Don't be afraid to to cut off Toxic People including your parents/parent, former friends, focus on self

[AscensionMan98]

A lot of times we deal with the emotional bullish that people with negative energy bring. A lot of times they can be your parents. For me growing up I hated my parents their controlling nature and constant passive agressiveness and demeaning remarks made me grow up to be high inhibition and validation craving.

I warned them many times to treat me with respect and dignity or else I would cut them off. They didn't believe me. My mom refused to apologize and we occasionally speak, more so so that I dont have to worry about them sending a cop to do some fucking welfare check. That would disturb the peace. Its more so that to me even though an apology isn't much, its something

My dad on the other hand never apologized. The stupid fuck who is not only vaccinated but boosted , that weak fuck is looking towards the omicron jab. What a weak pussy. He also refused to defend me like my mom whenever situations of me misbehaving in school occurred. He also tried to always make me a scared little bitch always talking about how little things would result in my world as I know it ending. Talking about the consequences of how me making threats in school would mean I would be fucked for life with a felony charge ( keep in mind I was a dumbs 13 year old in middle school and my dumb idea of a prank was a school shooting joke and I also said I would rig it with explosives). In the end the principal didn't find it funny but knew I was a good kid and gave me 1 week of in school suspension.

My dad said I'd be in jail. Other times I got in trouble for far less petty shit like not listening to the teachers, having an " attitude" in class, being late, and my dad would talk about how bad a kid I was. He even took me abroad and tried to get me pyschiratic help in the hopes of fixing me.

In the end my dad contributed the most to making me high inhibition and always feel rejected. Not having the total support of your parents can fuck your mental health for sure and make you validation craving as you feel your own family doesn't like you

So now that I'm out of the house for the longest time I felt forced to reply to his texts as I didn't have my own income and depended on their credit card. I felt obligated to reply. Now that I got a job after uni, I blocked that son of a bitch and let me tell you it really reduces the stress. Everytime that fucker would text me it was over some dumb shit, such as talking about how bad the scamdemic was and why I should get the jab, or how some pot stocks I invested in were crashing hard and whether I should sell. He also would keep bitching about how my job is going and how hard I have to work, as if that's the only thing in life to pursue

He never guided me on how to talk to girls, and always accused me of being a faggot because I was shy and didn't talk to girls cause I was afraid of rejection, since that fucker always didn't show love to me I felt the outside world would be the same. But the reality is the outside world can be a lot more nice then a toxic household

As for my other friends, he got me into weight lifting and once I got a aesthetic body I felt a deep gratitude towards him as he was like a big bro. But then this guy was a egotistical douche bag like my dad. If I didn't listen to his bitching about his personal life he would claim I'm selfish. He also completely lost his mind after going deep In aderall abuse ( somehow he maintained his physique to a decent degreee through smoking pot to get the munchies ). He also felt loyal to his girlfriend who is less good looking then him, and he got triggered I called him out for that ). In the end I blocked him.

It feels tough blocking people. My dad I didn't feel bad just the looks part fucked with hard. In terms of looks I definitely lucked out. I'm obviously no chad, but I can get cute bitches if I put in some reasonable effort socially and gym wise. Other people who had ugly faces can't have the same results. I thus credit my dad for the looks and that's why I feel bad. He also has had cancer and now its back. He is a dying man and now I feel bad. But I warned him so many damn times to apologize for him not raising me right, and every time he refused.

In the end I feel its karma for him raising me poorly his cancer. Now he is going to reap what he saw and I warned him to treat me with respect or else I'd cut him off. Well he is cut off and the amount of stress that goes away is a lot. When you cut off Toxic People, you gain so much mentally. Don't feel obligated to keep toxic people around out of sense of loyalty beacauer their your parent or a former good friend. If the conditions of the relationship are not healthy, then dont feel the need to keep it. Focus on your self. Hard times are coming

 

[Vermilioncore]

“Toxic”

 

[Deleted member 17997]

Unless my family are contributing to my bimax they can fuck right off, they are no different to the other 7 billion people of this world jfl

 

[Deleted member 15778]

You sound like a spoiled selfish unempathetic piece of shit and your dad sounds like a good guy who was looking out for you.

My parents never talked about the consequences of my actions because they didn't give a shit what happened to me. My dad would snap randomly and beat the shit out of me, leaving bruises for no reason.

They didn't give me fucking money, while I was a full grown adult like yours did, they kicked me out, and later during the recession I almost became homeless when I couldn't find a job.

The reason you turned out to be such a shit head, was probably because your parents spoiled you to much.

"Guide you on how to talk to girls" What the fuck? You're pathetic. Did he not teach you how to walk either?

I would give anything to have parents like yours that actually loved you. You don't know what you have.

 

[AscensionMan98]

You sound like a spoiled selfish unempathetic piece of shit and your dad sounds like a good guy who was looking out for you.

My parents never talked about the consequences of my actions because they didn't give a shit what happened to me. My dad would snap randomly and beat the shit out of me, leaving bruises for no reason.

They didn't give me fucking money, while I was a full grown adult like yours did, they kicked me out, and later during the recession I almost became homeless when I couldn't find a job.

The reason you turned out to be such a shit head, was probably because your parents spoiled you to much.

"Guide you on how to talk to girls" What the fuck? You're pathetic. Did he not teach you how to walk either?

I would give anything to have parents like yours that actually loved you. You don't know what you have.

Its fucked up what happened to you , but its personal choice. I don't benefit from negative energy that he gives.So why should I keep him around if I used them like an ATM, and now that they won't give money I don't need them. Your projecting your own negative energy to my situation.
Objectively your parents were a lot worse, but if you see the thread its about negative energy. If your parents dont support you emotionally or financially or both , then keeping them around is pointless.

 

[kalefartbomb]

I hate this "toxic" word because usually it is used by infantile people who can't handle criticism or responsibility. Your dad doesn't sound toxic he just sounds like millions of other NPC dads who fail their kids. You think you're the only one who never got taught about women? Dads don't do it anymore, they just assume teens learn that stuff naturally and the schools will teach it. They're hooked on television and mainstream media and can't really understand anyone who is unhooked to all that poison. They don't have real hobbies, only work, so they have little over which to bond with their children.

My parents were pretty decent but still they share some of the pitfalls of boomer liberal parents, the laissez-faire upbringing that was seen as progressive back then.

 

[AscensionMan98]

I hate this "toxic" word because usually it is used by infantile people who can't handle criticism or responsibility. Your dad doesn't sound toxic he just sounds like millions of other NPC dads who fail their kids. You think you're the only one who never got taught about women? Dads don't do it anymore, they just assume teens learn that stuff naturally and the schools will teach it. They're hooked on television and mainstream media and can't really understand anyone who is unhooked to all that poison. They don't have real hobbies, only work, so they have little over which to bond with their children.

My parents were pretty decent but still they share some of the pitfalls of boomer liberal parents, the laissez-faire upbringing that was seen as progressive back then.

Your biased because I used that word. Just cause some libtard happened to use it in some context doesnt mean its bad wording. And ultimately its a personal choice to keep negative people around you. You also don't know the full story. Its up to you to keep people you dislike around you. Their a drain emotionally and everyone criticizing/disliking me likely is dwelling in their own cesspool of negativity keeping shitty people around their social circle.

 

[Esteban1997]

My father IS a psychopath and a narcissist he used to Beat me Up infront of my mom and she wouldnt say a god damn thing because she was afraid he abused me pschologically to the point he made me mentally ill and now have to take medications for It he constantly insulted me infront of other people he laughed at me called me a failure and when im try to tell him he needs help he acts defensive as if he doesnt have no problems..