Formative, vital experiences I missed out on which the window of opportunity has closed forever.

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Ages 11 - 13

This is when vital, formative experiences begin appearing. This is the cusp of puberty, when you grow from a child into a sexual being. This is when your function of a social animal extends beyond playing games. This is when deep and meaningful social bonds begin to form, and when you experience a gradual sexual awakening. This is what I missed:


• Never had a real first date or even a "date" (
• Never had friends of the opposite sex who you enter puberty with and develop with
• Never went to the cinema, got food with, had a sleepover with or went to a disco/party with my mixed-sex friend group
• Never cheekily took a first drag on a cigarette with my male friends
• Never hugged, held hands with or kissed a girl while these experiences are new to her, and new to you
• Never had a chance to explore the beginnings of sexuality alongside another female who is also just beginning to explore sexuality


Ages 14 - 17

This is like 11 - 13 but more intense. Most of the formative experiences during these years depends on you fulfilling most or all of the 11 - 13 experiences. This is when your sexuality develops further, when you begin to experiment with substances (especially alcohol), when you have parties and when you go through the most intense part of puberty and begin your path to adulthood.

• Never had a real first relationship and its subsequent break up
• Never been helped through a break up by a mixed-sex group of friends
• Being able to relate to your friends and associates about relationship woes
• Never had a first passionate kiss.
• Never had the first below-the-waste fumblings, when you make out in the bedroom and brush your hands over the clothes of a girl's clothes
• Never seen a girl in her underwear
• Never fingered a girl or been wanked off by a girl
• Never had sex with a girl
• Never had a blowjob from a girl
• Never cheekily tried a puff of weed with your mixed-sex friends at a party
• Never took a late-night trip somewhere with your friends and just goofed around
• Never became embroiled in a love triangle, both being wanted by two girls and falling out with a male friend over a girl
• Never been to a teen-friendly night club or bar
• Never fallen in with some slightly older friends and got up to mischief with them
• Never sexted with a girl
• Never sent nudes to a girl or received nudes back
• Never experienced the excitement, anticipation and trepidation of your first real serious date.
• Never experienced the attendant fussing over your appearance, the jovial jostling of your family and friends.
• Never got drunk with a random girl at a party and made out for ages on the sofa before laughing about it the next day


Ages 18 -21


This is when you fully emerge from puberty and become an adult.

• Never been to an adult night club or bar ( or, have been to one and had the most shittiest experience ever)
• Never went through the promiscuous phase when you date, kiss and fuck many women over a short space of time when your hormones are raging
• Never been through 3+ serious relationships at this point
• Never experimented with drugs such as getting battered off weed, MDMA, coke or anything else
• Never had a high one night stand with a hot as fuck wasted girl you pick up at a club
• Never had a FWB
• Never had a "best friend" femoid who you bond with more than other people in your mixed-sex friend group
• Never volunteered with friends
• Never had your fill of women, done pretty much everything sexually you'd want to do which lays the ground for a serious LTR at some future point
• Never had a threesome or got a woman to dress up in fancy lingerie for you

I have never had and can never have these formative experiences.


I will never escape inceldom because everybody my age has completed all of these experiences and can live a normal life. Even if I do escape inceldom and somehow deceive a woman into thinking I have had a normal life, I will never be happy because it will always be on my mind that I have never done these things and she has, and I will be jealous of her and will begin to hate her for it. I already hate her for it. I have done nothing. It's too late for me. I will never know or have the fulfillment that a healthy sex life can bring. I will never be able to do these things. It's too late. Life is a living decay. I am an empty shell of a man and nothing can fill me up.


I didn't have any of these experiences because women and normies would not let me. I was not sufficiently attractive to be deemed a social creature. Instead, I was used as a tool for normies to gain social points by abusing and ridiculing. I was like an arcade machine they put abuse into and got tokens out, which they could exchange for social esteem. This is why I hate them all. This is what I mean when I say the positive reinforcement you get just by being attractive matters.
 
