Finding out a foid is into us RAISES more questions than it answers

[BadLuck7892]

Unfortunately, finding out a foid is into us  raises more questions than it answers.

"Into us" is a vague term.

Perhaps the foid simply thinks we have good looks (but has no desire to get involved with us).

Perhaps the foid wants casual sex.

Perhaps the foid wants to go on a date (Which raises the additional question of: If so, when and where?)

 

[BadLuck7892]

@HarmonyHunter In case you don't dare to click the link I shared, I can directly tag you

 

[HarmonyHunter]

Unfortunately, finding out a foid is into us  raises more questions than it answers.

"Into us" is a vague term.

Perhaps the foid simply thinks we have good looks (but has no desire to get involved with us).

Perhaps the foid wants casual sex.

Perhaps the foid wants to go on a date (Which raises the additional question of: If so, when and where?)

I hate to say it Thats only for you bud

 

[HarmonyHunter]

@HarmonyHunter In case you don't dare to click the link I shared, I can directly tag you

im to low inhib not to click a link
within reason

 

[BadLuck7892]

I hate to say it Thats only for you bud

No, it's true for everyone.

Imagine you find out tomorrow a foid from school is into you (since you're 16, I take it you go to school). You'd have no idea if she's simply attracted to you (but has no desire to get involved), wants casual sex, or wants to go on a date (nor would you know where and when the foid would like to go on a date)

 

[BadLuck7892]

im to low inhib not to click a link
within reason

Low inhibition. That's rare on this forum

 

[jackmaxxd]

I would also be confused abt this then i realized it's because i have low self-esteem, and still struggle with it. I'd get thoughts like "how could she possibly like me?" "there's probably something wrong with her if she likes me". It's like that one quote that goes something along the lines of I'd never want to join a club that would have me as a member

 

[HarmonyHunter]

No, it's true for everyone.

Imagine you find out tomorrow a foid from school is into you (since you're 16, I take it you go to school). You'd have no idea if she's simply attracted to you (but has no desire to get involved), wants casual sex, or wants to go on a date (nor would you know where and when the foid would like to go on a date)

I understand the point you was tryna get across now. And i do agree some IOIs are very confusing and i often dont know how to act upon them aswell .

Low inhibition. That's rare on this forum

I suppose so

 

[mewzilla]

Unfortunately, finding out a foid is into us  raises more questions than it answers.

"Into us" is a vague term.

Perhaps the foid simply thinks we have good looks (but has no desire to get involved with us).

Perhaps the foid wants casual sex.

Perhaps the foid wants to go on a date (Which raises the additional question of: If so, when and where?)

"theres probably something wrong with her if shes into me" is so true bro. do a little digging and they're always mentally unwell.

 

[BadLuck7892]

I would also be confused abt this then i realized it's because i have low self-esteem, and still struggle with it. I'd get thoughts like "how could she possibly like me?" "there's probably something wrong with her if she likes me". It's like that one quote that goes something along the lines of I'd never want to join a club that would have me as a member

Same here (the low self-esteem). At 34, my self-esteem is still shot from hearing all throughout high school that no foid will ever want me.

The fact that even after high school I've been rejected close to 100% of the time (and even the foids I've succeeded with tend to be short-lived) has contributed to my low self-esteem.

I'd also ask myself how on earth a foid could be into me, I'd think there's something wrong with her, etc.

In cases where I haven't officially found out a foid is into me, yet I've picked up on clues she's potentially into me, I typically end up convincing myself "The clue must be a figment of my imagination. After all, no foid will ever want me"

 

[BadLuck7892]

"theres probably something wrong with her if shes into me" is so true bro. do a little digging and they're always mentally unwell.

When I was 23, I fucked a homeless foid who followed me home

 

[jackmaxxd]

Same here (the low self-esteem). At 34, my self-esteem is still shot from hearing all throughout high school that no foid will ever want me.

The fact that even after high school I've been rejected close to 100% of the time (and even the foids I've succeeded with tend to be short-lived) has contributed to my low self-esteem.

I'd also ask myself how on earth a foid could be into me, I'd think there's something wrong with her, etc.

In cases where I haven't officially found out a foid is into me, yet I've picked up on clues she's potentially into me, I typically end up convincing myself "The clue must be a figment of my imagination. After all, no foid will ever want me"

Ts is so bleak bro

 

[BadLuck7892]

Ts is so bleak bro

Some neurotypical man in his 70s on Quora (who's never had a problem attracting foids according to him) didn't get why I'm so insecure.

Fuck him. If he was born autistic in my generation (and was told all throughout high school no foid will ever want him), he'd be insecure too

 

[jackmaxxd]

Some neurotypical man in his 70s on Quora (who's never had a problem attracting foids according to him) didn't get why I'm so insecure.

Fuck him. If he was born autistic in my generation (and was told all throughout high school no foid will ever want him), he'd be insecure too

Typical boomer move. He doesn't understand that our generation grew up in an entirely different world than his.

 

[BadLuck7892]

Typical boomer move. He doesn't understand that our generation grew up in an entirely different world than his.

Yeah.

And even if we remove generational differences from the equation, he doesn't comprehend the fact not everyone's lived experience is the exact same as his.

For example, he was raised in an environment where him and his sister were typically the only White kids around. So he understood racial issues from an early age. He couldn't fathom how I, as late as age 13, didn't fully understand the weight of the term nigger (I knew the term was an anti-black insult; I just didn't understand the full historical weight). To me, the word was just another swear word (no different than fuck or bitch)

The answer to why I was naive in regards to racial issues was because I was raised in a 90+% White environment. Yet my explanation fell on deaf ears to him.

 

[mewzilla]

When I was 23, I fucked a homeless foid who followed me home

nah man that's 90% your fault

 

[BadLuck7892]

nah man that's 90% your fault

I could have declined the sex (or shooed her away before we entered my apartment building). Yet I was a 23 year old male (peak sex drive) with a scarcity mentality

 

[arbiter891]

It's always transactional. Every relationship/friendship/family in this world is. No one wants anything to do with you unless there's something they want from you.

 

[BadLuck7892]

It's always transactional. Every relationship/friendship/family in this world is. No one wants anything to do with you unless there's something they want from you.

I was lucky enough to get totally free sex in college (I didn't even have to go on a date)