For those who say that therapy is cope.

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Myself, when I was, 5-6: got expelled a lot of times from school due to hitting my classmates, insulting teachers, eating chalk to get sick, etc., poor social skills, didn't know how to respect turns, etc.

Myself, when I was 7/8/9: burping and farting everywhere and all the time, hitting and bitting my classmates, couldn't hold a conversation, obsessed with videogames, impulssive, would throw the content of my bag when entering class, didn't sit in my chair (I sat in the floor), didn't have social skills, couldn't behave normally, would say mean things to people, almost repeated third grade due to bad behaviour, didn't know how to play, or how to respect turns, still had friends, for some reason, etc.

Myself, when I was 9/10: stopped burping, but was still farting, better understanding of social interactions, but I still had huge issues with it, had the first girl to crush on me (first understanding of love), stopped throwing my things in class and started to sit in my chair, still had friends, began to get better grades, but had a lot of trouble with studying (ADHD), first apparition of sexual interest (pornographic images. My parents caught me and they banned me from using the Internet. :( ), etc.

Myself with 11/12: same as 9-10, but with better social skills. When I was a kid, I was extroverted, but, then, the teenagers years came.

Myself with 12/13: was still farting and eating my boogers, so people began to bully me. I got into a legal fight because I was cyber bullied. I almost murdered a classmate by trying to hit him with a plate on his head. I was stopped, thankfully (this happen within the first months). After the first trimester, I changed: I developed some better social skills, stopped farting (this happened due to an intolerance towards milk) and eating my boogers, began to make friends, I apologised to my classmates and forgive them, but after the bullying, I began to act much less extroverted, with a bit of fear towards people, in general.

Myself, with 13/14: the same as the last months of the past year, but with improved social skills (though more introverted). Even a girl of my class said that she was amazed with how I changed and everything.

Myself, with 14/15: same as 13/14, but with better social skills, though I was treated like garbage by some guys and girls from my class because I was different. At this age I began to get into the idea of suicide. Was kind of bullied by some people for being different.

Myself, with 15 (end of therapy): my therapist (social security) thought that I was already finished (I've felt that I should've been going to therapy for more time, but meh. At 15 I began to hang out with people for the first time.

I'm here thanks to therapy. Even though I feel that I should've learnt about flirting, understanding love, identifying it, about how to take attention etc., I'm a member of society thanks to therapy. So no, therapy is not cope.

I still would like to be extroverted, but I can't anymore. At least I can be a member of society...
 
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Maybe it works for down syndromecels like you
 
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Myself, when I was 7/8/9: burping and farting everywhere and all the time, hitting and bitting my classmates, couldn't hold a conversation, obsessed with videogames, impulssive, would throw the content of my bag when entering class, didn't sit in my chair (I sat in the floor), didn't have social skills, couldn't behave normally, would say mean things to people, almost repeated third grade due to bad behaviour, didn't know how to play, or how to respect turns, still had friends, for some reason, etc.
big dick energy :oops::oops::p
 
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1) Therapy only helps to change your mindset and make you more healthy mentally if you have a mental illness that can be treated.

2) To succeed with women, you still need: 1) Looks, 2) Social Skills, 3) Confidence, 4) Opportunities.

3) To do well in life, you still need a good stable job and good money management skills.

4) So when people say that everyone should get therapy, they are wrong because that would be like saying that everyone is mentally ill.
Most people would benefit more from leanmaxxing, gymmaxxing, going out and socializing.

TL ; DR: Therapy is cope for most people but it can be really helpful for some.
 
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The bad thing of this is that every social skill that I have is "fake", and I'm still kind of socially underdeveloped.
 
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1) Therapy only helps to change your mindset and make you more healthy mentally if you have a mental illness that can be treated.

2) To succeed with women, you still need: 1) Looks, 2) Social Skills, 3) Confidence, 4) Opportunities.

3) To do well in life, you still need a good stable job and good money management skills.

4) So when people say that everyone should get therapy, they are wrong because that would be like saying that everyone is mentally ill.
Most people would benefit more from leanmaxxing, gymmaxxing, going out and socializing.

TL ; DR: Therapy is cope for most people but it can be really helpful for some.
Of course. Therapy works if you need to change something about your mindset or if you aren't mentally healthy. It helped me. I lack confidence and social skills, so meh. I need to improve these things.
 
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Of course. Therapy works if you need to change something about your mindset or if you aren't mentally healthy. It helped me. I lack confidence and social skills, so meh. I need to improve these things.
Confidence and social skills can be improved by going out more to places where you can talk to strangers and socializing as much as possible. And it's the same with dating, you'll get better at it by doing it more. Experience is the most important thing, you can't expect to be an expert on day 1, no matter how much theory you read online.

The easiest way to improve confidence and social skills though is public speaking classes, I know a guy who became really good with women after his parents made him take public speaking classes, he was so confident around women when I met him that he could flirt effortlessly with the women around him, but before he took those classes, he was as shy as most guys. This is better than cold approaching because it doesn't feel as weird, there is no risk element to it, and people treat you better than the women you would approach.