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ITS OVER
 
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Without fulfilling some of these lost experiences we will never grow up. What normies call Peter Pan syndrome is just a symptom of undersocialization. I'm still a 15 year old boy in terms of character development
 
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Without fulfilling some of these lost experiences we will never grow up. What normies call Peter Pan syndrome is just a symptom of undersocialization. I'm still a 15 year old boy in terms of character development
At some point I couldn't take it anymore and shut myself in my house years down the drain spent with animu and vidya coping

Yep normies call me childish but they were the ones who rejected me and turned me into this in the first place
 
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it's cause you use the word cheekily
 
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shii i gotta get rhino and jaw filler asap. dont wanna miss all of this
 
LTR in 'young' age is natural norm. Marriage by 18-19 is Ideal. Fuck even 16 is fine, coz girls are reaching prime too. Modern world is cucked. These 'experiences' and rites of passages have been promoted by Jews and feminists in modern age.

I should have 2-3 wives and 10-15 children by now. Instead I have my computer and my right hand (at least the Jews provided me with copes).
 
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LTR in 'young' age is natural norm. Marriage by 18-19 is Ideal. Fuck even 16 is fine, coz girls are reaching prime too. Modern world is cucked. These 'experiences' and rites of passages have been promoted by Jews and feminists in modern age.

I should have 2-3 wives and 10-15 children by now. Instead I have my computer and my right hand (at least the Jews provided me with copes).
Ages 11 - 13

This is when vital, formative experiences begin appearing. This is the cusp of puberty, when you grow from a child into a sexual being. This is when your function of a social animal extends beyond playing games. This is when deep and meaningful social bonds begin to form, and when you experience a gradual sexual awakening. This is what I missed:


• Never had a real first date or even a "date" (
• Never had friends of the opposite sex who you enter puberty with and develop with
• Never went to the cinema, got food with, had a sleepover with or went to a disco/party with my mixed-sex friend group
• Never cheekily took a first drag on a cigarette with my male friends
• Never hugged, held hands with or kissed a girl while these experiences are new to her, and new to you
• Never had a chance to explore the beginnings of sexuality alongside another female who is also just beginning to explore sexuality


Ages 14 - 17

This is like 11 - 13 but more intense. Most of the formative experiences during these years depends on you fulfilling most or all of the 11 - 13 experiences. This is when your sexuality develops further, when you begin to experiment with substances (especially alcohol), when you have parties and when you go through the most intense part of puberty and begin your path to adulthood.

• Never had a real first relationship and its subsequent break up
• Never been helped through a break up by a mixed-sex group of friends
• Being able to relate to your friends and associates about relationship woes
• Never had a first passionate kiss.
• Never had the first below-the-waste fumblings, when you make out in the bedroom and brush your hands over the clothes of a girl's clothes
• Never seen a girl in her underwear
• Never fingered a girl or been wanked off by a girl
• Never had sex with a girl
• Never had a blowjob from a girl
• Never cheekily tried a puff of weed with your mixed-sex friends at a party
• Never took a late-night trip somewhere with your friends and just goofed around
• Never became embroiled in a love triangle, both being wanted by two girls and falling out with a male friend over a girl
• Never been to a teen-friendly night club or bar
• Never fallen in with some slightly older friends and got up to mischief with them
• Never sexted with a girl
• Never sent nudes to a girl or received nudes back
• Never experienced the excitement, anticipation and trepidation of your first real serious date.
• Never experienced the attendant fussing over your appearance, the jovial jostling of your family and friends.
• Never got drunk with a random girl at a party and made out for ages on the sofa before laughing about it the next day


Ages 18 -21


This is when you fully emerge from puberty and become an adult.

• Never been to an adult night club or bar ( or, have been to one and had the most shittiest experience ever)
• Never went through the promiscuous phase when you date, kiss and fuck many women over a short space of time when your hormones are raging
• Never been through 3+ serious relationships at this point
• Never experimented with drugs such as getting battered off weed, MDMA, coke or anything else
• Never had a high one night stand with a hot as fuck wasted girl you pick up at a club
• Never had a FWB
• Never had a "best friend" femoid who you bond with more than other people in your mixed-sex friend group
• Never volunteered with friends
• Never had your fill of women, done pretty much everything sexually you'd want to do which lays the ground for a serious LTR at some future point
• Never had a threesome or got a woman to dress up in fancy lingerie for you

I have never had and can never have these formative experiences.


