External validation will never fix this illness

[MulattoMTN]

I've been struggling so much with self-confidence lookswise that it's literally crippled my mind and social life. I'm just waiting for the next ioi, compliment, or approach to confirm that I'm not absolutely cooked.

This forum has fucked with my sense of reality, the truth is, most people here are just mentalcels, no 2 ways about it.

I could go into detail but I had a similar validation boost type of experience today and I don't even know how to feel about it. It feels like a little high, a bit of relief but I know that if I stay in this mindframe it will NEVER be enough. And even with it I feel myself wondering if she was lying or trolling even though it makes no sense for her to have done that

Idk just food for thought. Fix your mind, fix your life.

 

[Hexmask]

Validation is the most addicting thing I have dealt with in my life. I feel you man.

 

[The Homelander]

I've been struggling so much with self-confidence lookswise that it's literally crippled my mind and social life. I'm just waiting for the next ioi, compliment, or approach to confirm that I'm not absolutely cooked.

This forum has fucked with my sense of reality, the truth is, most people here are just mentalcels, no 2 ways about it.

I could go into detail but I had a similar validation boost type of experience today and I don't even know how to feel about it. It feels like a little high, a bit of relief but I know that if I stay in this mindframe it will NEVER be enough. And even with it I feel myself wondering if she was lying or trolling even though it makes no sense for her to have done that

Idk just food for thought. Fix your mind, fix your life.

Validation is the most addicting thing I have dealt with in my life. I feel you man.

 

[T50 Demon]

My theory is you need external validation during your teens to get it out of your system.
If the urge for validation doesnt get satisfied in time it will become almost uncontrollable in your late teens and 20s

 

[actualunderstander]

Trust me bro, the external validation only works for a bit. Eventually it wears off and you need more and more especially when you get negative validation randomly. This is how narcissism works. They are addicted to eternal validation for their ego but its never enough and they always remain miserable in the end. They get highs when everything goes their way but eventually its not enough and they need more. Its the crux of the disorder. You will have to learn to validate yourself eventually.

 

[stufftodo]

My theory is you need external validation during your teens to get it out of your system.
If the urge for validation doesnt get satisfied in time it will become almost uncontrollable in your late teens and 20s

i've never felt the need for external validation growing up, is it actually that bad of an urge?

 

[superpsycho]

Validation is the most addicting thing I have dealt with in my life. I feel you man.

i would say same but i cant be addicted to something ive never had.

 

[Hexmask]

i would say same but i cant be addicted to something ive never had.

Addicted to testosterone(not a joke)

 

[MulattoMTN]

Trust me bro, the external validation only works for a bit. Eventually it wears off and you need more and more especially when you get negative validation randomly. This is how narcissism works. They are addicted to eternal validation for their ego but its never enough and they always remain miserable in the end. They get highs when everything goes their way but eventually its not enough and they need more. Its the crux of the disorder. You will have to learn to validate yourself eventually.

I think this is absolutely correct.

 

[MulattoMTN]

i've never felt the need for external validation growing up, is it actually that bad of an urge?

Its not an urge and more like a neccesity. I need it to prevent feeling shit.

 

[MulattoMTN]

My theory is you need external validation during your teens to get it out of your system.
If the urge for validation doesnt get satisfied in time it will become almost uncontrollable in your late teens and 20s

This might be true. Had an ascension around age 13 and am experiencing a second one at age 18 so this could be my problem.

 

[Bitchwhipper2]

True.

External validation is the bane of our existence