first school day today and

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I haven't talked to anybody, nobody approached me, and I see that female part of the class is mostly befriended with each other and male part is like 80% together too but because of my retarded anxiety and social crippling anxiety I am too high inhib to talk to anyone holy fuck its beyond over if nobody starts conversation with me, if I wont get some female friends at least from class then I'm done gonna visit gandy

 

[Deleted member 2486]

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[Deleted member 2969]

@Over

 

[KrissKross]

That’s a main way of knowing if it’s over, people not starting conversations with you. I’m sorry bro, it really is OVER, just ldar tbh

 

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I feel like I am behind everyone else now and we got 2 stacylite tier girls in class really cute plus few beckies and I cant even look at them, I just cant look because I am too anxious, there is no point in even trying if they are not interested in me.

No therapist can help me.

How can I beat my anxiety even.

That’s a main way of knowing if it’s over, people not starting conversations with you. I’m sorry bro, it really is OVER, just ldar tbh

I've been LDARing since I was 13 and now I am 23 and I have enough of this. No social skills at all I am like a wildling. Fuck ldaring I am tired of it I will just rope myself in few months if I wont get any friends or girl friends.

 

[turkproducer]

go start a convo tetard

 

[DarknLost]

You probably lack communcation skills like me,this is why you are too high inhib to talk

 

[Peachy]

That’s a main way of knowing if it’s over, people not starting conversations with you. I’m sorry bro, it really is OVER, just ldar tbh

That hits me right in the feels. I don't understand why this happens to me because looks aren't my problem. Low trust face maybe?

 

[Deleted member 2581]

oh wow someone didnt approach you?

jfl man yalls egos to big for no reason go talk to someone its that simple

if its a new school no shit no one did they dont know you nigga

 

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You probably lack communcation skills like me,this is why you are too high inhib to talk

How are you fighting this? I have 0 communication skills, all I can talk about is retarded topics related to psl and world of warcraft.

oh wow someone didnt approach you?

jfl man yalls egos to big for no reason go talk to someone its that simple

if its a new school no shit no one did they dont know you nigga

I dont know anyone either, why should I approach them? No that's not the question actually, because I dont even know what to talk about with normfags I got no interests and no knowledge about normie topics, nothing, complete lack of social skills.

go start a convo tetard

It's nearly impossible

 

[Deleted member 2227]

Is better to anyone talk to you than make bulliyng with you man.

 

[turkproducer]

How are you fighting this? I have 0 communication skills, all I can talk about is retarded topics related to psl and world of warcraft.

I dont know anyone either, why should I approach them? No that's not the question actually, because I dont even know what to talk about with normfags I got no interests and no knowledge about normie topics, nothing, complete lack of social skills.

It's nearly impossible

it’s not at all, just in your head, trust me

 

[BigBiceps]

I haven't talked to anybody, nobody approached me, and I see that female part of the class is mostly befriended with each other and male part is like 80% together too but because of my retarded anxiety and social crippling anxiety I am too high inhib to talk to anyone holy fuck its beyond over if nobody starts conversation with me, if I wont get some female friends at least from class then I'm done gonna visit gandy

You must approach people if you want friends and don't want to be the class weirdo. Only outgoing people get approached by other people.

 

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You must approach people if you want friends and don't want to be the class weirdo. Only outgoing people get approached by other people.

But how I just cant imagine myself approaching anyone and I am not even talking about girls because that's like whole new level of anxiety, approaching men is too hard for me, I dont even know when to approach them, if we wait before the class I just never sit next to anyone, during class I never sit with anyone because I dont know how to interact with people.

I am broken on fundamental level because I am ugly and there is no point in trying if you are ugly.

 

[BigBiceps]

That hits me right in the feels. I don't understand why this happens to me because looks aren't my problem. Low trust face maybe?

You're not easily approachable. Do you have angry, sad or sour face and closed posture?

 

[Peachy]

You're not easily approachable. Do you have angry, sad or sour face and closed posture?

No, I put on a happy face.

 

[Deleted member 3043]

You're not easily approachable. Do you have angry, sad or sour face and closed posture?

what does it means when you a "nothing" resting face : like unexpressive, void ?

 

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I think my neutral face expression can be some sort of sad face, or can it be that people sense my awkwardness and I just cant see it.

 

[Deleted member 616]

It is what it is

 

[Notorious]

It will get worse for every day and in no time you will be that weird person in class.

Approach people yourself TOMORROW, not in a week, NOW.

 

[fukmylyf]

I think my neutral face expression can be some sort of sad face, or can it be that people sense my awkwardness and I just cant see it.

 

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It will get worse for every day and in no time you will be that weird person in class.