I will never escape inceldom because everybody my age has completed all of these experiences and can live a normal life. Even if I do escape inceldom and somehow deceive a woman into thinking I have had a normal life, I will never be happy because it will always be on my mind that I have never done these things and she has, and I will be jealous of her and will begin to hate her for it. I already hate her for it. I have done nothing. It's too late for me. I will never know or have the fulfillment that a healthy sex life can bring. I will never be able to do these things. It's too late. Life is a living decay. I am an empty shell of a man and nothing can fill me up.


I didn't have any of these experiences because women and normies would not let me. I was not sufficiently attractive to be deemed a social creature. Instead, I was used as a tool for normies to gain social points by abusing and ridiculing. I was like an arcade machine they put abuse into and got tokens out, which they could exchange for social esteem. This is why I hate them all. This is what I mean when I say the positive reinforcement you get just by being attractive matters.
all of this cos soyciety is very unnatural. techno-industrial society made normies become soulless wagecucks
 
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You’re gonna miss out even more when normies start having their own families and you’re left to rot as an old single lonely wageslave.
 
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Formative years before 21 are a a meme. Your grandparents went to an all boys school and didn’t talk to a girl until they were 18, when they’re parents arranged a marriage for them.
 
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LTR in 'young' age is natural norm. Marriage by 18-19 is Ideal. Fuck even 16 is fine, coz girls are reaching prime too. Modern world is cucked. These 'experiences' and rites of passages have been promoted by Jews and feminists in modern age.

I should have 2-3 wives and 10-15 children by now. Instead I have my computer and my right hand (at least the Jews provided me with copes).
Pretty much this. None of this blackpill looksmax bullshit would matter if guys were marrying at 18 to 16 year old girls. Modern society is a scam, Kaczynski was right.
All these experiences OP is talking about are important but should ideally happen with one girl, your wife or LTR gf.
 
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And another thing i want to note is that gaming is the biggest trap for young men. Completely ruin your life rotting away being a gaymer. It's a negative feedback loop, you play games and fry your receptors while also wasting your precious youth away being anti-social, you fap which ruins your motivation to change yourself in order to get pussy and it makes you lazy and tired. Rinse and repeat, it's such a brutal trap for young men. Ban video games for anyone over 16.
 
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And another thing i want to note is that gaming is the biggest trap for young men. Completely ruin your life rotting away being a gaymer. It's a negative feedback loop, you play games and fry your receptors while also wasting your precious youth away being anti-social, you fap which ruins your motivation to change yourself in order to get pussy and it makes you lazy and tired. Rinse and repeat, it's such a brutal trap for young men. Ban video games for anyone over 16.
nah vidya + porn's not the problem, that's a conservatard boomer take. it's a systemic societal issue.
 
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nah vidya + porn's not the problem, it's a conservatard boomer take. it's a systemic issue.
It's a problem because men are staying indoors rotting using these as copes instead of changing
 
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It's a problem because men are staying indoors rotting using these as copes instead of changing
there shouldn't be a need to change in the first place because the whole premise of modern society is screwed from the uptake.
 
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Im sorry to have to tell you this but..

I think you're autistic.
 
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You’re gonna miss out even more when normies start having their own families and you’re left to rot as an old single lonely wageslave.
It seems zoomers dont want to start families from what I see
 
Pretty much this. None of this blackpill looksmax bullshit would matter if guys were marrying at 18 to 16 year old girls. Modern society is a scam, Kaczynski was right.
All these experiences OP is talking about are important but should ideally happen with one girl, your wife or LTR gf.
all of this cos soyciety is very unnatural. techno-industrial society made normies become soulless wagecucks
Word
 
Ages 11 - 13

This is when vital, formative experiences begin appearing. This is the cusp of puberty, when you grow from a child into a sexual being. This is when your function of a social animal extends beyond playing games. This is when deep and meaningful social bonds begin to form, and when you experience a gradual sexual awakening. This is what I missed:


• Never had a real first date or even a "date" (
• Never had friends of the opposite sex who you enter puberty with and develop with
• Never went to the cinema, got food with, had a sleepover with or went to a disco/party with my mixed-sex friend group
• Never cheekily took a first drag on a cigarette with my male friends
• Never hugged, held hands with or kissed a girl while these experiences are new to her, and new to you
• Never had a chance to explore the beginnings of sexuality alongside another female who is also just beginning to explore sexuality


Ages 14 - 17

This is like 11 - 13 but more intense. Most of the formative experiences during these years depends on you fulfilling most or all of the 11 - 13 experiences. This is when your sexuality develops further, when you begin to experiment with substances (especially alcohol), when you have parties and when you go through the most intense part of puberty and begin your path to adulthood.

