Bert7
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Hello friends, I wanted to share some insights from an OldCel. I'm going to keep this short and sweet.
What are key building blocks to a healthy relationship?
-Great sex more often than not (she needs to cum)
-Healthy and balanced masculine/feminine polarity (i.e you are dominant)
-Of course looks/career/status play large factors
I'm merely trying to provide a short overview that most of us already know.
Now when all these things are in check, what can ruin it?
-Deeply repressed childhood trauma (hidden sexual abuse as a child)
If not communicated this will manifest itself in toxic ways. So partners who have this past that compartmentalize it will burn their relationships to the ground.
-Adversarial relationship with family
Blood runs thicker than water and many are loyal beyond all reason to their kin. From personal experience and watching others I have seen this tear down great couples or come very close.
-Lack of accountability
This is universal and not gender based. If you cannot take responsibility for your failures big or small, this will TANK a partnership whether it's in business or romance. I recently split with a girl and she told my colleague that it was her fault for ruining my business partnership. Hilarious as she played the victim to me about that situation for a year and a half.
-Grattitude
Being with someone who has a negative mindset will double your work load. If they are unable to effortlessly produce a list of things they're grateful for every day, that's a red flag.
-Not being able to talk about a fight after it happens/Inability to communicate clearly during an argument
When serious conversations come up, you don't want your woman shelling up and suppressing her emotions in another room and never getting them out. She's literally poisoning her body. I've met plenty of women that can be honest when shit gets real and it goes a long way in maintaining a healthy relationship.
I'll stop there, but what I'm trying to communicate here is to be selective with women you want to start a family with. Sometimes it's more than just a pretty face, and good times together.
Cliffs & Red Flags:
-Childhood trauma
-Family conflict
-No accountability
-Negative Mindset
-Poor communication
You could probably throw laziness in there too.
What are key building blocks to a healthy relationship?
-Great sex more often than not (she needs to cum)
-Healthy and balanced masculine/feminine polarity (i.e you are dominant)
-Of course looks/career/status play large factors
I'm merely trying to provide a short overview that most of us already know.
Now when all these things are in check, what can ruin it?
-Deeply repressed childhood trauma (hidden sexual abuse as a child)
If not communicated this will manifest itself in toxic ways. So partners who have this past that compartmentalize it will burn their relationships to the ground.
-Adversarial relationship with family
Blood runs thicker than water and many are loyal beyond all reason to their kin. From personal experience and watching others I have seen this tear down great couples or come very close.
-Lack of accountability
This is universal and not gender based. If you cannot take responsibility for your failures big or small, this will TANK a partnership whether it's in business or romance. I recently split with a girl and she told my colleague that it was her fault for ruining my business partnership. Hilarious as she played the victim to me about that situation for a year and a half.
-Grattitude
Being with someone who has a negative mindset will double your work load. If they are unable to effortlessly produce a list of things they're grateful for every day, that's a red flag.
-Not being able to talk about a fight after it happens/Inability to communicate clearly during an argument
When serious conversations come up, you don't want your woman shelling up and suppressing her emotions in another room and never getting them out. She's literally poisoning her body. I've met plenty of women that can be honest when shit gets real and it goes a long way in maintaining a healthy relationship.
I'll stop there, but what I'm trying to communicate here is to be selective with women you want to start a family with. Sometimes it's more than just a pretty face, and good times together.
Cliffs & Red Flags:
-Childhood trauma
-Family conflict
-No accountability
-Negative Mindset
-Poor communication
You could probably throw laziness in there too.
