frauding/masking ur behaviour gets u nowhere imo

[fuse]

if u behave in ways you dont want to just to appear like ur an NT and attractive guy i dont think you would actually become fulfilled in life long-term

a lot of women would be able to tell that ur frauding because they have high emotional intelligence, maybe not if its just a ONS but for LTRs definitely.
also even if people validate the behaviour, you would subconsiously know that they're not validating you, only the persona you pretend to be

i think the solution is starting to behave like you truly want to and then to find people that validate that behavior. in terms of women you probably just become gl enough to the point of your non-NT behaviour not mattering to them

alternatively you could change how you want to behave but idk how you would do that. thoughts?

 

[Deleted member 33112]

what exactly do you mean by “being yourself” or embracing being non NT

 

[fuse]

what exactly do you mean by “being yourself” or embracing being non NT

trying to behave as your ideal self would instead of for short term validation

 

[Deleted member 33112]

trying to behave as your ideal self would instead of for short term validation

Why do you assume your ideal self would be non nt