
Jason Voorhees
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I've faced a lot of colorism in dating, especially from brown women. As a dark-skinned brown man in India, I was constantly rejected, demeaned, and made to feel undesirable simply because of my skin tone. But when I left the country, everything changed—I finally experienced what it was like to be valued, desired, and loved. I had my first girlfriend after moving to the U.S. She was a suburban white girl and for the first time, I felt genuinely appreciated
Brown women made me believe that people like me were inherently unlovable, yet outside of India, I see dark-skinned Indian men in happy relationships with White and Asian women. However, I almost never see a beautiful brown woman regardless of her skin tone with a dark-skinned brown man.
Yes, I acknowledge that brown men can also be colorist, but that argument has been repeated endlessly. Right now, the focus is on brown women’s colorism. For too long, they’ve escaped accountability while shifting all the blame onto brown men. The reality is, if brown women treat me like a second-class option, why should I pursue them when I can be with someone who genuinely loves and accepts me as I am? This was never about self-hate—I just wanted to feel loved amd wanted a gf
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