Does anyone else find compliments to not be that helpful?

[Deleted member 102253]

I've heard a lot of users talk about how desperately the crave validation. Personally, I've received mostly positive affirmation throughout my life, but I doesn't really mean much to me. I still have insecurities and am depressed on a regular basis. People say I have a lot going for me and that my confidence is low, but I don't see it. Anyone else feel the same?

 

[Deleted member 89730]

Yes low self esteem an confidence will do that.

Most people on here crave validation due to this same reason, but they don't get it, even if it's in front of there face so its just a cycle of validation seeking.

 

[Deleted member 93631]

Yeah I experienced very similar shit to you, usually it comes from low self esteem like above guy said. This almost always usually stems from parenting/childhood. Even if you are good looking, smart, talented, if you were parented this way then you will always see and act like a pathetic loser/worthless for your entire life until you fix this. Even if people complement you genuinly, tell you you are good looking, none of it matters.