Foid gets fat and doesn't understand why her husband no longer wants her

[disillusioned]

TLDR: Foid used to enjoy frequent sex with husband until they got married and presumably got fat as fuck.

My husband [30M] and myself [28F] have been married 2 years and together for 5. When we first started dating we were having sex everywhere and multiple times a day. This continued for a long time and then eventually one day I started noticing when I would try to come on to him he would shut it down. This started happening more and more and eventually I noticed we would sometimes go two weeks without sex.

This has now been going on since about 5-6 months before we got married. It started to really hurt my feelings as I am a pretty sexual person and I feel like the person I knew (in a sexual sense) was no longer there. I brought this up to him the best way I knew how… kindly, not accusatory, etc. He kinda avoided answering and basically said that a marriage and relationship is much more than just sex to him and it’s not as important.

Which I obviously agree that sex isn’t the MOST important thing but it is important. I told him the only difference between Roomates and people in relationships is that one of them have sex and the other does not. He disagreed. I didn’t want to push him to hard on this so I let the conversation drop. Come to find out (just by simply asking) he does watch porn and jerks off pretty regularly. I said that’s great he has that time but it hurts my feelings that we’re not having sex as often.

He said it’s different for guys and sex and porn aren’t the same which I do agree with but it doesn’t seem fair to me. For context I look better than we did when we started dating. I am toned have lost 20 pounds do yoga 4 times a week and lift 3-4 times a week. I get about 15k steps a day and eat healthy. I have not let myself go if this is what anyone will say in the comments.

I also own my own business in the tech space and employ 14 people. I am not a lazy person, i have a great social life, I keep our house clean, I take care of our dogs. So if anyone does come saying “oh you’ve probably let yourself go and don’t do things for him” that’s just not accurate.

I would say I’m pretty attractive and honestly I find my body very hot. I walk around the house naked sometimes to try to entice him, will sleep in a sexy nightgown with no panties, try to get in the shower with him, etc. I don’t know if he’s just always stressed at work (he works in the financial field a very high stress job) or he just doesn’t find me attractive anymore. I worry because if it’s like this now what’s going to happen in 20 years from now or when (if) we have kids.

He also mentioned to me he wanted to buy a pocket pussy for his work trips and I have vibrators so I didn’t feel like I could say no but it does upset me. I don’t think it would upset me if we were having sex regularly but even when he comes back from work trips (he travels to Asia a lot for weeks at a time) he doesn’t come home and want to have sex. I usually have to start things and I don’t even feel like he enjoys it. For more context I do not think he’s cheating.

Hes a very loyal man and I have access to his phone and laptop and iPad pretty much any time if I wanted it (I’ve never gone through it fyi) we’re just both very open in that way. He also has access to all my electronics. I don’t know what to do I’m at a loss. I feel like he only wants to jerk off and use his pocket pussy and it makes me feel so weird.

I am all for porn and toys and I think everyone should be able to explore kinks and sexual desires and we’ve always been open about that stuff but this is making me feel like open and just truly angry. How can we fix our sexual relationship?

Here's the part that she's most certainly leaving out: after they got married she got fat af and now her husband doesn't want to fuck her anymore. It cannot be low libido if he's masturbating into toys, and clearly he thought she was hot originally if they used to fuck everyday. Bitch got fucking fat and now her husband is secretly raging about it but pretend it's got nothing to do with her extra rolls of fat

 

[moid_user271k]

dnr

 

[Feuerwehr]

Here's the part that she's most certainly leaving out: after they got married she got fat af and now her husband doesn't want to fuck her anymore. It cannot be low libido if he's masturbating by using toys, and clearly he thought she was hot originally if they used to fuck everyday. Bitch got fucking fat and now her husband is secretly raging about it but pretend it's got nothing to do with her extra rolls of fat

Ehhh Can you tldr everything
Im lazy

 

[Recession.]

saw reddit so dnr
that place is worse than .is

 

[sick kunt31]

is this how marriages are


if so I'm glad I'm a virgin