• Never had a real first relationship and its subsequent break up
• Never been helped through a break up by a mixed-sex group of friends
• Being able to relate to your friends and associates about relationship woes
• Never had a first passionate kiss.
• Never had the first below-the-waste fumblings, when you make out in the bedroom and brush your hands over the clothes of a girl's clothes
• Never seen a girl in her underwear
• Never fingered a girl or been wanked off by a girl
• Never had sex with a girl
• Never had a blowjob from a girl
• Never cheekily tried a puff of weed with your mixed-sex friends at a party
• Never took a late-night trip somewhere with your friends and just goofed around
• Never became embroiled in a love triangle, both being wanted by two girls and falling out with a male friend over a girl
• Never been to a teen-friendly night club or bar
• Never fallen in with some slightly older friends and got up to mischief with them
• Never sexted with a girl
• Never sent nudes to a girl or received nudes back
• Never experienced the excitement, anticipation and trepidation of your first real serious date.
• Never experienced the attendant fussing over your appearance, the jovial jostling of your family and friends.
• Never got drunk with a random girl at a party and made out for ages on the sofa before laughing about it the next day


Ages 18 -21


This is when you fully emerge from puberty and become an adult.

• Never been to an adult night club or bar ( or, have been to one and had the most shittiest experience ever)
• Never went through the promiscuous phase when you date, kiss and fuck many women over a short space of time when your hormones are raging
• Never been through 3+ serious relationships at this point
• Never experimented with drugs such as getting battered off weed, MDMA, coke or anything else
• Never had a high one night stand with a hot as fuck wasted girl you pick up at a club
• Never had a FWB
• Never had a "best friend" femoid who you bond with more than other people in your mixed-sex friend group
• Never volunteered with friends
• Never had your fill of women, done pretty much everything sexually you'd want to do which lays the ground for a serious LTR at some future point
• Never had a threesome or got a woman to dress up in fancy lingerie for you

I have never had and can never have these formative experiences.


I will never escape inceldom because everybody my age has completed all of these experiences and can live a normal life. Even if I do escape inceldom and somehow deceive a woman into thinking I have had a normal life, I will never be happy because it will always be on my mind that I have never done these things and she has, and I will be jealous of her and will begin to hate her for it. I already hate her for it. I have done nothing. It's too late for me. I will never know or have the fulfillment that a healthy sex life can bring. I will never be able to do these things. It's too late. Life is a living decay. I am an empty shell of a man and nothing can fill me up.


I didn't have any of these experiences because women and normies would not let me. I was not sufficiently attractive to be deemed a social creature. Instead, I was used as a tool for normies to gain social points by abusing and ridiculing. I was like an arcade machine they put abuse into and got tokens out, which they could exchange for social esteem. This is why I hate them all. This is what I mean when I say the positive reinforcement you get just by being attractive matters.
I’ve felt this way before too, but you’ve gotta realise that it really isn’t that deep.

It seems that in your head, you’re romanticising these experiences to a bit of an autistic degree. None of these experiences mean anything if you don’t have a solid sense of identity, a sense of belonging and worth as a person.

Genuinely watch the following video and scroll through the comments a little, there is nothing specially bad about your my brother.

Besides, this is a matter of spilled milk anyway, what option do you have besides accepting this as the reality?

There are legit soo many people who die to the most autistic shit, like some nigga will randomly decide to shoot them, or they’ll drink way too much alcohol over an extremely short period of time and die to alcohol poisoning. Sometimes you’ve just gotta be glad you’re still alive lmao

Nothing wrong at all with you bro, I suffered from mental illness through most of my teens and missed out on most of these experiences too.

 
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I agree with some of it but you guys romanticize all these things too much
 
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over if you don't start smoking at 10 years old
 
it's just a meaningless checklist. what you need in life is purpose. and none of that will provide you purpose.

making money and impregnating foids then sicking nannies on them will.
 
