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To preface this post, I'm going to be talking about a cold and uncomfortable truth that more people need to open their eyes to, for both men and women. Since we're a women centric sub, this post will be focusing on women only.
There's a staggering trend of pickmeisha's and people who haven't developed their self confidence skills yet who cry to Reddit, other social media platforms, and anyone who'll listen in real life about how they consistently get used by men and tossed to the side. Yes, there's many men who are sociopathic who view women as disposable but there's a way to mitigate meeting men like this.
If you're not a HVW, what makes you think you're deserving of a HVM? Do you have a strong work ethic, personality, empathy, well rounded hobbies, and the ability to form a real emotional connection with someone? If the answer is no and you've got to work on those qualities, then what makes you think that a HVM will give you the time of day?
On a more superficial level, If you live an unhealthy lifestyle and aren't trying to actively change that, what makes you think you're deserving of a man that looks like a chiseled fitness model?
If you're struggling to get by and aren't trying to cultivate your skills in order to gain more meaningful employment, what makes you think you're deserving of a man that makes over 6 figures and is a workaholic?
Men who fall into these categories actively prey on insecure women who haven't realized that their self worth is not dependant on the attention of a man. Online dating in particular is the easiest way for these men to find their victims. These men will be sweet and charming at first and will have you thinking "Oh my gosh, he's so hot. Why on earth is he giving me attention and matching with me?"
Deep down, you feel it. You KNOW that this man is out of your league in some way but you decide to give it a chance. The conversation moves quickly and you agree to meet in person. He invites you a drink date (we don't accept drink dates at FDS) and you happily oblige since you haven't identified the signs of a LV sociopath yet. You go for drinks, you get intoxicated, you go back to his place (also NO DON'T DO THIS), you hook up/leave, and you never hear from him again.
We all know that a majority of men are cold and calculating, but identifying these men has never been easier than just identifying what your "league" is. These men may be out of your league in some way, and don't want to commit or put a label on it/publicize their interactions with you ever. These men rinse and repeat this scenario with many, MANY woman. We know that the number of attractive women outnumber the number of attractive men on dating apps, The top 1% of guys get more than 16% of all likes on the app Hinge, for example. This means more opportunities for the attractive men to seek out pickmeisha's who are willing to give up their self respect and sleep with them on the first date in hopes of forming anything beyond surface level.
By no means am I a model, and I've fallen victim to this before FDS when I wasn't sure of myself and my capabilities.
We can reverse this example and say that unattractive men with lots of money get targeted by women, not for their looks, but what they can provide for them. These men get used and taken to the cleaners, and then end up hating all women and assume "we're all like that." This man is clearly batting out of his league trying to get models, when he knows that he can't provide them with anything other than money,
Beware of the men that fall into the above categories and specifically target women who aren't in their league. 9 times out of 10, they're doing it from a place of wanting to gain something from you (usually sex).
To conclude, remember to continue developing yourself mentally, spirtually, emotionally and physically. Keep well rounded hobbies and a group of like minded friends around you who are willing to support you on your jouney. Exuding self confidence is crucial in cultivating meaningful relationships and avoid falling back into your pickme ways. If it's too good to be true, it probably is.
