate while your resting or sleeping, and gradually as time goes on, come up with better things to say, based on the reactions you get. You don't have to overthink this, you just have to spit out what's in your head, and keep trying when these opportunities come along.

Also she'll be judging you based on looks mostly, and then outfit, so what you say isn't too important. It's like Tinder IRL, but if you are lucky enough that she's not on tinder and doesn't have a bunch of chad lite orbiters, which some women might not have, then her standard for a guys looks will be lower, so you could make the cut off potentially.

This I agree with.

With randoms. Be firstly mostly social, respectful, be kind, and leave when they give vibes they don't wanna talk with you.
If you do that, there is a small chance it will be seen as bad, harressment, etc..

After some social talk. And she into you, the convo. Than one can switch to ask for if she single, etc . Get more personal.

Talking with randoms though. Most of the time, if are normie. People will be quit anti-social.

 

[Vermilioncore]

Just do what you want

 

[MostGLSlayer]

Cold approaching is hard af. Bad vibes tbh.

 

[looksmaxxed]

i've tried the small talk segue into asking boyfriend line before. unless you're disgusting and have zero social skills, it's not going to be bad. they'll just giggle and say yes, and you can be one your way. it's going to be a numbers game unless you're 8/10 then they'll try to fuck you even if they're married

 

[eduardkoopman]

Just do what you want

i agree.

1. being socially high inhib, is not a good thing.
2. being a pua, mass approaching, being pushy, and haressing; is also not a good thing.

being in between this 2 extremes, is best. in my opinion.

Cold approaching is hard af. Bad vibes tbh.

true, was my experience as a normie doing mass appraoching 15 years ago like a pua.
alot of rejections, and getting ignored. Ocassionally it's a bit good also.

i've tried the small talk segue into asking boyfriend line before. unless you're disgusting and have zero social skills, it's not going to be bad. they'll just giggle and say yes, and you can be one your way. it's going to be a numbers game unless you're 8/10 then they'll try to fuck you even if they're married

was for me a huge numbers game also, back in tha days of doing that alot.
At my peak, I could get 1/10 ending up in a form off meetup/date/instant dates/etc.. But my lay rate was less than 1% overall.

unless you're disgusting and have zero social skills, it's not going to be bad. they'll just giggle and say yes, and you can be one your way.

Ocassionally the woman you are talking with, has zero social skills. So that also happens. It's not your fault.

Enjoys, some men that re not good looking enough. trying to hit up randoms. And pua dating coaches being GIGA pushy haressing. I hate how pua guys are haressing. If a woman is not happy to talk with you, LEAVE.

It’s easy af to approach girls and get sex from them. So easy. Ridiculously easy that you wouldn’t believe it.

It's not easy, for most guys. Like above man..

 

[AlexBrown84]

It’s easy af to approach girls and get sex from them. So easy. Ridiculously easy that you wouldn’t believe it.

 

[AlexBrown84]

Atleast cute East Asian girls are

 

[Enfant terrible]

i cold approached on my campus with decent results pre covid