Delayed attraction

[Wallenberg]

Have you ever had a situation where a girl is into you, you know it, but you aren't interested in her now. However later you realize that she was good, and get interested, but she has lost interest or found a new guy?

I have had this happen multiple times. The last time one girl asked me out 2 times, I didn't go, and when I got interested she lost interest lol, actually found a guy she's in LTR now. The looks a bit like me, lol.

 

[Deleted member 14693]

In your dreams schizo

 

[gribsufer1]

Have you ever had a situation where a girl is into you

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[Pikabro]

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Over for me

 

[A Raving Ape]

Sometimes the only thing sustaining her interest in you is your lack of interest in her. In these cases the attraction is borderline and will require a lot of effort and manipulation on your end to maintain it if you decide to pursue her. Not worth it imo.

 

[Wallenberg]

Sometimes the only thing sustaining her interest in you is your lack of interest in her. In these cases the attraction is borderline and will require a lot of effort and manipulation on your end to maintain it if you decide to pursue her. Not worth it imo.

That might be the case sometimes. However, sometimes the girl is really into you.

 

[Deleted member 21735]

i had a situation where a girl wasnt interested in me, i wasnt interested either, then i got interested in her but stilll she wasnt interested me

 

[BigJimsWornOutTires]

Have you ever had a situation where a girl is into you, you know it, but you aren't interested in her now. However later you realize that she was good, and get interested, but she has lost interest or found a new guy?

I have had this happen multiple times. The last time one girl asked me out 2 times, I didn't go, and when I got interested she lost interest lol, actually found a guy she's in LTR now. The guy resembles me a bit, lol.

I had my fair share of stalkers living in regret. It took them a while to get the message. But this one, months later, finally moved on and sent me an envelope in the mail. I opened it and it contained a slip of paper and a small ziplock bag with a gram or so of white liquid substance. There was also a label. The note said, "I found a new man! I'm in love. Cya in Hell, motherfucker. XOXOXO."

The label read, "My new man."

 

[A Raving Ape]

That might be the case sometimes. However, sometimes the girl is really into you.

It is possible that she is feigning disinterest because you seemed disinterested in her previously and she is reciprocating to not seem desperate. Or it is possible she was never interested, or genuinely has lost interest.

You need to look at contextual cues to figure this out, specifically her behavior. Actions speak way louder than words, if she SAYS she won't go out with you but her actions indicate interest then she probably still is attracted and you just need to finesse her a bit.

 

[LipstickAlley]

Have you ever had a situation where a girl is into you, you know it, but you aren't interested in her now. However later you realize that she was good, and get interested, but she has lost interest or found a new guy?

I have had this happen multiple times. The last time one girl asked me out 2 times, I didn't go, and when I got interested she lost interest lol, actually found a guy she's in LTR now. The looks a bit like me, lol.

Yeah its happened to me a few times

You turn her down because you think you can find someone better but then you end up in a giant dry spell because that “better girl” never shows up

then you try to make amends with the first girl only for her to move on

 

[Nick.Harte]

Happened to me a few times in the past and I regret regretting them.

 

[Wallenberg]

It is possible that she is feigning disinterest because you seemed disinterested in her previously and she is reciprocating to not seem desperate. Or it is possible she was never interested, or genuinely has lost interest.

You need to look at contextual cues to figure this out, specifically her behavior. Actions speak way louder than words, if she SAYS she won't go out with you but her actions indicate interest then she probably still is attracted and you just need to finesse her a bit.

In this case, she's in a relationship with a guy whose face reminds my face somewhat.

 

[Nick.Harte]

Yeah its happened to me a few times

You turn her down because you think you can find someone better but then you end up in a giant dry spell because that “better girl” never shows up

then you try to make amends with the first girl only for her to move on

Exactly, I was always simping for other girls during these times.

 

[RichardSpencel]

Wake up schizo

 

[Wallenberg]

Yeah its happened to me a few times

You turn her down because you think you can find someone better but then you end up in a giant dry spell because that “better girl” never shows up

then you try to make amends with the first girl only for her to move on

Indeed. You try to find a better girl, realize you probably won't, and then think that you should had went with that girl you turned down.

Also in this case I realized later how her personality and lifestyle matches mine quite well. She isn't that GL although fuckable of course.

 

[Wallenberg]

Yeah its happened to me a few times

You turn her down because you think you can find someone better but then you end up in a giant dry spell because that “better girl” never shows up

then you try to make amends with the first girl only for her to move on

Good post btw

 

[forevermirin]

yeah this happened to me once

 

[Wallenberg]

Yeah its happened to me a few times

You turn her down because you think you can find someone better but then you end up in a giant dry spell because that “better girl” never shows up

then you try to make amends with the first girl only for her to move on

I went on dates with other girls during that time, so yeah. You are right. You turn these girls down because you think you can find a better girl, and when you don't, you realize that oh she was actually an interesting girl. Ridiculous.

 

[LipstickAlley]

I went on dates with other girls during that time, so yeah. You are right. You turn these girls down because you think you can find a better girl, and when you don't, you realize that oh she was actually an interesting girl. Ridiculous.

Honestly I’ve learned from this and decided to give girls a chance if they are interested in me. If you’re embarrassed of your friends finding out just don’t tell them you’re seeing an unattractive girl.

I remember in high school there was a girl who liked me and would contact me constantly but I never showed interest. I was more interested in this girl who hated me unfortunately. Sadly after high school the girl who liked me moved on with a chad and I had a dry spell that lasted a few months.

I think about that sometimes and realize that even though I didn’t really like her she was better than nothing. As you get older the dating pool just gets worse and worse too and then you have uglier girls who think they’re entitled to dating you.

 

[Deleted member 18582]

Tales from the brimhaven dungeon

 

[Wallenberg]

Honestly I’ve learned from this and decided to give them a chance if they are interested in you

I remember in high school there was a girl who liked me and would contact me constantly but I never showed interest. I was more interested in this girl who hated me unfortunately. Sadly after high school the girl who liked me moved on with a chad and I had a dry spell that lasted a few months.

I think about that sometimes and realize that even though I didn’t really like her she was better than nothing. As you get older the dating pool just gets worse and worse too and then you have uglier girls who think they’re entitled to dating you.

Yeah. Of course there has to be some level of beauty in a girl - I'm not going to date landwhales etc if they are interested in me, but any I should try my luck with any decent girl who seems to have some qualities for a good LTR.