Nearly a year ago, I wanted to do it during the summer of 2020, but because of the pandemic, it became impossible, but I will definitely do it when it will be over.
 
Confidence and social skills can be improved by going out more to places where you can talk to strangers and socializing as much as possible. And it's the same with dating, you'll get better at it by doing it more. Experience is the most important thing, you can't expect to be an expert on day 1, no matter how much theory you read online.

The easiest way to improve confidence and social skills though is public speaking classes, I know a guy who became really good with women after his parents made him take public speaking classes, he was so confident around women when I met him that he could flirt effortlessly with the women around him, but before he took those classes, he was as shy as most guys. This is better than cold approaching because it doesn't feel as weird, there is no risk element to it, and people treat you better than the women you would approach.

Nearly a year ago, I wanted to do it during the summer of 2020, but because of the pandemic, it became impossible, but I will definitely do it when it will be over.
My problem is that I'm not scared of the act of talking to someone, but about their thoughts (I don't want to come up as creepy). Then, I don't know what to say, how to carry the conversation, etc. Since my mind doesn't work in a natural way, I need more time to think about what I should say and things get awkward fast. I've tried to learn some patterns of speech, but I'm not an actor.
 
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No therapy for my face and height
 
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You’re fucked in the head tbh. I prescribe a dosage of rope (in minecraft)
 
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Sounds dark triad to me
 
Of course. Therapy works if you need to change something about your mindset or if you aren't mentally healthy. It helped me. I lack confidence and social skills, so meh. I need to improve these things.
All those early behaviours you talked about, save for eating your boogers/chalk, would have actually been beneficial if you weren't autistic. Boys are supposed to be like that. Teachers now days want to tell parents it's not nornal, and they try to make em behave more like little girls.
 
Your experience sounds exactly like my cousin behaves.
It's over for you just rope nigga, i hated staying with my cousin legit the most annoying fuck i've ever dealt with.
 
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All those early behaviours you talked about, save for eating your boogers/chalk, would have actually been beneficial if you weren't autistic. Boys are supposed to be like that. Teachers now days want to tell parents it's not nornal, and they try to make em behave more like little girls.
I ate chalk because I disliked maths, so I wanted to get sick to stay outside of it. XD. I also used to bully girls and to kick their stomachs for no reason.
 
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Your experience sounds exactly like my cousin behaves.
It's over for you just rope nigga, i hated staying with my cousin legit the most annoying fuck i've ever dealt with.
I've improved a lot and I talk little nowadays. So I'm not annoying.
 
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Do you suppress your autistic tendences?
I used to, but lately I don't care anymore, since I can't be happy if I suppress who I am.
 
your parents should've beaten the shit out of you
 
Myself, when I was, 5-6: got expelled a lot of times from school due to hitting my classmates, insulting teachers, eating chalk to get sick, etc., poor social skills, didn't know how to respect turns, etc.

Myself, when I was 7/8/9: burping and farting everywhere and all the time, hitting and bitting my classmates, couldn't hold a conversation, obsessed with videogames, impulssive, would throw the content of my bag when entering class, didn't sit in my chair (I sat in the floor), didn't have social skills, couldn't behave normally, would say mean things to people, almost repeated third grade due to bad behaviour, didn't know how to play, or how to respect turns, still had friends, for some reason, etc.

Myself, when I was 9/10: stopped burping, but was still farting, better understanding of social interactions, but I still had huge issues with it, had the first girl to crush on me (first understanding of love), stopped throwing my things in class and started to sit in my chair, still had friends, began to get better grades, but had a lot of trouble with studying (ADHD), first apparition of sexual interest (pornographic images. My parents caught me and they banned me from using the Internet. :( ), etc.

Myself with 11/12: same as 9-10, but with better social skills. When I was a kid, I was extroverted, but, then, the teenagers years came.

Myself with 12/13: was still farting and eating my boogers, so people began to bully me. I got into a legal fight because I was cyber bullied. I almost murdered a classmate by trying to hit him with a plate on his head. I was stopped, thankfully (this happen within the first months). After the first trimester, I changed: I developed some better social skills, stopped farting (this happened due to an intolerance towards milk) and eating my boogers, began to make friends, I apologised to my classmates and forgive them, but after the bullying, I began to act much less extroverted, with a bit of fear towards people, in general.

Myself, with 13/14: the same as the last months of the past year, but with improved social skills (though more introverted). Even a girl of my class said that she was amazed with how I changed and everything.

Myself, with 14/15: same as 13/14, but with better social skills, though I was treated like garbage by some guys and girls from my class because I was different. At this age I began to get into the idea of suicide. Was kind of bullied by some people for being different.

Myself, with 15 (end of therapy): my therapist (social security) thought that I was already finished (I've felt that I should've been going to therapy for more time, but meh. At 15 I began to hang out with people for the first time.

I'm here thanks to therapy. Even though I feel that I should've learnt about flirting, understanding love, identifying it, about how to take attention etc., I'm a member of society thanks to therapy. So no, therapy is not cope.

I still would like to be extroverted, but I can't anymore. At least I can be a member of society...
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