friend groups in school

[ilovekolaches]

The Real Question is Do People WANT to Add You to THEIR Social Circles?

- In highschool, you're surrounded by the same few hundreds of people for years so eventually everyone knows everyone at the very least. Very easy to make friendships that last for years, even if you stop being super close over time. - College is different, thousands of people and the most...

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I want to talk about this thread because I read it and I relate to it a lot. every school year I have moved, for no particular reason. so if anyone can relate to this its me. this school year I came a week late and was naturally very popular because I'm the new kid. I have only been invited to go out by like 1 or 2 people but I talk to like a good handful of people outside of school, maybe 10. I talk in some classes and in others I don't even open my mouth to speak. I have no established friend group I hang around 2 different friend groups but I maybe only know 1 person in each of them. I do not try to make an effort to invite anybody to anything because I like the loneliness, I'd rather stay inside and literally do nothing then go out. But I still find comfort in being invited to things because it makes me feel like the people I talk to actually fw me. I don't have an interest in meeting or talking to new people.

This makes me question things. In the two friend groups do they actually like each other? Or do they like the idea of spending time together and not being alone or an outcast. Last year I had a really nice group of friends, we did a lot of things together and hanged outside of school all the time. naturally people were left out and sometimes I was and It does not feel good. I was new to the school and somehow grew really close with these people. At the end of the school year it all went to shit because of drama within our friend group caused by females which sucks.

the new school I'm going to, everybody has friend groups established already. I know why, and its because they all had known each other for years, even from kindergarten. So its naturally hard to adjust and fit in. Nobody really enjoys change, and that's probably why I'm not in one solidified friend group now. I know deep down that I wish I could had these deep and meaningful friendships that the people at my school have. I know this will not happen but its wishful thinking. I wish that I was like them, an average person. But I wish even more to have a good group of friends in person that I can relate to, whether that is relation through music taste or even logging on looksmax.org . I cannot relate to anybody so option 2 is out ruled so I'm forced to act like someone I'm not. I hope that high school next year is gonna be better because its kind of like a fresh start and not a lot of people will know eachother, and I could have a friend group of my own.


Sorry for yapping so much on this post but lmk if u guys can relate I hope so or maybe I'm just autistic

 

[Australian]

Its hard to form deep connections when you move schools often, especially when most people already have their established groups, but it’s clear you value genuine friendships, which will come with time hopefully.

 

[ThePrinceOfPersia]

yes and no, they arent alone. they are just nice, I invite the weird kids to my friend group and make them normal. they just want to see if youre funny and a nice person, maybe they might feel alone but at least theyll feel alone with their friends.

 

[ilovekolaches]

Its hard to form deep connections when you move schools often, especially when most people already have their established groups, but it’s clear you value genuine friendships, which will come with time hopefully.

I knew this girl a few months ago, we started dating on March 12 when I asked her out through my flip phone. We had a really toxic relationship with her cheating and me treating her like shit. But shes the closest I've ever felt to another human. We would've done anything for eachother like literally anything. I haven't talked to her in a while like really talked. We didnt really end on a good note over the summer but she didn't know how I felt. I wish she could know how much I love her. Shes already been dating new people and it doesn't bother me much but I miss having her around. I wish I could go back in time and restart with her, and restart with my friend group from last school year. I was much happier back then, then I am now. Not very desperate to talk to them now but gosh I should have enjoyed those times more

 

[nathan]

 

[Australian]

I knew this girl a few months ago, we started dating on March 12 when I asked her out through my flip phone. We had a really toxic relationship with her cheating and me treating her like shit. But shes the closest I've ever felt to another human. We would've done anything for eachother like literally anything. I haven't talked to her in a while like really talked. We didnt really end on a good note over the summer but she didn't know how I felt. I wish she could know how much I love her. Shes already been dating new people and it doesn't bother me much but I miss having her around. I wish I could go back in time and restart with her, and restart with my friend group from last school year. I was much happier back then, then I am now. Not very desperate to talk to them now but gosh I should have enjoyed those times more

Don’t dwell too much on her—you’re still young, and there’s plenty of time to meet new people and explore other relationships.

 

[baburam]

Its hard to form deep connections when you move schools often, especially when most people already have their established groups, but it’s clear you value genuine friendships, which will come with time hopefully.

how tf are u verified?