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And another thing i want to note is that gaming is the biggest trap for young men. Completely ruin your life rotting away being a gaymer. It's a negative feedback loop, you play games and fry your receptors while also wasting your precious youth away being anti-social, you fap which ruins your motivation to change yourself in order to get pussy and it makes you lazy and tired. Rinse and repeat, it's such a brutal trap for young men. Ban video games for anyone over 16.
Dopamine detox coper, people are anti social for a reason
 
Ages 11 - 13

This is when vital, formative experiences begin appearing. This is the cusp of puberty, when you grow from a child into a sexual being. This is when your function of a social animal extends beyond playing games. This is when deep and meaningful social bonds begin to form, and when you experience a gradual sexual awakening. This is what I missed:


• Never had a real first date or even a "date" (
• Never had friends of the opposite sex who you enter puberty with and develop with
• Never went to the cinema, got food with, had a sleepover with or went to a disco/party with my mixed-sex friend group
• Never cheekily took a first drag on a cigarette with my male friends
• Never hugged, held hands with or kissed a girl while these experiences are new to her, and new to you
• Never had a chance to explore the beginnings of sexuality alongside another female who is also just beginning to explore sexuality


Ages 14 - 17

This is like 11 - 13 but more intense. Most of the formative experiences during these years depends on you fulfilling most or all of the 11 - 13 experiences. This is when your sexuality develops further, when you begin to experiment with substances (especially alcohol), when you have parties and when you go through the most intense part of puberty and begin your path to adulthood.

• Never had a real first relationship and its subsequent break up
• Never been helped through a break up by a mixed-sex group of friends
• Being able to relate to your friends and associates about relationship woes
• Never had a first passionate kiss.
• Never had the first below-the-waste fumblings, when you make out in the bedroom and brush your hands over the clothes of a girl's clothes
• Never seen a girl in her underwear
• Never fingered a girl or been wanked off by a girl
• Never had sex with a girl
• Never had a blowjob from a girl
• Never cheekily tried a puff of weed with your mixed-sex friends at a party
• Never took a late-night trip somewhere with your friends and just goofed around
• Never became embroiled in a love triangle, both being wanted by two girls and falling out with a male friend over a girl
• Never been to a teen-friendly night club or bar
• Never fallen in with some slightly older friends and got up to mischief with them
• Never sexted with a girl
• Never sent nudes to a girl or received nudes back
• Never experienced the excitement, anticipation and trepidation of your first real serious date.
• Never experienced the attendant fussing over your appearance, the jovial jostling of your family and friends.
• Never got drunk with a random girl at a party and made out for ages on the sofa before laughing about it the next day


Ages 18 -21


This is when you fully emerge from puberty and become an adult.

• Never been to an adult night club or bar ( or, have been to one and had the most shittiest experience ever)
• Never went through the promiscuous phase when you date, kiss and fuck many women over a short space of time when your hormones are raging
• Never been through 3+ serious relationships at this point
• Never experimented with drugs such as getting battered off weed, MDMA, coke or anything else
• Never had a high one night stand with a hot as fuck wasted girl you pick up at a club
• Never had a FWB
• Never had a "best friend" femoid who you bond with more than other people in your mixed-sex friend group
• Never volunteered with friends
• Never had your fill of women, done pretty much everything sexually you'd want to do which lays the ground for a serious LTR at some future point
• Never had a threesome or got a woman to dress up in fancy lingerie for you

I have never had and can never have these formative experiences.


I will never escape inceldom because everybody my age has completed all of these experiences and can live a normal life. Even if I do escape inceldom and somehow deceive a woman into thinking I have had a normal life, I will never be happy because it will always be on my mind that I have never done these things and she has, and I will be jealous of her and will begin to hate her for it. I already hate her for it. I have done nothing. It's too late for me. I will never know or have the fulfillment that a healthy sex life can bring. I will never be able to do these things. It's too late. Life is a living decay. I am an empty shell of a man and nothing can fill me up.


I didn't have any of these experiences because women and normies would not let me. I was not sufficiently attractive to be deemed a social creature. Instead, I was used as a tool for normies to gain social points by abusing and ridiculing. I was like an arcade machine they put abuse into and got tokens out, which they could exchange for social esteem. This is why I hate them all. This is what I mean when I say the positive reinforcement you get just by being attractive matters.
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