Approach people yourself TOMORROW, not in a week, NOW.

It is easy to say but I literally dont know how to approach and what to talk about and how to move with conversation. I know nothing at all and I feel like these people already decided to exclude me from their circle.

 

[Notorious]

It is easy to say but I literally dont know how to approach and what to talk about and how to move with conversation. I know nothing at all and I feel like these people already decided to exclude me from their circle.

Don't be such an incel.

 

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Don't be such an incel.

Its not funny really

 

[Notorious]

Its not funny really

No, but I am (or so they say) and it was pretty easy for me in school at all levels because I learned to know 1-2 guys, made them laugh, others took notice and suddenly everyone wants to hang out with you. If you are in a group of guys, and you hold the tone, the girls will notice you, not them.

 

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No, but I am (or so they say) and it was pretty easy for me in school at all levels because I learned to know 1-2 guys, made them laugh, others took notice and suddenly everyone wants to hang out with you. If you are in a group of guys, and you hold the tone, the girls will notice you, not them.

So even if you are like let's assume above average in looks then you still need to talk to people to have girls interested in you?
I cant even start up a conversation because I have nothing to talk about to others eh

 

[Deleted member 1464]

They don't talk to you because they are intimated by your good looks bro

 

[Notorious]

So even if you are like let's assume above average in looks then you still need to talk to people to have girls interested in you?
I cant even start up a conversation because I have nothing to talk about to others eh

In school yes, when you are new at least - but if one or two girls show interest in you and interract and have a good time, other women will take notice, they are jealous human beings. In an work/office environment I've never had problems. Women usually approach me at work for help even if they probably don't need help. I used to be kind of introverted but people wanting to talk to me sometimes gave me a huge confidence boost and I have for the most part snapped out of it. Lost a bunch of weight too, which helped.

The thing about having something to talk about is to involve practical acts, it makes it a lot easier at first. It's way easier to relate and get something to talk about if you do something practical either together or something funny yourself in the pressence of others (the last part is tougher though, you need to have a feeling of what people think is funny). Gym class is a REALLY good place to start, granted you actually have to co-op (sports etc.).

 

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In school yes, when you are new at least - but if one or two girls show interest in you and interract and have a good time, other women will take notice, they are jealous human beings. In an work/office environment I've never had problems. Women usually approach me at work for help even if they probably don't need help. I used to be kind of introverted but people wanting to talk to me sometimes gave me a huge confidence boost and I have for the most part snapped out of it. Lost a bunch of weight too, which helped.

The thing about having something to talk about is to involve practical acts, it makes it a lot easier at first. It's way easier to relate and get something to talk about if you do something practical either together or something funny yourself in the pressence of others (the last part is tougher though, you need to have a feeling of what people think is funny). Gym class is a REALLY good place to start, granted you actually have to co-op (sports etc.).

Ok and what about if no girl in my life has ever shown interest in anything related to me.

 

[Notorious]

Ok and what about if no girl in my life has ever shown interest in anything related to me.

That is why you need to do everything around them and "forget" about them. Talk to guys and go from there.

Let's say a girl approached you today and you eventually become a couple and stay together for 2 years. If she leaves you, what can you go back to? Nothing, since you didn't bother to make friends. Those feelings of emptiness will result in depression for many.

Try to become friends with some dudes and create your own social circle. You are more likely to be invited to parties, bigger chance of girls taking notice of you etc. and more than anything you will probably have a good time.

Let me tell you, just like people know when they have depression rather than just being sad, social skills have cliffs to climb but once you pass one, it's a great feeling for socially awkward people, it really is, trust me. It boost confidence and happiness tremendously. Do it for yourself if anything.

 

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That is why you need to do everything around them and "forget" about them. Talk to guys and go from there.

Let's say a girl approached you today and you eventually become a couple and stay together for 2 years. If she leaves you, what can you go back to? Nothing, since you didn't bother to make friends. Those feelings of emptiness will result in depression for many.

Try to become friends with some dudes and create your own social circle. You are more likely to be invited to parties, bigger chance of girls taking notice of you etc. and more than anything you will probably have a good time.

Let me tell you, just like people know when they have depression rather than just being sad, social skills have cliffs to climb but once you pass one, it's a great feeling for socially awkward people, it really is, trust me. It boost confidence and happiness tremendously. Do it for yourself if anything.

Thanks for a good advice. I think all my social problems are related to that I think I am ugly and there is just no way I can do anything about it. If I knew I was confirmed 6/10 then my inhib would go down a lot. Unfortunately I cant get social feedback on my looks if I have no friends. I haven't talked to any girl in my class yet, I haven't talked to any girl ever actually not counting school stuff.